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about these Mums in soft play?

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BobPatandIgglePiggle Sun 11-May-14 15:55:11

Happy to be told that I am.

Took ds (2) to softplay yesterday and was in there with him (hoying myself down the slide and getting stuck in the rollers which aren't built for women like me) helping him to climb etc

2 mams came into the toddler area with babies, both women had their boots / trainers on.

I caught the eye of one and said 'excuse me, please could you take your shoes off? There are babies crawling'

One said 'yeah, in a minute' her friend said 'I've got no socks with me'

There were no staff - it's in a leisure centre and they were over the far side behind barriers

I told them that they could have anything dog shit on their shoes so could they please take them off.

They both flounced out and 1 took her boots off and came back in whilst the other made a phone call and loudly told the person on the other end of the line about the 'mardy cow at softplay who'd made her take her shoes off'

Wibu and petty to insist when it really wasn't my place?

hazeyjane Mon 12-May-14 09:13:49

sorry, zazzie not zazzle!

hazeyjane Mon 12-May-14 09:13:17

Parents in the soft play is once of my big annoyances for various reasons mentioned in PP's! If your LO is too small take them to a playgym where they aren't!

Like zazzle says I or dh have to go in, or ds wouldn't be able to get around, he loves them, they are great for helping his gross motor skills, but he is disabled.

zazzie Mon 12-May-14 08:09:03

My son wouldn't be safe on his own - not because of size but because of learning difficulties. If adults cannot go in then some disabled children would not be able to go in. I have never seen an adult causing problems in soft play but I have seen plenty of unsupervised children doing so.

BobPatandIgglePiggle Mon 12-May-14 07:47:02

Don't know what a playgym is either.

Ours charge full price for age 2+ too - surely this isn't for just the tiny toddler bit??

Hulababy Mon 12-May-14 07:43:57

Every soft play I've been to allows adults in/on with younger children. I have, over the years, been to many. Fortunately those days are over

Goldmandra Mon 12-May-14 07:39:48

If your LO is too small take them to a playgym where they aren't!

What's a playgym? We only have a soft play place and it is open to all ages. Parents of crawlers and toddlers follow them round. When they are old enough they go off on their own and parents sit on the sofas with a coffee. Everyone seems happy with that arrangement.

CaractacusPotts Mon 12-May-14 07:17:34

YWBU for being in the in the first place - there's a reason that the equipment isn't built for women like you wink

Parents in the soft play is once of my big annoyances for various reasons mentioned in PP's! If your LO is too small take them to a playgym where they aren't!

HOWEVER, YWNBU regarding the shoes! Common sense really!

treaclesoda Mon 12-May-14 07:08:26

wobbly my MIL used to take a packet of antibacterial wipes to the park and wipe the slide, climbing frame, swings etc before she would let my DD go on them. hmm

I had to point out to her that both DH and myself had been to plenty of playgrounds as children yet by some miracle had made it to our 30s without dropping dead through having touched a climbing frame.

This from a woman who complains that people bath and wash their hair far too often because 'no one did that in my day and we were all far healthier'. confused

wobblyweebles Mon 12-May-14 02:28:05

TBH I do wonder why people expect softplay to be so clean. Playparks aren't that clean, and toddlers/children play on the equipment there.

TheDetective Mon 12-May-14 00:29:46

YWNBU, but I would probably have made passive aggressive tuts or something grin.

As an aside - since this thread has gone this way (!) I don't let my 17 month old on the equipment alone - not because he can't. But so he doesn't beat up your kid, snatch their toy and make them cry, or just completely disappear off the radar. There are too many exit points for him to escape from hmm.

Toddler DS is something of a Houdini. There are several soft plays in our area, and pretty much all of them he can escape from out to the carpark. He hasn't made it outside yet, but only because I am constantly stalking keeping tabs on him. I've got to him past the gate that hasn't been closed from fucking knobheads other parents coming in or out. He could easily escape. Also, he moves so fast, and is below table/adult height. I can't get to him fast enough sometimes as others are in my way. He honestly has no sense of danger or fear. He has never stopped and looked around for me.

I regularly can be found legging it after him, removing him from behind counters and kitchens also - which is dangerous in itself.

Sorry, but if he gives me so much trouble when I am actively following him around, can you imagine what would actually happen if he was supervised from a distance. If I couldn't actually see him, I'd shit myself he'd got out.

On Saturday he disappeared between the pretty packed out tables. He didn't appear again, I started going after him, couldn't see him or find him. I headed towards the exit, because that's my first port of call when he goes missing - to stop him escaping.

Anyway. Yeah. I stay with my toddler for many reasons. Until he has any sort of understanding it will stay that way. He appears to have very little understanding of anything yet, other than 'clap hands', 'ta' (give me that dangerous object right now little child), and 'all gone'. He snatches toys - because he hasn't understood that isn't acceptable yet. And he won't understand it unless I stay with him, remove said snatched toy, give it back to other child, remind him that we don't take things off others, and apologise if the other parents are there. You know, setting a good example to him. Teaching him right from wrong.

