I've nc'd because I'm pathetic (according to dm at least).
This has been an on going issues since dc was born nearly 4 years ago. Dm sticks her two pennies in all the time. Often I'll be trying to discipline dc and dm will tell me I'm being unfair/too harsh etc etc. just to be crystal clear, I do not shout, I do not smack, I do not use the naughty step (it makes dc worse) so dc has choices and consequences. For example if dc is being rude I'll tell them stop the behaviour or they won't get a favourite part of the evening routine (tv time, stories, puzzle time etc).
I don't think that's bad parenting and it's certainly a lots better than what I was subjected to as a child. I've had endless arguments with dm ably this and today I just feel like it's the last straw. Dm told me off about telling my dc off in front other relatives today. I felt humiliated and degraded. I argued stood my ground and I get told to know my place (I'm not dm's mother and I'm her dd and shouldn't speak to her like that). I didn't swear or shout or be abusive btw. I make a very conscience effort to not do that.
Anyway, I'm now at home in floods of tears and at a complete loss as to what to do next. There is a lot more to this but I'm not sure how necessary it is to the shituation I'm in now. The only thing I can say and it is probably very important is that I know dm is a narcissist and controls us with financial generosity. I'm already aware of this and there is sweet fa I can do about it, so cutting ties and going at it on our own is really not an option as our dosh is tied up with theirs.
Please help me.
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devilanddeepblue · 24/04/2014 18:18
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