To let a 6yo go to the shop with friends?

(71 Posts)
Dramatic Fri 02-May-14 22:04:41

Would you or have you? My dd has been playing out in the street for a couple of years and her two friends who are a year older than her regularly go to the shop (which is about a 2 minute walk away) and she has been begging me to go with them. It's across two reasonably quiet roads (although one is a bus route) and she is very mature and sensible for her age. Am I being stupid by letting her go?

rubyslippers Fri 02-May-14 22:06:59

No way!

6 years is no where near old or sensible enough to go to the shops without a grown up

Their road sense is not well enough developed nor their sense of risk

YABVU

rubyslippers Fri 02-May-14 22:08:13

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BarbaraPalmer Fri 02-May-14 22:10:08

she'll be fine - my 7yo is going to Kavos with her mates at half-term.

Pleasejustgo Fri 02-May-14 22:12:05

I sent my toddler to Waitrose for some sprouting broccoli and gin.

Kleptronic Fri 02-May-14 22:13:11

Six years old is too young to be going anywhere without an adult, unless the age of the age of the children accompanying is over 12.

If you are real, have a word with yourself.

AgentZigzag Fri 02-May-14 22:15:16

YABU, it's not fair to make 7 YOs responsible for a 6 YO, far too young.

You're giving me ideas now Pleasejustgo grin

BelleateSebastian Fri 02-May-14 22:16:05

BarbaraPalmer hahahahahaha smile smile

TucsonGirl Fri 02-May-14 22:25:43

I think I was walking to the local shop at 6, across one road I think. And tbh I don't think it's really any dangerous today than it was back then, as long as you have taught her road sense etc. 6 might be too young I guess. 8 is certainly old enough. Maybe make her wait at least 1 more year, or walk halfway with her.

Sirzy Fri 02-May-14 22:28:00

6 is too young.

Dramatic Fri 02-May-14 22:29:09

She is 7 next month and it seems quite normal round here for young kids to be going out of the street alone or with other kids. I was apprehensive about letting her, hence posting here. Off to have a word with myself...

Kleptronic Fri 02-May-14 22:36:03

The small people cannot judge the speed of vehicles in the same way that the big people can. True scientifically determined fact.

A great many small people got, and get, away with crossing roads without being hit by vehicles before their brains were/are able to process the speed of moving vehicles.

Luck is not road sense.

RainbowSpiral Fri 02-May-14 22:45:26

too young in my opinion, unless there were no roads

AlexVause Fri 02-May-14 22:50:18

No way. Just no.

AgentZigzag Fri 02-May-14 22:50:49

It's all the different scenarios my overactive imagination I can think of that a 6/7 YO wouldn't know how to deal with that'd worry me. Not just crossing the road, but maybe someone talking to them in a plausible way (to a 6/7 YO) when actually they're more interested in them being out without an adult.

Especially if they're doing it a lot, people notice.

Dramatic Fri 02-May-14 22:53:23

So how old do you all consider to be acceptable?

blackcats73 Fri 02-May-14 22:56:37

Mine go to Gregs and buy pasties and fruit shoots for themselves. For me they but 10 bensons, lard cake and beef dripping.

bouncingbelle Fri 02-May-14 23:02:21

A few sarky answers here OP but where I live it IS fairly common to see 5/6/7 year olds at the shops on their own. Admittedly most of my friends don't allow it, but some do. Most don't have to cross the road but a few do. Several 5 year olds also walk themselves, or walk with a friend/older sibling, to school as well. It's a close-knit village as opposed to a city tho, where everyone really does know everyone, maybe it would be different in London for example.

As for how old is old enough, I would think 7 if the shop is VERY close and the child had proved they could cross a road safely when out with me, but that's just me!

Pleasejustgo Fri 02-May-14 23:03:55

Agentzigzag

I tie a very long rope around one ankle so no chance of said toddler getting lost or making me wait for my gin ��

I'm the model parent aren't I <smugface>

AgentZigzag Fri 02-May-14 23:06:28

The answer to how old is different for every child, but that doesn't help because you thought your DD was OK to go to the shop now, so I'm not sure how you'd tell when she is ready.

What is it about her that made you think she would be safe to deal with the majority of unusual situations that could plausibly happen?

You mentioned her friends were a year older, did you think that they would 'protect' her if anything was to happen?

Do you think it's fair on them to feel responsible should anything happen to her when she's with them, whether it's straight afterwards or when they're adults and can understand more complicated situations?

AgentZigzag Fri 02-May-14 23:11:04

You should get medals and shit Pleasejustgo <fact>

My youngest is 4, I reckon she could carry back at least two carrier bags of munchies and alcohol shopping.

Pleasejustgo Fri 02-May-14 23:17:25

I get enough shit from my 'wonderful' OH thanks, surpassed himself tonight he has ;), I'll take the medals and booze though. Definitely the booze, especially if it's some wines. I'm going through a Malbec phase. So yes, yes to that.

Oh, and if you balance the shopping weight evenly over the 4 years olds tiny frame he/she should be able to manage quite a bit. Think donkey loading.

I'm a bad person. <sobs in corner>

Nanny0gg Fri 02-May-14 23:18:33

Children don't even have any road sense before 7.

hippo123 Fri 02-May-14 23:22:51

My son has been going to the local shop, 2 mins away crossing one minor road since 5/6 years old.. It depends where you live, lay out of the roads etc. if you think it's ok, it's ok. There's plenty of places I wouldn't let a 6 year old walk to a shop, or 9 year old, even if it was only 2 minutes away. Thankfully I don't live in one of those places.. Your child, you area, your choice.

hippo123 Fri 02-May-14 23:24:20

My 3 year old had road sense nanny' obviously not as good as an older child but good enough. Depends on how you teach them and the kind of roads your talking about.

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