To have asked this woman to clean up?(33 Posts)
Went swimming today with my DS. Waited ages for the baby changing room to become available (he can't stand at all or sit very well by himself and the floors are always gross and verruca-ey so we can't use a normal room).
When the woman came out with her toddler who was eating crisps I immediately thought "oh no...", looked in the room which was disgusting. Soggy crisps all over the floor, the bench and the baby changing unit, half a shmushed up banana on the bench and the skin on the floor.
I said to the woman "you've left this room in a right mess" and she said "well what do you expect me to do about it?"
So I said "clean up after yourself!" And she whatevered me and walked off. I said "have some courtesy for other people around you" and she whatevered again.
So I had to struggle to clean up someone else's grossness while holding a wet, squirmy and by now quite annoyed baby.
This is not the first time this has happened, and of all the foods to feed a child in the changing rooms why crisps?!
Not keen on the idea of feeding kids actually in the changing rooms. A bf child will probably mean staying in there longer than necessary which is unfair on others waiting. As for other food; well, it's all so subjective isn't it? A bag of crisps may not seem a big deal to some, but they can leave a smell behind, plus of course not everyone cleans up meticulously. Just seems a bit of an unpleasant place to eat too, given that they're usually pretty humid, steamy places.
People are strange... You often hear people say (quite rightly) that they don't want to feel they have to hide away and bf a child in a dingy feeding room or baby changing cubicle... And yet they seem to want to make a point of feeding their child somewhere equally grim at a swimming pool
If a child is so hungry they come out of the pool literally screaming and can't wait the ten minutes it needs (if that) to dry and dress, then I think they're being kept too long In the pool. It should be quite possible to dry, dress and go eat outside or if its cold, in the cafe/ spectator area which is properly set up for it.
Our local pool now has 'no eating in the changing rooms' signs so clearly it's been an issue there...
I think there is a case for management refusing to let people like this use their facilities again, unless the reason they didn't clean up is that an ambulance was called!
Oddly the individuals I've known to be so dirty when out and about are the most anal about mess in their own homes. mentally disturbed I think.
You really can't expect much more from an adult who 'whatevers'.
Eating in a changing room is akin to eating in the bathroom as far as I'm concerned and bits of crisps on the floor. Absolutely not on.
I bet she doesn't know what flip flops are either. As other posters have said, feral woman.
She was rude and self entitled.
You were right to confront her - but the rub is that someone so self absorbed wouldn't have even registered you point
I had a similar situation but what was left on the floor was a dirty nappy. Total refusal to clean up. Awful.
Why didn't she just give the dc a drink and then food after they had left the change room.
Plain pom bears (yes, I know) are the best toddler crisps. No colouring, barely any flavouring, and they don't crumble into a million tiny pieces.
I would merrily not give my toddler a snack after swimming, but you would get to listen to him cry and wail and have a tantrum because he's hungry. Swimming makes me starving too. The problem wasn't the food, it was the stupid woman not cleaning up and then being a rude cow when it was pointed out to her.
I gave the DC Organix crisps once. I was finding orange parts of their skin for days.
I feed the DC in the changing rooms. They are 3 and 1, ravenous after swimming and my husband is a world champion ditherer. By we always leave the room clean!
woodland why are they a poor choice on every level? Everything on moderation, right? And I don't think DD having a packet of 'crisps' (like I said, usually organix or similar) once a fortnight ish after a swimming session is going to do her much harm.
I am also one who shoves food at ds in the changing room. I see nothing wrong with it and as long long as you clean up i don't see an issue (altho there has never been anything to clean up if i'm honest). It is lunch time when we get out, i change ds first, he sits and nicely eats his sandwich and a biscuit while i get dressed, then he naps in the buggy on the walk home/while i shop/run errands.
Oh, I know being hungry for 10 minutes isn't going to harm them. And the majority of times she doesn't have snacks between meals, and if she gets peckish 10 minutes, even 30 minutes before a meal of course I make her wait so she does get into the habit of waiting patiently.
