My DB, who's much older than me, is in poor health. Much of that is down to his weight. He is morbidly obese. Somehow he's put on even more weight (I reckon about 3 and a half stone) in the last couple of months, to the point of him bursting out of his clothes.
He's tried countless diets over the years (I've always supported that hugely, sometimes joining him), he loses a bit but then gains it all back. He lives alone (divorced) and comes over to dinner at least twice a week. I've never mentioned his weight, let alone nagged him about it, as I figure he's an adult. However, now it's a health crisis waiting to happen.
My feeling is that he can't do this on his own but needs serious help, either from his doctor/NHS or from support network like Overeaters Anonymous, or some residential fat farm (I know they don't call them that anymore), or something drastic. Unfortunately a gastric band or any kind of surgery would be too risky.
I love my DB, but I don't want to bury him before his time. And on a selfish note, I don't want to be a carer for him after a premature stroke. I want him to recover his health and his body and have a good life.
Any advice about how to approach this, or what not to say/do would be gratefully received.
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AIBU to have an "intervention" with DB about his weight?
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cingolimama · 23/04/2014 16:21
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