So forgive me for going on the equipment with him, but really, it's in your childrens best interests.

I'm pretty sure my older child didn't need this level of supervision, but then we didn't use soft play til he was 3. We've been going since toddler DS was 7 months old and crawling. I am assuming by 3 he will have mastered some sort of control over his behaviours. Perhaps not. We shall see!

BobPatandIgglePiggle Mon 12-May-14 00:13:24

Cross post everything

BobPatandIgglePiggle Mon 12-May-14 00:12:26

Ds is tiny - born on 0.4 and not moved much above Mrs

He'd be bored stiff in the tiny bit and loves all the other stuff, he just needs a bit of help getting to it.

I go to softplay when it's quiet so I'm not in anyone's way.

Today I had a little girl ask me to go on the slide with her. I said I couldn't but to ask her mummy. She said 'mummy's playing on her phone' :-(

EverythingCounts Mon 12-May-14 00:09:06

YANBU. All the ones I've ever been to say take your shoes off and a good few sell socks if you are without any.

As for going in, I always went in with DS when he was that age. It is miserable I think to see a child loitering on their own looking sad when the parent is sat down ignoring them for 2 hours straight and jabbing a their mobile instead (not talking about people who take a break to do this while keeping an eye out, or who do it with older kids - I mean the ones who just ignore little ones totally for the whole time)

MrsMook Mon 12-May-14 00:01:38

I make sure I take my socks as my toddler's ambitions tend to be greater than his inside leg measurement. It's very easy for him to get stuck for the sake of a couple of inches of leg stretch, and he just needs a slight shove on the bum to help. Poor child is 9th centile, and his baby brother is 2 years younger and encroaching on the same clothes size. He had toddler corners mastered before he stopped crawling.

YANBU

BobPatandIgglePiggle Mon 12-May-14 00:00:59

Nope - ours is all joined, he fell down one of the crawl up holes today on level 2 and I was watching him. If I'd not been there he'd have been lying crying. He fell down behind a big cushion thing - no way could I have spotted him from outside and coaxed him down.

treaclesoda Mon 12-May-14 00:00:14

Only if you keep my two year old. I'm not letting him loose in something five stories high, he'd be up to the top in no time, he knows no fear!

SingSongSlummy Sun 11-May-14 23:55:11

treacle yours sounds waaaay more relaxing. Can we swap?!

treaclesoda Sun 11-May-14 23:49:25

No, fair enough, I've never heard of a soft play with carousels etc, that would probably count as a theme park round here grin My DC would love that...

The only ones I've ever been to have been a sort of warehouse type setting with a main climbing frame/slides etc which is more or less the the height of the building and a separate toddler area which is not connected to the main climbing frame.

And they all have signs up saying no one over the age of 12 is allowed on the equipment. (Or in the case of one of them, no one over the age of 8). I promise, I'm not making it up - adults genuinely couldn't fit into the toddler play area in the one that I most often go to. I love the fact that it's all toddler sized and they can safely play without adults standing waiting to catch them.

BobPatandIgglePiggle Sun 11-May-14 23:40:03

Ours has a climb hole in the toddlers bit to the big bit though...

SingSongSlummy Sun 11-May-14 23:39:50

Erm, I'm pretty sure that some of you have never been to the huge soft play centres (I'm talking 5 levels, in a massive warehouse, dodgems, carousels etc) if you'd let a 2 yr old roam free in them! Apart from helping them, you'd actually just lose them as you can't see where they are unless you're in there too!

OP YAnBU

treaclesoda Sun 11-May-14 23:37:57

The 'main' bit of my local soft play is like that, the height of a house etc, but the toddler bit is only about as tall as an adult, so it's easy to just stand up and look in.

By the time they're big enough and confident enough to go on the big equipment, I'm not bothered about watching their every move, as it's a safe, enclosed place for them to climb.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Sun 11-May-14 23:25:42

Its the same at my local centre, its floor to ceiling in a warehouse, its huge and you cant see at the back or up to the top from the ground, if under 4's wanna go in it, parents or other responsible adults, have gotta go in too.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Sun 11-May-14 23:23:55

Always take the slide!!

Mumoftwoyoungkids Sun 11-May-14 23:23:53

Hmmm - I think that people have different ideas about soft play. Where we live it is probably 25m (swimming pool length) each way and the highest bit is probably house height.

The only way to supervise is from in it.

CornishYarg Sun 11-May-14 23:13:49

YANBU about the shoes.

Re the supervision/going on the equipment, it depends on the layout of the centre. There are two small centres in our area where you can see everything from outside so I supervise 2 year old DS from there.

But our nearest one is huge (it's in a former warehouse) and large parts of it can't be seen from outside. DS can manage to make his way up to the top without help but he's too little to climb up the final step to the big slide. Other than retracing his steps, this is the only way down. So I position myself there so I can help him with the final climb and I can see him make his way up. And yes, when we leave or if I need to get to the bottom quickly for any reason, I take the slide!

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