To be annoyed about OH borrowing people money?

(66 Posts)
ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 18:13:26

Ok annoyed is an understatement atm. My dryer broke down recently, and we were to buy a new one when OH got paid. So when he got paid he borrowed money to his family without asking me (he never asks angry ) Unfortunately this just so happened to be the money for the dryer.

So today my childrens bedding needed washing and now i'm sitting at after 6 at night with soaking wet bedding trying to dry it on radiators, everyone is practically dying off the heat and lucky OH gets to escape it all by being at work hmm

I could swing for OH right now angry I also have a potty training toddler and I am about to give up on trying to dry all the washing, it just won't bloody dry.

I know this isn't massive in the grand scheme of things but I am just so fucked off. AIBU?

ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 22:18:26

QuintessentiallyQS Thank you so much thanks

QuintessentiallyQS Sun 11-May-14 22:09:21

Elle, I second Windymills sentiment. What a lovely mum you are.

Janethegirl Sun 11-May-14 21:58:05

I've ironed things to dry them in the past if I couldn't dry them outside because of the weather.

ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 21:49:11

Well I managed to get it all dry in time for bedtime. I now have to lovely clean children in their nice clean pyjamas fast asleep in their lovely fresh beds smile

Janethegirl Sun 11-May-14 21:32:50

Can you finish drying them with a hair dryer or fan heater, I know fan heaters are costly to run but as a once off it may be ok?

NearTheWindymill Sun 11-May-14 20:41:02

grin. I'm usually the hard arsed cow on here - but not to those who are doing their very best!

Motherinlawsdung Sun 11-May-14 20:36:47

Windymill, not only were your posts lovely and supportive, but you did indeed put the apostrophe in the right place at 19.25. wink thanks

ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 20:29:47

Windymill thanks I think that is one of the nicest things anyone ever said to me, it really means a lot. That is really lovely of you to offer but I'm all the way up in the north east.

listsandbudgets Sun 11-May-14 20:23:49

OP YANBU. It sounds like you rely on your drier so your DH has been really inconsiderate this time. He has to put you and children first.

That said we don't have a drier and I've never had one except briefly when I lived in a rented house where it was supplied. Drying outside on a decent day is quick otherwise I've got a clothes horse which I just hang the clothes on to dry. Big things go over the bannister. Its not as quick as outside but I've never had any problems especially if I open the windows.

Also I agree with whoever said to look in charity shops for spare bedding. Its lovely to get the children what they pick out but equally important to have the odd spare set. We needed some a couple of ngihts ago when DS exploded his nappy at 2am.

Vivacia Sun 11-May-14 19:46:21

Well, if it was me I would have avoided washing things that didn't need washing (such as bedding) or I would have used a laundrette or asked to use a friend or neighbour's drier. In your shoes it sounds as though you have family nearby, perhaps your husband could have taken some of the wet laundry 'round to the relative he lent money to.

(We only have a washer-dryer and only use the dryer in dire need).

ICanSeeTheSun Sun 11-May-14 19:42:46

Yanbu. Could you get a new one on 0% finance and pay it off ASAP

NearTheWindymill Sun 11-May-14 19:37:31

If you are anywhere near London SW19 you can come round and use mine OP.

usuallysuspect Sun 11-May-14 19:33:48

I didn't mean for today, I meant until she gets a new dryer.

It's quite blowy and sunny between showers here.

ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 19:33:02

Vivacia I don't understand why I shouldn't put the washing on confused Surely I still have to do washing even if it is hard to dry

Vivacia Sun 11-May-14 19:30:40

That's a lovely sentiment to post Windymill.

NearTheWindymill Sun 11-May-14 19:28:47

And actually, do you know something OP - your DC are really really lucky to have a mum who worries about their sheets: whether they're clean, whether they're dry, whether they have enough of them. So, just hold that though. It isn't the end of the world if they don't have them tonight but it would chuffing sad if they didn't have a mum who cared. thanks. You sound like the sort of mum many many children need and it's also rather nice that your DH cares enough about his family to lend them money.

Frankly I think you have very lucky children - sod it, grit in eye.

Bunbaker Sun 11-May-14 19:28:45

"Have you got a washing line outside?"

We have had a lot of rain today and I wouldn't have been able to dry bedding. I think a lot of the UK have had rain.

steff13 Sun 11-May-14 19:27:53

Could you use a blow dryer on the damp spots?

NearTheWindymill Sun 11-May-14 19:25:34

Can you use their old cot sheets and stuff.

Believe me OP - hard as it seems - you and DH will laugh about this in 20 years' time.

Not sure if that apostrophe is in the right place if anyone wants to come and slam me grin

usuallysuspect Sun 11-May-14 19:23:38

Have you got a washing line outside?

ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 19:22:09

In regards to the spare bedding I do plan to buy spare bedding, we moved not long ago from a flat where the children had a toddler bed and a cot as we couldn't fit in full sized single beds. Now they have single beds and they got a new set of bedding each on top of the house getting decorated and them getting new beds etc. They picked the new bedding they want just the other day but I need to wait till pay day to get it.

It's just unfortunate timing for the dryer to pack in.

Vivacia Sun 11-May-14 19:21:58

You're right to be annoyed and disappointed about his decision to lend money without you knowing.

But I don't understand why you put a load of laundry on, knowing you'd have a problem drying it.

bigkidsdidit Sun 11-May-14 19:15:46

Do you have sleeping bags hey can use for tonight?

I would be raging.

ElleDiamond Sun 11-May-14 19:15:31

It's nearly dry now just a few damp patches left. Just the rest of the washing to go...

OiYou Sun 11-May-14 19:11:50

<for next time>

We bought one nice duvet set each for both kids. But I bought a couple spares from local charity shop for like 3 pound each.

And you are not being unreasonable at all. Your family comes first every time. And you should be consulted before he spends family money

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