to think children shouldn't wee behind my car and that you should carry a tub or something

(86 Posts)
riskit4abiskit Wed 23-Apr-14 11:04:43

On car park as I type. Family next to my car just got back. Little girl just had wee on floor behind and between both cars (I was just getting out and the dangly bits of my sling nearly went in it).

AIBU To think that you would carry around potty, jar or tub for this purpose when your child was this age (under 4ish).

I might be U because I have a baby so have no experience of this stage. Also it is the hospital car park I am thinking they might be stressed from visiting an ill relative.

but... there are toilets next to us in the building on one side, and also a wide vergey bit with trees and a wall - in this situation I would use the verge or a tub.

I am posting from interest really to see what people would do ready for when my dc reach this stage!

Do you normally drop the handles of things you own in puddles of any description ?

Be more careful, it could be anything - dog piss , human piss, yucky water etc.

Perfectly normal for toddlers to pee out doors occasionally.

ladyharryo Wed 23-Apr-14 11:17:18

Oh yes. You should carry around a tub/pot/jar if your children are under four. And it should be compulsory wink

Agree that you shouldn't trail things in unidentified puddles. It could be anything

ChaffinchOfDoom Wed 23-Apr-14 11:18:00

tbf many toddlers give you about 3 seconds warning they are desperate - plus cars give good cover, sometimes you do what you have to

reddaisy Wed 23-Apr-14 11:18:43

I have a potty in the boot of the car for this reason and then I take it to nearest grid to tip it down but although it isn't nice, it is perfectly normal.

My DD never gave us much notice when she needed a wee so it was used a lot and now DS is potty training, I anticipate it being used even more. I also try to be as discreet as possible to save everyone from embarassment.

lollipoppi Wed 23-Apr-14 11:19:05

Yabu, when they gotta go, they gotta go grin

I would not carry round a tub just incase my DS needed an unexpected wee, what would I do with the tub once wee'd in? Pop it in my handbag?

I draw the line at poo though, we were on the park yesterday and a little boy announced to his mum and everyone else he needed a poo, his mum took him off to a bush which other children use to play hide and seek confused

Artandco Wed 23-Apr-14 11:19:45

Nah, I think toddlers should be able to wee outside. They are exactly that. Ideally up a tree or something, but I don't see why dis can shit and piss all over the place no problem, yet people uproar if a toddler wees ( usually up tree/ in bush/ down drain)

softlysoftly Wed 23-Apr-14 11:22:48

I wouldn't carry a potty, I know a friend who carried one everywhere including strapped to her picnic basket, justodd!

I would generally though aim them for something that soaks it up, so the verge, or a gutter.

badidea Wed 23-Apr-14 11:27:48

We used to keep a potty in the car for unexpected wees or poohs, never carried one around with me though.

I would always take my son to the verge/a drain for a wee if in a carpark, I'd never let them wee between or behind cars, just from a safety perspective in case another car moved or didn't see us as we were bending down.

isitsnowingyet Wed 23-Apr-14 11:28:20

Ah - this thread takes me back. DS pooing in a plastic tub that we actually had to buy. In a village car park in the Dales with no public toilets for miles around. Happy Days <not>.

When your baby is grown into toddler stage, you may be a lot more understanding. grin

Crumbs, there's enough stuff to cart around when you have kids, without having to resort to a tub in case they need a wee.

When they need to go, they give you about 1 seconds notice so yes, it ha to be a pretty spontaneous thing. I don't think DS ever wee'd inbetween in cars though I have to say but certainly behind trees, next to a bush etc etc.

cingolimama Wed 23-Apr-14 11:38:44

YABU. Carry around a tub?

OhChristHasRisenFENTON Wed 23-Apr-14 11:41:43

Children taking a wild one absolutely fine, and no, you shouldn't have to take a pot with you everywhere, BUT

really you should show some discretion IMO and location is everything, - in a place where someone could step out into it? really inconsiderate and unnecessary.

Gurnie Wed 23-Apr-14 11:41:49

It wouldn't bother me at all to be honest. It's only the wee of a tiny child!

TheScience Wed 23-Apr-14 11:43:43

It could be a dog wee - should dog owners carry a potty too?

So what do you carry around to wash the tub with so you don't stink of piss all day?

""I might be U because I have a baby so have no experience of this stage. ""

Good observation. It doesn't matter how close toilets are, you don't always get enough warning.

Seeing as they were possibly visiting someone in hospital, it was perfectly ok, but would be anyway.

We have enough rain in this country to allow toddlers to have the occasional emergency wee.

Using the bushes may of attracted more attention and female wee isn't good for grass etc.

As for having a poo, you dig a hole with a stick, I camp/walk/fish and everyone who does, "goes" outdoors sometimes, as the thread on joggers/runners showed.

Worriedkat Wed 23-Apr-14 11:46:31

We carry a travel fold up potty with disposable bag inserts. If we forgot it then I'd try and aim them towards the car park wall or in a corner, but sometimes you have to pick your battles. My 3 yo is terrified of hand dryers noise and screams in terror in public loos.

As you move into toddler phase and/or have more children to juggle your standards might drop a little or maybe it's just me being slovenly

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen Wed 23-Apr-14 11:48:30

Kids give you 3 seconds warning, you need to deal with it there and then. It's only a wee.

BolshierAyraStark Wed 23-Apr-14 11:49:55

Yep YABU, as your child gets older you will realise this.

MaryShelley Wed 23-Apr-14 12:00:06

www.johnlewis.com/potette-plus-convertible-travel-potty-white-blue/p230587521

These portable pottys are great. I always had mine with me (and it still lives in the car even now)

BackforGood Wed 23-Apr-14 12:02:35

Agree with everyone else - YABU.

Fascinated as to how you expect a 'desperate for a wee 2 or 3 yr old' to manage to get their aim accurate enough for this tub you might carry round with you anyway.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Wed 23-Apr-14 12:04:06

All these people saying that you never carried a receptacle/when they need to go they need to go/1 sec warning etc... What do you do when its not a carpark but eg a museum?

CorusKate Wed 23-Apr-14 12:07:37

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BackforGood Wed 23-Apr-14 12:08:51

During the short period of time they are at this stage, you limit where you go out and about without a pull up. A museum would only happen if I knew it were one with very easily accessible toilets.

TheBogQueen Wed 23-Apr-14 12:14:40

I remember walking a friend's five year old down the road with a group of other children and was chatting away when friend froze. Boy was joyfully peeing into the main road, trousers round his ankles, shirt up grin

Little children can't hold on for long. Sometimes you have got to go. And the gutter is an ideal place.

Carting a potty about is a PITA and what do you do with the wee once it's in the potty? Pour it down the gutter? Then what's the difference?

My four year old can now hand on for a bit but aged 2/3 it's very difficult particularly when they are potty training.

But I guess this is a good opportunity for folk to get all rolly eyes about something that is perfectly normal.

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