I've just had an awful Easter weekend with my MIL and I'm feeling really down. We have a 5 year old boy and a 6 months old baby who hasn't slept through the night even once since he was born. The longest stint we've ever had was 3 hours and, because I breastfeed, all of it is on me, although my DP is great and tries to takes the baby from me in the morning on the weekends so I can have some more time in bed. My family is abroad so we have no help from them and his family, mainly his mum as he is an only child, is 200 miles away. I used to get on really well with her before DS2 was born. Things started going really badly since her visit when I was 8 months pregnant - she came to visit for a week and needed entertainment, looking after and all the royal treatment. Things went worse when she came to visit when DS2 was 10 days old and again stayed for a week. She wouldn't come downstairs until 9 or even 10am, accepted constant offers of coffees, teas, didn't cook us even one meal, refused to change the baby, when asked to do DS1's school run once DP was back at work (school is 7 minutes walk from the house) she said very offended "I will if you tell me too..." So we had no help from her at all, just a guest in the house... it was the same story for Christmas - another week of us cooking, looking after her, taking her out etc... She now came to stay with us for Easter and I mentally prepared myself for getting no help, thinking it was only 4 days so it would be fine, although, after 6 months of no sleep, the exhaustion is really hitting me, all my filters are gone, and I'm hitting some kind of a block... Everything was going really well until Saturday night when we were running around getting the dinner ready, doing everything, her sitting on the sofa and she said "It's so nice to be waited on. A glass of wine in my hand. So nice to be waited on..." I saw red... I didn't say anything but was in a foul mood the entire dinner. She then asked "do you think he may sleep through the night today?" and I snapped saying "he hasn't slept through for 6 months so why would he sleep through today". Yes, my tone was a bit but I didn't say anything else. Not a word. She then got very upset with me and told DP that I was very rude. He took my side on everything so no problem there. We had an awful day and a half of not talking to each other. Am I being petty? Was I that rude and was her comment and her attitude fine? DP is caught in the middle and very upset and it hurts me a lot to see him like this. He's been loyal and supportive the entire time. I just find it so infuriating, strange and upsetting that she wouldn't even help us with anything - won't cook, won't change the baby, she even refused to push the buggy last time. I'm on my own all the time, with two children, including a baby that doesn't sleep and DP who works very long hours and sometimes travels with work. I don't want to be unnecessarily mean but I feel very upset and very angry. Am I just tired and losing all perspective...? I can cope with kids and no help but not with a princess at home to look after too...
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