A bit of a long story...
A woman in our street (few doors down) has an 11 year old son, we have a 6 year old DD. We are on good terms with them and happily chat to them when we see them etc. This weekend for the first time in months we've stayed around the house to do jobs at home and in garden.
Woman and her DS don't seem to go out much. This weekend my partner was doing jobs in the front garden and each time he put his head out the door, within minutes (and I mean minutes if not seconds!) woman and her DS came out for a chat. Then they watched him doing his repointing of the house. The kid didn't seem to have much to do with himself and was just fooling around the front gardens. DD who was happily helping her dad thought she wanted to join in. Fine for a little while but the boy was getting quite boisterous (he was bored). I came out and asked him if he wanted to come into our garden to play. He played quite nicely with all the toys we had etc. 10 mins later the mum comes round to ask him to come back, ends up staying 20 mins at our house chatting and commenting how my kitchen isn't as tidy as it used to be ...
Next day, same scenario. Partner continues with his repointing of the house. Woman + DS come out and watch him for a bit. Woman even said it was better than watching TV ... Then later in the day, jobs finished. Relax time. DD happily doing some stickers at the back of the garden. Knock on the door woman + DS with a couple of ladybirds in a box asking if DD would like to have a look at them. My partner answered the door and didn't know what to say so called for DD even though he was thinking she knew what ladybirds look like! Then woman and DS ask if she wants to go over and release the ladybirds in their garden(!!). Anyway o/h + DD trundle off to their house ... Back again 10 mins later.
In itself it's no bother but then I just feel that whenever they don't know what to do they come round with silly pretences to generate interaction. Over half term she knocked on the door with DS one day to tell me the gym had a reduced membership offer and I'm pretty sure it was because she thought DD was there too (she wasn't). And this time it was 2 days in a row which we felt was a bit much, esp as we don't normally have much time to ourselves at home. Am I aibu to feel hacked off? I'm a bit worried she'll keep doing that, esp now that summer is coming. She knows when we are in our garden etc...
It just seems like that woman can't get a life or organise one for herself and the kid. We never see her DS (or herself) with a friend, he doesn't play with kids his age in the street. One day we went to a craft session at our local community centre and she turned up with him (he is 11!!!). It was something like making a beetle out of the paper plate. It was obvious they were regulars at that session but I felt really sorry for the kid as he was way over the age of those attending... We are half an hour away from central London so really the world is your oyster if you want to in terms of activities, even free ones.
Don't want to be rude to them at all (esp the DS who I feel quite sorry for) but would like to be able to gently suggest that he finds entertainment elsewhere!!
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to be fed up with bored neighbour + wwyd?
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bluebirdidol · 06/05/2014 11:31
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