To be upset by hubby's constant remarks abt my pregnancy weight gain!

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Preezie Fri 02-May-14 00:12:51

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TillyTellTale Fri 02-May-14 00:22:06


Here are some figures from Pregnancy: the inside guide.

"On average, women gain 12kg during pregnancy.

What the weight gain consists of. These figures vary enormously from woman to woman, and these figures given are simply an illustration of how the weight gain is made up"

Example figures are:
Baby: 3.3kg
Placenta: 0.5kg
Amniotic Fluid: 0.8kg
Increase in weight of the womb: 0.8kg
Breasts: 0.4kg
Blood volume: 1.3kg
Fat: 3.5kg
Fluid retention: 1.4kg

TillyTellTale Fri 02-May-14 00:28:09

The above quotes are abbreviated somewhat, because I wasn't typing out two pages, but I think the point that being 4kg heavier is totally normal is made.

As a bare minimum, you have the weight of a fetus/baby (which ever word you prefer) inside you, its placenta, extra blood (in order to supply the baby with oxygen), an expanded uterus, and a uterusful of amniotic fluid!

Gingermum Fri 02-May-14 00:31:13

He sounds like a real prince hmm Have you sat down and discussed how upsetting his nasty remarks are? How is the relationship in general - does he do his share round the house, or is he a lazy arse as well as spiteful?

BlackDaisies Fri 02-May-14 00:37:46

He's the one with the problem not you. Just ignore his insults. Tell him you're very happy with how you look and let him get on with it. Stupid man.

Preezie Fri 02-May-14 00:39:10

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Preezie Fri 02-May-14 00:47:27

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Darkesteyes Fri 02-May-14 00:53:17

help out

Help Out? Doesn't he walk on the carpet and use the bath etc as well hmm

He sounds shallow and entitled.

Darkesteyes Fri 02-May-14 00:54:23

He views you as a decorative domestic appliance rather than a person.

InfiniteJest Fri 02-May-14 01:00:15

Your husband is being an arse.

How did he respond when you pointed out his weight gain? If he keeps belittling you I'd be tempted to respond every time with 'I'm growing a human, what's your excuse?' Maybe eventually it will sink in.

He sounds very disrespectful. Do you feel like he thinks he can do no wrong, whereas you are always under scrutiny?

MagicMojito Fri 02-May-14 02:36:53

I realise hes your husband, but what an utter cock! angry I'm 36 weeks pg and have put on weight in the same areas as you apparently have. No I don't feel particularly great about it, but ffs we are growing human beings inside our bodies!!! Expansion is kind off necessary!! angry angry angry ...knobber

Preezie Fri 02-May-14 06:33:54

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Preezie Fri 02-May-14 06:36:22

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BrianButterfield Fri 02-May-14 06:36:33

Try "just joking" about him having a bald spot, beer belly or tiny cock every time he says something. Bet he won't like that!

BerniesBurneze Fri 02-May-14 06:42:15

He sounds like a hideous odious man, sorry OP.

WhereTheWildlingsAre Fri 02-May-14 06:46:37

Your daughter sounds fab, though! Good for her, that will have shamed him (I hope)

fuckwitteryhasform Fri 02-May-14 06:48:25

Does he think you should remain stick thin with just a baby bump sticking out? It's hormonal to lay down fat stores
elsewhere, your body is preparing to make milk for a long time to feed your baby and that require a lot of energy, getting fat in pregnancy is your body's way of ensuring your baby will survive if there's a famine as your body can use its fat reserves to provide the means to make all that milk (btw feeding a baby exclusively uses up about 750 calories a day), you might be doing that for 6 months. And if you do breastfeed often hormones don't let you lose much of those fat stores until you stop breastfeeding even if you are dieting and exercising.

sashh Fri 02-May-14 06:48:37

It's called emotional abuse

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance Fri 02-May-14 06:48:58

Trying to brush it off as a joke would really boil my piss. What is he - 12?

Footle Fri 02-May-14 06:49:25

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fuckwitteryhasform Fri 02-May-14 06:49:48

Sorry it's 500 cals a day breastfeeding burns up but that's still a fair amount of cake

GnomeDePlume Fri 02-May-14 06:51:01

Jokes are supposed to be funny. If nobody else is laughing then it isnt a joke it is just someone being an arse.

Preezie Fri 02-May-14 06:55:46

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Enjoyingmycoffee1981 Fri 02-May-14 06:56:57

Op, I feel for you. Less about the weight comments, more about the fact that you are about to have a baby with an absolute prick. I'm sorry, there's no other way to say it.
He's put on weight, and the feeble man is lording it over his pregnant partner. It is behaviour that is indicative of a nasty little man. Be wary for the future, you might have to be brave.

Nosleeptillbedtime Fri 02-May-14 06:59:39

Congratulations and your pregnancy and your brilliant daughter.
I agree with everyone who has called your dh a dick. What, he storms off in tears when you call him out on his weight gain yet you are over sensitive when you don't find his 'jokes' funny?!
What an unpleasant man child! (except your actual child is more emotionally mature).

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