To think you shouldn't constantly TALK to someone who is reading a book?

(60 Posts)
AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:13:47

Staying at my Mum's for the past week prior to moving into new place. We talk all day long as she only works in the morning for a couple of hours...we're together a lot.

in the evening, I sometimes try to read while she watches her tv shows...she keeps bloody talking to me intermittently!

OldLadyKnowsSomething Tue 15-Apr-14 23:18:52

DH does this to me. He's watching telly, and I'm engrossed in a book. Then the ad break comes on... Or something "spectacular" happens in a sporting event (cries of "Come on ref! That was offside!") and I'm supposed to take an interest. Drives me nuts. I may sometimes make a snidey comment.

But for me, it's been 30 years. You, dear op, can simply grit your teeth and count the days. smile

(He's talking to me now, even though he can see I'm typing... )

thebodydoestricks Tue 15-Apr-14 23:21:32

Very annoying when I am reading and dh does this to me but he annoys me when he reads and I'm not as I feel it's excluding me and rude!

I know mad.but can see both sides.

SanityClause Tue 15-Apr-14 23:21:38

What? Not even to ask them what the book is about? Or why they're laughing, when that will mean they have to explain loads of stuff to you, and then you still won't get it?

I'd better tell DH.

AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:22:12

I can't stand it! Surely it's rude!? I could take myself off to another room I suppose but that seems rude too....why can't we both sit in the sitting room? Why must she always interrupt me!

SanityClause Tue 15-Apr-14 23:24:18

My MIL believes that reading a book in the presence of other people is rude.

This doesn't apply to newspaper or magazines, though, only books.

MidniteScribbler Tue 15-Apr-14 23:25:02

Justifiable homicide.

RevoltingPeasant Tue 15-Apr-14 23:25:43

YANBU

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RevoltingPeasant Tue 15-Apr-14 23:26:29

Sanity what does she do in libraries? confused

AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:28:39

Sanity lol! Was she always taking umbrage when she was in school?

Percephone Tue 15-Apr-14 23:29:26

Hmm I think that sitting there engrossed in a book / tablet / headphones in the presence of another person when it's just the two of you is kind of rude too. You might as well not be there.

Minshu Tue 15-Apr-14 23:29:30

My Gran used to hand me a paper / magazine and tell me to read a particular article, then start talking to me about that article or something totally unrelated within 3 seconds. Drove me nuts.

DP asks me what something is about - could be book, article or something on TV - the very moment I pick it up or turn the TV on, before I get a chance to read the title!! I now do it to him, too smile

AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:31:21

Percephone How on earth are people meant to relax in the presence of their family then?

I have to be here...I'm living here! Saying I might as well not be there is silly...I'm not on standby for her comments about biscuits, the Queen, the government and the woman over the road who never mows!

CorusKate Tue 15-Apr-14 23:31:39

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AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:32:50

Minshu I used to work in a theatre...loads of LOOOONG periods of sitting about involved. I sometimes read a book and I used to get unreasonably annoyed by people saying "What are you reading?"

"Well I WAS reading X but I'm not now! You just interrupted me!"

AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:34:15

Corus Yes...reading in company COULD be rude in certain situations...out for dinner! At a BBQ with the neighbours...having a smear done...not sitting in the sitting room of the house you're staying in for two weeks with your own Mum!

OldLadyKnowsSomething Tue 15-Apr-14 23:35:31

But Percephone, if dh is engrossed in a tv programme in which I have no interest, am I supposed to sit there doing nothing, while waiting for him to acknowledge my existence? Fuck that for 30 sodding years. Grr.

AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:36:16

Exactly OldLady!

CorusKate Tue 15-Apr-14 23:37:13

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TheLadyRadishes Tue 15-Apr-14 23:37:15

My mum does this. It doesn't matter what you're reading or indeed if you are trying to watch telly, she just doesn't like the attention not being on her so she will try to start a conversation about something unrelated, try to make you look at something she's reading (grrr!) or even decide to stalk around you and take unwanted photos of you. The kids hate it! And I think if you are staying over at someone's house, so you are there for a while not just a couple of hours - or obviously if you live with them - there has to be some let-up. You can't talk non-stop and if someone wants to read or watch a programme they should be allowed to.

Nennypops Tue 15-Apr-14 23:38:10

Hmm I think that sitting there engrossed in a book / tablet / headphones in the presence of another person when it's just the two of you is kind of rude too

Goodness, I just don't see how that could work. Imagine if you're in a long term relationship - are you seriously going to spend every moment when in the other person's company making sprightly conversation? I think one of the most companionable things you can do is to sit quietly and cosily with your other half while both of you get on with whatever you like doing, whether it's reading, listening to music, doing something creative, or whatever.

thebodydoestricks Tue 15-Apr-14 23:39:09

Lol at reading during a smear would it be 50 shades?

AwfulMaureen Tue 15-Apr-14 23:48:24

Body no it would be

Percephone Wed 16-Apr-14 00:13:36

I think it depends on the situation. If the other person is also engrossed in something then it's fine. Your mum is obviously not engrossed in the TV if she wants to chat.

DrizzlyTuesday Wed 16-Apr-14 00:17:08

It's really annoying when people try to talk when you're reading. DP does it all the time and then gets cross when I don't reply!

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