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I've never had a good relationship with my mil,when I first started seeing my husband we were civil but I always got the feeling she thought I wasn't good enough for her son. I did persevere with trying to get on with his side of the family, always polite when I saw them and talking about how well the other half was doing whilst away training. All that stopped however after I got engadged to their son. I think his mother resented me for 'taking her son away' and she believed that I was controlling him, even asking him whether I was blackmailing him.
When we announced our pregnancy(unplanned admittedly) her first reaction was to call the baby a bastard, and say that I'd planned the whole thing to trap her son.She went onto say she wanted nothing to do with the wedding or the baby.
My other half didn't handle it quite how I wanted him too, he said that his mum has always overreacted and she didn't mean it, and I should forgive her
For him I went to see his parents on the morning of our wedding, at their request. Apparently to them it was just another chance to put me down. They called me a bitch and accused me of controlling him, saying that I'd stopped him from inviting any of his family to the wedding. That was his choice, after his mum said she wanted nothing to do with it he decided to invite none of his family, despite me telling him to multiple times.
It's been 6 weeks since then and I've had no contact, but my little girl is due to make her appearance next month and I'm terrified that if I let MIL see the baby she's gonna use her as a weapon, try to take control or tell her when she's older that she was unplanned.
Apologies for the long post, my head is everywhere at the moment!
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beckysays · 18/04/2014 11:06
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