WIBU to take £40 off dd ?

(83 Posts)
olaflikeswarmhugs Thu 24-Apr-14 22:08:55

Dd begged to get her ears pierced but every time I took her up she would cry and be too scared . She eventually got them done the 5th time we took her .

So 6 weeks have past and it's not time to take them out . It took 3 night of crying screaming and holding her ears we eventually got them out . Now she is refusing to put a fresh pair in so her ears are going to close up . WIBU to make her reimburse us the £40 it cost us to get them done ?

hercules1 Thu 24-Apr-14 22:10:13

How old?

AnyFucker Thu 24-Apr-14 22:10:28

How old is she ?

olaflikeswarmhugs Thu 24-Apr-14 22:10:40

Sorry 9 !

Depends on her age - if she's 18 fine

If you were daft enough to let an 8 year do it then you're bad.

Didn't the screaming and crying not give it away she wasn't ready the first. 5 fucking times ?

MammaTJ Thu 24-Apr-14 22:11:02

You could have left them in for longer, so YABU. You should have just left them in, they don't have to come out, they just can.

Excellent cross post

Yep, your fault.

AnyFucker Thu 24-Apr-14 22:11:52

Your fault. She is too young.

CorusKate Thu 24-Apr-14 22:12:04

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hercules1 Thu 24-Apr-14 22:12:14

Too young to be held responsible. It sounds like she was far from ready in the first place.

olaflikeswarmhugs Thu 24-Apr-14 22:12:22

Again , they were out cos she begged us to let her take them out and she went and bought new earrings with her money last week .

AnyFucker Thu 24-Apr-14 22:12:58

Baaaaad idea to cave into begging from a 9yo

if she begged to jump off a bridge, would you let her ?

why do you need to take them out?

DotToDott Thu 24-Apr-14 22:13:29

Why did you pin her down and have her screaming amd crying if it wasn't even time to take them out confused

i don't know that i'd make her pay back the £40, to be honest i don't know if i'd have kept trying to get them done that many times.

anyway, let them close up this time, if she wants them done again, make her save up.

Famzilla Thu 24-Apr-14 22:13:51

Why did you take them out?

Tbh I wouldn't have taken her after the first failed trip. You're the parent. And £40 to get ears pierced!? They saw you coming..

hercules1 Thu 24-Apr-14 22:14:00

I think it's a lesson for you. Don't give into begging.

CockD0dger Thu 24-Apr-14 22:14:03

Yep. Definitely not the child's responsibility.

olaflikeswarmhugs Thu 24-Apr-14 22:14:39

There was hair wrapped around one so I did want them out to give them a good clean . But other than that I probably would have left them .

picnicbasketcase Thu 24-Apr-14 22:15:00

The holes don't close that quickly, and I'm another person who doesn't understand why you took them out. Seeing as how you had plenty of clues that maybe she wasn't an ideal candidate to have had them pierced in the first place, maybe you should've given her longer to get used to them? And where does it cost that much to get ears done? I don't think she should have to pay you back, because you shouldn't have let her have them done if you knew she was too scared, regardless of how much she begged.

olaflikeswarmhugs Thu 24-Apr-14 22:15:49

It was time to take them out .

Famzilla Thu 24-Apr-14 22:18:15

There's no such thing as "time to take them out". I've had a piercing in since it was done over 10 years ago, it's perfectly clean and there is no need to take it out whatsoever.

MammaTJ Thu 24-Apr-14 22:18:21

My own DD wanted hers done at 8, she had them done a few weeks before her 8th birthday, as her birthday is near the end of the 6 weeks Summer holiday. She had them done really well. After care, not so good. They got infected, so I told her she had to either let me do what needed to be done, or have them out and leave them until she is at least 10. She went for that.

I didn't charge her though, she just wasted her birthday present.

Floralnomad Thu 24-Apr-14 22:18:23

YABVU .

picnicbasketcase Thu 24-Apr-14 22:19:34

But just because they say you can take them out after six weeks, doesn't mean you have to take them out. You could have loosened the one that needed cleaning and done it gently with some cotton wool and salt water.

Catflap1 Thu 24-Apr-14 22:20:57

I always found 6 weeks way to early to take earrings out, my dd had hers done just before school broke up, so was a totally of 7 weeks before she went back and she had to have them out for PE, I would take them out in playground in morning and by the time I picked her up I was basically forcing eating back in has hole had started to seal over in space of few hours, after a few weeks of that they started to get yucky so ended up closing them up

2 years later she had them redone, I left them for 6 months and just kept very clean never had I problem with them, don't the same 6 months with my other dd and they have been fine to!

I think fiddling to early just causes problems and risks infection

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