WIBU to take £40 off dd ?

[olaflikeswarmhugs]

Dd begged to get her ears pierced but every time I took her up she would cry and be too scared . She eventually got them done the 5th time we took her .

So 6 weeks have past and it's not time to take them out . It took 3 night of crying screaming and holding her ears we eventually got them out . Now she is refusing to put a fresh pair in so her ears are going to close up . WIBU to make her reimburse us the £40 it cost us to get them done ?

[hercules1]

How old?

[AnyFucker]

How old is she ?

[olaflikeswarmhugs]

Sorry 9 !

[LaurieFairyCake]

Depends on her age - if she's 18 fine

If you were daft enough to let an 8 year do it then you're bad.

Didn't the screaming and crying not give it away she wasn't ready the first. 5 fucking times ?

[MammaTJ]

You could have left them in for longer, so YABU. You should have just left them in, they don't have to come out, they just can.

[LaurieFairyCake]

Excellent cross post

Yep, your fault.

[AnyFucker]

Your fault. She is too young.

[hercules1]

Too young to be held responsible. It sounds like she was far from ready in the first place.

[olaflikeswarmhugs]

Again , they were out cos she begged us to let her take them out and she went and bought new earrings with her money last week .

[AnyFucker]

Baaaaad idea to cave into begging from a 9yo

if she begged to jump off a bridge, would you let her ?

[ilovepowerhoop]

why do you need to take them out?

[DotToDott]

Why did you pin her down and have her screaming amd crying if it wasn't even time to take them out

i don't know that i'd make her pay back the £40, to be honest i don't know if i'd have kept trying to get them done that many times.

anyway, let them close up this time, if she wants them done again, make her save up.

[Famzilla]

Why did you take them out?

Tbh I wouldn't have taken her after the first failed trip. You're the parent. And £40 to get ears pierced!? They saw you coming..

[hercules1]

I think it's a lesson for you. Don't give into begging.

[CockD0dger]

Yep. Definitely not the child's responsibility.

[olaflikeswarmhugs]

There was hair wrapped around one so I did want them out to give them a good clean . But other than that I probably would have left them .

[picnicbasketcase]

The holes don't close that quickly, and I'm another person who doesn't understand why you took them out. Seeing as how you had plenty of clues that maybe she wasn't an ideal candidate to have had them pierced in the first place, maybe you should've given her longer to get used to them? And where does it cost that much to get ears done? I don't think she should have to pay you back, because you shouldn't have let her have them done if you knew she was too scared, regardless of how much she begged.

[olaflikeswarmhugs]

It was time to take them out .

[Famzilla]

There's no such thing as "time to take them out". I've had a piercing in since it was done over 10 years ago, it's perfectly clean and there is no need to take it out whatsoever.

[MammaTJ]

My own DD wanted hers done at 8, she had them done a few weeks before her 8th birthday, as her birthday is near the end of the 6 weeks Summer holiday. She had them done really well. After care, not so good. They got infected, so I told her she had to either let me do what needed to be done, or have them out and leave them until she is at least 10. She went for that.

I didn't charge her though, she just wasted her birthday present.

[Floralnomad]

YABVU .

[picnicbasketcase]

But just because they say you can take them out after six weeks, doesn't mean you have to take them out. You could have loosened the one that needed cleaning and done it gently with some cotton wool and salt water.

[Catflap1]

I always found 6 weeks way to early to take earrings out, my dd had hers done just before school broke up, so was a totally of 7 weeks before she went back and she had to have them out for PE, I would take them out in playground in morning and by the time I picked her up I was basically forcing eating back in has hole had started to seal over in space of few hours, after a few weeks of that they started to get yucky so ended up closing them up

2 years later she had them redone, I left them for 6 months and just kept very clean never had I problem with them, don't the same 6 months with my other dd and they have been fine to!

I think fiddling to early just causes problems and risks infection

[NearTheWindymill]

Oh FGS. It's your fault. Take her to Claire's tomorrow on the promise of chosing something very very pretty for which you pay and get the lady who does the piercings assist in big grown up fashion. And after that she gets the milkshake of her choice and made a huge fuss of. If she wimps it; she wimps it and you take her for Pizza Express as well.

It's hard being a parent and letting them grow up but really this isn't her fault because she's too immature to deal with it.

Fesses up to having a 19 year old with an infected cartilage piercing at present - and yes it's entirely his fault but I still feel slightly sick at the pit of my stomach because he's hurting, is silly, and 11.5k miles away.