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To think this Saturday has been a bit shit?

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catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 15:51:22

I work FT, have a 2yo and am generally knackered and have put my neck out this week. And had a stomach bug.

Any way. DSis is 6 months pg and newly single so am trying to support her.

She texted me yesterday to ask if I could spend an hour today helping her pack before DH spends his Sunday moving house for her, leaving me alone with DS for the day.

I said yes. She arrived 30 minutes late to mine to pick me up.

We get to her house and I ask her what needs to be done.

She's not sure, it's all too upsetting. Ok.

I pack up her entire kitchen, including individually bubble wrapping 978,000 glasses.

She yells at me for using too much bubble wrap. Then cries a bit.

I finish packing the kitchen.

She yells at me for doing it too quickly as this is "hard for her". Then cries a bit.

A man arrives to carry a 3 piece suite downstairs and load it on to a van. He can't do it alone. I help, nearly killing myself in the process. She yells at me for nearly knocking a clock off the wall with a three tonne sofa. Then cries a bit.

She is meant to be watching DS. She has lost him. She yells at me for being over protective for checking he is not, in fact, playing on busy main road. Then cries a bit.

THEN

I notice that whilst humping and carrying, the diamond has come out of my engagement ring sad. It can't be found. I get a little tearful. She then has a full on hormonal breakdown, shaking fist at the sky and blaming loss of my diamond on her evil ex and sobbing uncontrollably. So I end up comforting her.

Thankfully I have finished now and I am having a Mojito and feeling calmer. But FUCKING HELL.

She's lovely really and she is having a horrible time and is a bag of hormones but, I say again, fucking hell

hmm

WIBU to spend the rest of the day drinking slowly and eating chocolate

Lilaclily Sat 10-May-14 15:53:16

Blimey poor you & her

Life sucks !

kelda Sat 10-May-14 15:56:17

You certainly deserve a wine

NameChangeAnon Sat 10-May-14 15:57:24

Lots of chocolate! And do you need an emergency wine drop off?

YANBU

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 15:57:28

Thank you both

I think I will drink all the wine today. smile

I need it after this morning.

deakymom Sat 10-May-14 15:57:38

definitely chocolate wine too

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 15:57:50

Please send all spare wine this way smile

Fucking hell indeed, what a nightmare. You sound like a lovely sister though for helping her out like that and keeping quiet when she was being (understandably) so emotional and demanding.

Definitely not unreasonable at all, go ahead!

pictish Sat 10-May-14 15:58:10

Have wine

AuntieStella Sat 10-May-14 15:58:47

Yes, drink (slowly) for the rest of the day. You've clearly had a dreadful day, but I really feel for your DSis - splitting up during pg is one of the seriously shit things life throws at you.

Rant away about how you're feeling right now.

But the warmer feeling of knowing you've done the absolutely right thing in supporting her regardless will creep in and take over, and be the one that matters in the long run.

Lovestosing Sat 10-May-14 16:00:10

I'm having a shit day too. But you have my sympathies. This is truly a day from hell, hopefully never to be repeated. Chin up.

Hope the diamond turns up in the bubble wrap or down the side of the sofa at the new house.
I'd say you have definitely earned your drink and chocolate. In fact send someone to get you more.
Hope your neck gets better too.
Your poor sister too, she probably wants to cry even more because she is such a blubbering mess. I'm 8m pregnant and cried the other day as no one had put spare loo roll downstairs so had to go upstairs to get some more. My 3yo thought I was a total loon.
You sound like a lovely sister to have. winethanks

Thenapoleonofcrime Sat 10-May-14 16:00:15

Probably too late but for finding small items putting some tights on the end of the hoover and going under everything is a good tip.

Sorry you had such a shitty day.

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 16:00:52

I know - she is having a terrible time so my thread is sort of light hearted as I can't get too cross with her. But I am devastated about my engagement ring (although managed to pull myself together for her and say nice things like "If it was loose it would have come out at some point." and "It's only a bit of carbon, worse things happen at sea". Whilst howling internally.

wine wine wine

PastaandCheese Sat 10-May-14 16:00:54

You deserve wine and chocolate by the bucket. So does your sister notwithstanding the pregnancy.

YABU you should be drinking quickly

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 16:01:56

Ooh that tights idea is brilliant. I will get DH to do it tomorrow when he goes to move the rest of the furniture for her.

thanks

Linskibinski Sat 10-May-14 16:03:31

No yanbu. You must drink lots and eat crap nice food and watch good telly. You must then go to bed wake up and do it all again tomorrow. Extra pats on the back for struggling through the neck thing! I have a long term neck thing that went again last month, it's the most horrendous pain made me feel beyond weepy. You are well owed sister brownie points. thanks wine wine

aniceglassofchianti Sat 10-May-14 16:03:46

Sending cream cake as well...

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 16:04:50

I should really go and wake DS up from his nap or he will never sleep tonight but I just want to MN and drink more wine grin

Linskibinski Sat 10-May-14 16:07:05

And I really, really, really hope you find your diamond or you win the lotto and have to buy yourself a mahoosive replacement. smile

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 16:08:26

Thank you thanks

Right. Off to wake to toddling tornado

End of peace and quiet grin

MammaTJ Sat 10-May-14 18:14:01

Aw, YANBU and coming on here and having a bit of a rant is probably the best thing you could have done. Your poor sis. I am so glad you are supporting her and I am sure she is grateful too.

Things will get better for her soon. She is going to have a lovely baby in three months, so that is fabulous. One day, you will both be able to look back an laugh.

wheretoyougonow Sat 10-May-14 18:17:45

Have you got household contents insurance? Maybe you can look to see if they will cover the diamond.

Have a massive wine and you sound like a lovely sister.

catgirl1976 Sat 10-May-14 18:36:06

Thanks Mamma and where. I think I can claim on my house insurance.......fingers crossed. I think I have a valuation somewhere. It's not a hugely expensive diamond but obviously sentimentally worth everything sad

I can't wait to meet my little nephew in 3 months though smile He will make it all worth while!

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