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AIBU?

To not want to pay £50 for a load of old tat that's been foisted on me?

234 replies

CarrieBradshawsCloset · 17/04/2014 00:36

We get on well with our next door neighbours. We often get together for wine/a takeaway, and the DCs get on well too. We do them quite a lot of favours, such as looking after their pets when they go on holiday, and DH is an electrician so has done a few electrical jobs for them for free. I am a beauty therapist and sometimes wax the woman's eyebrows or paint her nails if she's having a night out, and I never charge her. It's never occurred to me to charge her in all honesty.

She has a DD who is two years older than my DD, and has been saying for a while that she has a big bag of clothes for my DD. My DD has enough clothes and she doesn't need anymore (not bragging, just giving background info), however I said, out of politeness more than anything "thank you, that would be nice".

So anyway, I got back from town today to find a big bag full of clothes on the doorstep. Nothing special, just Tesco, Primark, Asda stuff, that kind of thing, and not in brilliant condition, but useable as play wear. I sent my neighbour a text to say thank you and she sent me a text back saying "£50 will be fine for them all, there's at least £100 worth of stuff there so it's a bargain. Can I have it ASAP please Hon?"

I am genuinely gobsmacked! Firstly that she expects payment in the first place. Secondly because she's essentially foisted the items on me, I didn't ask for them, and thirdly because it's not like it's in good condition, it's old, faded supermarket clothes that are pretty cheap to buy new anyway.

WIBU to pop them next door in the morning and say that we're a bit skint at the moment and I didn't realise she wanted money for them, so she'd probably be better off selling them at a boot sale?

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piscivorous · 17/04/2014 00:38

Think your suggestion is perfect. Apologise and return

squoosh · 17/04/2014 00:42

Shock

Whaddacheek!

I would definitely give them back. just tell her you don't need them. I know they're your neighbours and you don't want to fall out with them but I'd be sorely tempted (although I would stop myself) to leave a note on them saying 'I have enough cleaning rags, thanks all the same................hon'.

Aventurine · 17/04/2014 00:42

Yes, I'd do that. She hadn't even mentioned payment beforehand. What a cheek. Send them back.

MidniteScribbler · 17/04/2014 00:43

Do what you plan, but next time they want a favour make sure you tell them how much it will cost....hon.

CarrieBradshawsCloset · 17/04/2014 00:44

I think if I play the "we're so skint at the moment, sorry" card she'll be ok with it.

I don't think I'll be offering her any free beauty treatments in future either....

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NurseyWursey · 17/04/2014 00:45

The absolute cheek of some people!

jesus.

I'd send them back, defo.

I'd be very tempted to have to charge her for all future nails, eyebrows etc. Do them then text her, 'oh dont forget £15 for the eyebrows hon'

Aventurine · 17/04/2014 00:45

It's like she was trying to trick you into making her some money.

MrsCakesPremonition · 17/04/2014 00:47

It sounds like she is skint and hoping to make some cash. I'm sure she will understand if you say you are strapped for cash too. So many people are at the moment.

raffle · 17/04/2014 00:47

I would have agonised over this, but actually your response is fine, clear and to the point. Do exactly that!

CarrieBradshawsCloset · 17/04/2014 00:49

MrsCakes; they're definitely not strapped for cash. Their mortgage is paid off and they both earn well, and have lovely cars, lovely furniture etc.

Thinking about it, this isn't the first stingey thing that she's done, but I haven't really taken a lot of notice in the past.

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MrsCakesPremonition · 17/04/2014 00:52

In that case it is pure cheek and laziness on her part. Cheeky mare.

elahrairahforprimeminister · 17/04/2014 00:52

Cheeky cow.

Wax her eyebrows off and then charge extra.

That'll show her!!

squoosh · 17/04/2014 00:53

In that case just drop the stuff and say it isn't needed. People like that infuriate me. It's all take, take, take.

CarrieBradshawsCloset · 17/04/2014 00:53

Haha yeah "That'll be £50 for your full eyebrow removal"

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tallwivglasses · 17/04/2014 00:53

You do realise we're wanting to hear about all the stingey things now, don't you, OP?

ILoveWooly · 17/04/2014 00:57

Shock Gosh she has some front!

CarrieBradshawsCloset · 17/04/2014 00:58

The other things are taking DD swimming (which I paid for), then afterwards deciding on the spur of the moment to go and get some chips, but not buying DD any, so they all stuffed their faces in the car on the way home and DD didn't get any.

Picking up a pint of milk for me from the local shop, and the money that I gave her was 5p short or something as I had no other change in my purse and she asked me for the 5p a few days later.

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aquashiv · 17/04/2014 00:59

Gosh some people fifty pounds dear god.
I would just v give back and say b Thanks so much but here you go sell the clothes if you need the money. Sweet of you but we have more than enough.
No more freebies b for them

MincingOnBy · 17/04/2014 00:59

Your suggestion sounds good. So cheeky of her. She is a chancer. I am also curious now too re the other stingey things.

NadiaWadia · 17/04/2014 01:03

That's horrible about the chips. Who does that to a child? What was your DD's reaction?

SolidGoldBrass · 17/04/2014 01:07

Definitely 'sorry, we are skint, try Ebay' and no more freebies for them. Some people just are complete chancers.

Aventurine · 17/04/2014 01:11

The chips. Angry
The 5p Shock

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spatchcock · 17/04/2014 01:11

She asked for her 5p back? Wow. Were you not tempted to say "well I've waxed your eyebrows umpteen times so shall we call it quits?"

BerylStreep · 17/04/2014 01:13

Wow!

I think your response is good or Aquashiv's - sweet of you but we don't need it.

I would quietly distance myself TBH

Aventurine · 17/04/2014 01:13

I can't get my head round asking for the 5p. 5p!!!!

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