to wonder if there is any point in co-sleeping if the child sleeps all night?

(11 Posts)
ikeaismylocal Tue 15-Apr-14 10:34:29

Ds is 15 months old and we have always co-slept. Recently we night weaned him and now he sleeps for 11 or 12 hours a night. He very occasionally wakes up for a drink of water but mostly he sleeps through.

I wonder if it is still nice for him to co-sleep, me and dp love it but if ds is sleeping all night I wonder if he even knows we are there.

badidea Tue 15-Apr-14 11:03:58

Why don't you try him in his own bed one night and see how it goes? You'll soon find out if he's missing the family bed :-)

ikeaismylocal Tue 15-Apr-14 18:20:58

I think your right, I feel a bit like we are only keeping him co-sleeping for our benifit, he hasn't asked for his own bed, he's still too young I guess to understand that his his own bed is an option.

BertieBotts Tue 15-Apr-14 18:23:49

Well you aren't doing him any harm by continuing if that's what you mean.

It may be that he wakes briefly and notices you're there and goes happily back to sleep, so he might be more unsettled on his own but who knows?

Try it if you want to, if you don't want to, don't fix what isn't broken! You'll know when you and he are ready for him to move out (IME they start stealing the duvet!)

DaleyBum Tue 15-Apr-14 18:30:54

Co sleeping helps to regulate temperature, lung function and heart function. It's not just a nice thing to do, it's actually good for his health smile

DoJo Tue 15-Apr-14 20:57:06

If I had a child who was sleeping for 11-12 hours a night, I would never change what I was doing! Even if it is just for your benefit, the benefits to him of having two well-rested parents will be an important factor in his happiness and contentment.

Cabrinha Tue 15-Apr-14 21:05:31

If you're happy, why change?
He probably is waking, albeit very briefly... I'm sure I read that everyone wakes in the night, they just self-settle and and don't remember.
I love cosleeping with my 5yo who only wakes in the night occasionally now. I love watching her yawn and stretch in the morning. She also reaches out to cuddle me in her sleep - so she does get something from it (though she's also happy in her own bed at her father's).
I like hearing her first morning words - it's so sweet finding out what's on her mind first thing.
Just enjoy it!

wuckfit Tue 15-Apr-14 21:44:57

I love co sleeping with my 10 month old sometimes my 3 year old joins aswell it's lovely in his sleep if he isn't touching at least my arm he snuggles in abit more smile

puntasticusername Tue 15-Apr-14 21:52:20

Does he have a bedroom of his own set up ready for him? If not, you could do that - make a Thing out of arranging his cuddly toys in there, letting him choose his duvet cover etc, then just tell him in a low-key way that his bedroom is there, ready for him to use whenever he wants to - and just see what happens. As others have said - you'll soon see where his preferences lie.

Otherwise, it's up to you and your DH/DP I guess. Are you happy to have DS sleeping with you still?

Namelessonsie Tue 15-Apr-14 21:55:38

If it ain't broke, don't fix it! FGS woman - your child sleeps! grin

badidea Tue 15-Apr-14 21:59:45

My DH cosleeps with our 10 month old who puts in some excellent nights (11-12 hours between feeds) and some not so good, but not so bad nights (wakes twice for milk). I sleep on the sofabed in DS1s room. We're also thinking if its okay we'll keep going, or else we would be were it not for the fact that my superkingsize bed is way more comfortable than the sofa bed I'm in and I sort of want it back!

(All 3 of us used to cosleep, but DS2 got a big 'munchy' during the night if I was there and liked to set up the 'all night buffet' grazing every 40 mins or so, hence my retreat to the room next door, which has worked wonders for his sleeping, but not so much for my comfort :-)

We're considering tryign him in a cot soon (he slept in a cot mostly until he was about 5 months) but I know it will be nights of no sleep until we get him used to it, and I'm not sure either of us are up for the challenge!

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