Sister in law going on honeymoon for 2 weeks without kids

(82 Posts)
Myrtle2012 Mon 26-May-14 14:24:37

My SiL is getting married at the end of August and going off on honeymoon for 2 weeks. It is her 2nd marriage and her child (8) is staying with her grandparents. SiL has told me that they will find this a struggle but will have a get on with it as they offered. Her partner also has a child (11) with some behavioural and learning issues. His mother currently has limited and controlled access and so he will be staying with her and an Aunt and separately another Uncle. The 11 year old has never spent more than a week apart from his Dad.
I think this is all a bit selfish especially as SiL has not been on holiday with her child, or with new family, for 3 years due to lack of effort rather than money.
To add to the mix the wedding list is only for contributions to the honeymoon.
I've tried to raise my concerns with SiL and other family members but have been fobbed off with "we deserve it"or "she's decided so that's it" or my favourite "what do you know you are not a mother".
So I turn to you......am I being unreasonable......

Waltermittythesequel Mon 26-May-14 19:02:05

If this is not just a goady post:

YABU

it's none of your business

And I can see the "no dc, no opinion" point because we've all been smug twats about parenting at some point before we were parents!

BMW6 Mon 26-May-14 19:02:27

How very dare she - report to SS quick......hmm

Chocotrekkie Mon 26-May-14 19:10:50

If you think the grandparents will struggle with the 8 year old it might be nice if you took her out for the day maybe in the middle of the 2 weeks.

They would probably welcome a day to get some things done/bit of peace without her.

Do you seriously expect them to take an 8 year old and an 11year old on honeymoon with them - that's a family holiday not a newly married couples honeymoon.

CloverHeart Mon 26-May-14 19:12:54

BORING! This is the 4th thread this month. YABU - If you are jealous then arrange something similar for you and your DH instead of bitching about other people who do hmm

DowntonTrout Mon 26-May-14 19:13:21

They probably do deserve it.

They've already decided so that's it.

And really, one day when you are a mother, you probably will understand. (And be qualified to comment)

brdgrl Mon 26-May-14 19:14:04

If DH and I had been able to afford a honeymoon, there's no way we'd have taken the DSC. They'd be off to their gran's in a heartbeat.

But anyway - YAB horribly U not for having an opinion about what you would choose to do yourself (do what you like!), but because it's none of your business what your SIL and her spouse do.

To add to the mix the wedding list is only for contributions to the honeymoon.
How does this "add to the mix"? I mean, I'm no fan of wedding registries, but what difference does it make to your OP? Were they supposed to register for gifts for the children? confused

passmethewineplease Mon 26-May-14 19:14:17

YABU, what does it even have to do with you?

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