Are these dirty habits or AIBU?

(140 Posts)
PenguinBear Sun 11-May-14 09:48:27

Some of DP's habits I find quite frankly repulsive and it's caused major rows between us.

Some of things he does which I find disgusting:
-Never washes his hands if he's done a wee
-when he empties his bowels, he'll only rinse his wiping hand with water <boak>
-this morning I caught him drinking out of the milk bottle when it's no where near empty (and he has a brown tongue atm so it means no-one else can use it now and it was a 6 Pinter) angry<boak again>
-doesn't wash himself everyday

I could go on but these are the main issues that are driving me mad. He thinks IABU and gets very defensive when I confront him.

He sounds like a walking health hazard.

CoffeeTea103 Sun 11-May-14 09:50:51

Was he always this way?

HillyHolbrook Sun 11-May-14 09:53:03

YANBU. Take him by the ankle and throw him in a pit of detol. He sounds absolutely gross! Was he always like this or has he 'let himself go?'

puntasticusername Sun 11-May-14 09:54:49

I just Googled "brown tongue". And now I feel ill. YANBU.

charlieandlola Sun 11-May-14 09:55:15

Wtf is a brown tongue ?

Sounds utterly grim

Jinty64 Sun 11-May-14 09:55:26

I couldn't live with someone like that. It's gross.

Dramatic Sun 11-May-14 09:56:04

What do you mean he has a brown tongue?

I wouldn't be happy either but they wouldn't be deal breakers.

MsVestibule Sun 11-May-14 09:56:13

The not showering every day wouldn't bother me, but the rest is absolutely rank. When did you first notice this?

Foodylicious Sun 11-May-14 09:56:48

Please list some of his good points wink

WhoNickedMyName Sun 11-May-14 09:57:19

He sounds absolutely repulsive. How can you bear to have him near you?

TheHoundsBitch Sun 11-May-14 09:57:25

Fuck me. Just reading that has made me gip. envy <-- vomface

How can you live with that?

The thing is it's inconsiderate to you (and DCs if you have them). Health wise it's awful.

He needs to see the GP about the brown tongue. How is his dental hygiene?

WhoNickedMyName Sun 11-May-14 09:59:00

I've just google imaged 'brown tongue'.

LTB.

Tinkerball Sun 11-May-14 09:59:05

Do I really want to google brown tongue?!!

It would put me off my buttered crumpets to google but what are the causes of brown tongue?

AtYourCervix Sun 11-May-14 10:00:34

Are you frequently ill?

If not then none of his slightly minging habits matter.

ShanghaiDiva Sun 11-May-14 10:01:33

Gross - LTB

Perhaps OP has built up an ox-like constitution due to living with this AYC. grin

AtYourCervix Sun 11-May-14 10:03:09

I do find a bit of squalour strengthens the immune system.

Oh yes <surveys surroundings>

I do think people should wash their hands (both of them) after using the loo though. It's for the best I think.

PollyCazaletWannabe Sun 11-May-14 10:05:16

Just googled 'brown tongue' and on ask.com someone has asked 'why do I have a black tongue' and the top reply is 'Congratulations! You are a giraffe.'
ROARING here.

TheHouseatWhoCorner Sun 11-May-14 10:05:41

Someone please tell what brown tongue us, I am trying not to Google.

OP, how long have you been together? Has he always had these habits? Does he accept they're grim but do them anyway?

Brown tongue.

WhoNickedMyName Sun 11-May-14 10:08:44

For those that don't want to google brown tongue, imagine a tongue that looks like it has a thick coating of shit on it.

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