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To not send a birthday card

(11 Posts)
Bessymessy Wed 23-Apr-14 20:31:53

We didn't send a birthday card to DH's BIL as we didn't manage to organise ourselves in time. BIL and SIL live on the other side of the world so we have to send it 10-14 days in advance. We have always sent one in before but this year just didn't manage to do it; we have had major child care issues, a family death with a funeral to organise and estate to administer and both DH and I work full time. We did send a lovely birthday video from the Dcs which BIL said he loved but SIL, (his DW) has made a real issue about us not sending him a birthday card and this has led to an exchange of terse texts between DH and SIL and MIL hanging up the phone in disgust on DH. I know that birthday cards and the like mean a lot to SIL but surely this is bit of an over reaction?

Fairy1303 Wed 23-Apr-14 20:36:19

YANBU.
I don't understand why people get so upset about cards. You sent a lovely personal video. That's your 'card' much nicer and much more personal IMO.

Sunnydaysablazeinhope Wed 23-Apr-14 20:38:39

I don't really get why it's expected that brothers will send cards. Seems such a girlie thing to care about.

Personally can't stand girlie women who find cards important. I do not get it.

Now if you had forgot his birthday I'd be different. You didn't, just celebrated it different.

And why do these fecking weird women always assume the wife will do it not the husband?!?!

JeanSeberg Wed 23-Apr-14 20:38:52

So BIL wasn't bothered but SIL and MIL had the strop?

hmm

wheresthelight Wed 23-Apr-14 20:42:00

This is a joke right??!!!

I am crap with cards especially to family in Canada so have found a moonpig style website so I can order them online

wheresthelight Wed 23-Apr-14 20:43:16

Sorry phone posted too soon, the website is in Canada so can do it a couple of days before

Bessymessy Wed 23-Apr-14 20:46:21

Unfortunately it isn't a joke sad I hadn't thought of the moonpig thing.. that might cover it in future.

HelenHen Wed 23-Apr-14 20:49:45

Oooohh in laws are bloody obsessed with cards. When we had ds, mil asked every day for a week if we'd got the card from 'aunty anne'. I presumed there would be money or something cos she went on about it so much but no, it was just a card. She wanted us to send a thank you card for the card... We didn't! We sent a text!

Day I came out of hospital, she bought me a pack of thank you cards. I had to leave the room! I was fuming! I know she meant well but I don't do cards, I thank people in person! If I did cards, I would pick my own... When I'm bloody ready!

ICanSeeTheSun Wed 23-Apr-14 20:50:05

Text back saying you don't need this while you are grieving

wheresthelight Wed 23-Apr-14 22:10:29

bessy you cam set it up so the automatically deliver so you cam pay up front for all the cards you need for the year and then forget about it!! You can even sort it so that they deliver chocolates and flowers lol!!

Bessymessy Thu 24-Apr-14 08:05:03

Thanks Where..what a fantastic idea. smile

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