So, DS's (6yo) birthday party is fast approaching.
Having asked DS (prior to printing out invitations) who he wanted from his class, he named quite a few children. I thought it would be unkind to leave out fewer than half the class and, especially having heard through our nanny (who does drop-offs and pick-ups) that certain children had never been invited to any of the many birthday parties that have been taking place this academic year, decided to invite the whole class. I have also invited his friends (10 in total) from activities he takes part in outside of school, whose parents I am also friends with, and I know that they are able to make it.
Invitations to the class went out over a month ago and his teacher kindly helped me hand out invites to all the children in the class i.e. put them in their book bags. I have had the parents of only 9 classmates RSVP to say that they are coming - complete silence from the remainder. I had considered specifying a deadline for people to RSVP, but thought that might perhaps come across as heavy-handed. I have hired a couple of party entertainers and a large hall so would have more than enough room to fit the whole class plus 10, but I'm certainly not willing to cater for an extra 15+ children (food, drinks, party bags, etc) who may not show up - however, what do I do if they suddenly turn up despite having not RSVPed?! I don't have the parents' personal details so can't contact them other than through the class-teacher/my nanny. FWIW, my nanny has tried to prompt those parents she knows have not RSVPed yet to do so, but still nothing.
WIBU to send notes to those who haven't RSVPed with something along the lines of, "Sorry that you can't make it to DS's party on X date. DS will bring in [a cake/some sweets] on his actual birthday to share with all the kids in the class."? That way, I can go ahead and plan the party with a set idea of numbers. I realise this doesn't remove the risk of certain people just turning up on the day, but I would hope it would significantly reduce it. Short of the idea above and/or having a bouncer-type figure at the door(!), I'm at a loss as to what else to do.
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Not RSVPing - rude and annoying!
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