There's just something about swimming, she goes straight from showing no signs of hunger, to absolutely distraught, inconsolable, meltdown stage, and skips the vague whingy bit that usually comes in between. If I didn't give her a snack straight after swimming I can guarantee she will scream non stop until she gets one. This isn't temper or trying to get her own way, I'm convinced it's genuine hunger because it's the only time she displays it, normally she would ask for a snack, I say 'no' and distract her with something else, and that's the end of it. I think it's a combination of the exercise and the fact that it's her usual dinner time by the time we get out of the pool.
The fact that it means I can get her to sit still for 5 minutes while I change and pack bags etc is a bonus!
PS I don't know if it makes a difference, but DD sits on the (wipe clean) changing table or bench while she eats her snack, she is not allowed to wander round with food. So when she's done, quick baby wipe to her hands and the surface she's sitting on, and done. Not that she drops much, she's way too hungry for that!
Suggestion above is best - make a complaint (in writing) with photos to the pool and get them to put up a sign.
Fwiw I always take an extra towel to stand or change baby on as well as flip flops for me. Even if someone hadn't left crisps everywhere I still think pools are filthy and I bet the baby change never gets cleaned!!
As for snacks, no issues but crisps are a poor choice on every level
Yes, people do take FOREVER to get dressed.
That was absolutely disgusting of her and incredibly selfish, YANBU.
won't mention how I give the DC a clean snack in the changing rooms to keep them going after their swimming lessons until we get home for a late lunch
Being a bit hungry for 10 minutes isn't going to harm a child.
It's a good habit to get them into of having to wait patiently.
Why can't children wait? It takes ten minutes to change....people take far too much time to change....I've seen them! Faffing and arseing about with themselves AND with their DC.....I have always made my DC wait till they get outside to eat something!
I totally disagree about crisps! You obviously clean them up so that's fair enough but it's so much work for you. Why choose a snack that consists of eleventy million little bits that are likely to be dropped and go soggy and disintegrate and leave that awful salt and vinegary smell behind. Or worse... cheese and onion!
I know how hungry swimming makes you so I don't have a problem with a little snack in the changing room but I really don't understand this attitude that you don't have to clean up after yourself and your child. It always makes me wonder what their homes are like.
Worra autocorrected to worts for some reason!
Worts- I'm one who shoves food at DD in the changing rooms. Swimming always makes her (and me) hungry anyway, even when she was tiny she would want a feed as soon as we got out of the pool, but the particular swim session we prefer runs from 4:30 till 5:00 so she ends up eating later than normal. So I give her a snack in the changing room, it's either that or listen to her scream the whole time while I try to change. And it's sometimes crisps (toddler ones like organix) because they come out of the swimming bag in an edible form (unlike fruit) and she can eat them easily herself while I am busy changing. And dropped crisps are fairly easy to clean up (obviously I do clear up any mess she makes!) So I don't think feeding crisps in a changing room is a crime in itself, but not clearing up after should be!
YANBU. I'd have a word with the management
There should be no food or drink allowed in the changing rooms at all.
And don't even start me on parents who shove food at their kids to distract them. Try singing a bloody song or pointing at things around them.
If that doesn't work, just get them dressed and don't be afraid of the tantrum.
YANBU, I get my 2 yo DD dried and dressed, then give her a snack to placate her while I get dressed, I wouldn't dream of leaving any mess! I usually give her fairly mess free snacks anyway, so not too much to clean up in the first place, but if she did drop/throw anything on the floor etc I would most definitely clean them up, but then again my own mother brought me up with better manners than most people seem to have nowadays
Sorry, have taken it down and used it obviously!
That is disgusting.
Perhaps if you mentioned to the front desk you had had to clean up crisps from the family changing room they could put up a notice asking them to be left clean and for no food to be consumed?
If nothing else, you could have take it down and use it to wallop Inconsiderate Woman round the head with next time!
I don't know what pool management would do really, she was on her way out and mostly the rooms are kept pretty clean. I was just unfortunate to go in after her! We use different pools all the time (due to us being a bit nomadic ATM) and it seems to be a thing now to give your children crisps in the changing room.
In my day we'd only get crisps afterwards if we were good and got changed nicely!
YANBU. Some people have no consideration for other people at all and well done for saying something.
What a filthy woman. No wonder it will rub off on her child. Good example she set there.
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