To be told that it's a suprise that my daughter is in nursery this week..

(121 Posts)
Rowood Mon 14-Apr-14 10:43:55

Im teacher, my daughter attends nursery 2 days a week (Monday and Wednesdays) I turned up with her today on the first day of the holidays and the deputy said to my daughter "oh I'm surprised to see you here today with your mummy being a teacher"...I responded with "oh I'm going to clean the house and do some ironing" meaning I'm going to have a day doing fuck all without my beautiful but very bossy 2 year old ordering me around.
She does this everytime I drop her off in the holidays and I always, stupidly justify my actions- I wouldn't mind but I have two older children (who are in footy club today- their choice!) so it's not like they think I'm dumping running and resting (even though I am today).
What annoys me even more is that In the holidays I drop her at 10 and collect at 3- she sleeps for 2 of these hours and I pay £44 a day anyway! Do they really think I'm going to pay for nothing when she loves going there?
Grrrrrrr anyway I'd better get on with my ironing wink (switched on the electric blanket)

Next time just say you're sick of her and you're off out to the pub.

Way more fun than justifying yourself.

I must admit, I always find it strange when parents are off but children go into childcare anyway. I would NEVER say anything to the parents, it's none of my business!

Enjoy your day and don't give her a second thought smile

Lilaclily Mon 14-Apr-14 10:50:00

How rude of her ! I'd complain to the manager that you don't pay £44 throughout the holidays for a guilt trip

NatashaBee Mon 14-Apr-14 10:50:04

I do this with DS - DH and I don't have anyone to babysit so its the only way we can get a few hours to do something together. It's none of the nursery's business!

ThePriory Mon 14-Apr-14 10:51:02

People say flippant comments all the time, why worry? I can't see what the problem is tbh.

minibmw2010 Mon 14-Apr-14 10:51:11

I don't find it strange at all. The parent still has to pay for the service (to keep their childs place) and the parent is entitled to some time off too. Go for it, enjoy your day !!

BrianTheMole Mon 14-Apr-14 10:51:50

Its none of their business. Was she hoping for the £44 for nothing? !

Rowood Mon 14-Apr-14 10:52:09

I do understand that because I used to work in a nursery but why would I pay out £88 am not use it- she is usually there from 8-5 but has shorter days in the holidays unless we go away and she truly loves it there (can wait to get out of the car). Over the 2 weeks holidays she won't be going in next Monday because of the bank holiday.
The pub sounds like a great suggestion- I'd love to see her face! grin

WilsonFrickett Mon 14-Apr-14 10:52:10

I only got this once, my reply that I was off for a bloody mary, then a boozy lunch, then afternoon tea with champers soon shut them up. None of their business!

Groovee Mon 14-Apr-14 10:52:55

I think it's rude. We often had children in when mum and dad were off.

You still have to pay for the place so why not use it.

Rowood Mon 14-Apr-14 10:53:32

Apologies for the typo's!

MrsS1980 Mon 14-Apr-14 10:56:20

If she says it again put on your best confused face and ask if teachers don't have to pay during holidays?

CrohnicallyChanging Mon 14-Apr-14 10:57:03

I was positively encouraged to bring my daughter in when I am off work (also work in a school). Like you say, I'm paying for the place so why not use it! Besides, my daughter was only 8 months when she started going- the 6 week summer holiday especially would be a long time for her to be off.

dontevenblink Mon 14-Apr-14 10:58:02

I'm a teacher and when DD was little I worked two days a week and would always put her into nursery in the holidays. She enjoyed it and I really needed the break too (no family nearby to help so was the only break I got). Plus used to use it catch up on marking, planning etc (and sleeping grin ). As others said, you're still paying for the place so may as well use it, plus it is only 2 days a week!

wheresthelight Mon 14-Apr-14 10:58:39

As I understand it you have to pay whether she is there or not so why not have a day of peace and quiet?!

hercules1 Mon 14-Apr-14 10:58:40

I would find this very annoying and it's none of their business. I would ask her if there is a problem with you using the nursery place during the holidays as she always make the comment. Make out you don't understand what she is saying and are confused because you have paid for the place. That should make her squirm.

Oubliette0292 Mon 14-Apr-14 11:00:07

YANBU - If you are paying for the place they should not make you feel guilty for using it.

I remember when our nursery decided they were going to be open over the Christmas period (for the days that weren't bank holidays) so they could charge us for these days (beforehand they were closed, so our December fees were reduced accordingly). They got very upset that parents actually wanted to send their children in over this period of time.

MrsDeVere Mon 14-Apr-14 11:07:15

when I had my pfb years and years ago I was quite po faced about people dropping their children at the CM (who was my aunt) when they were not working and only lived a few doors down shock

Of course my aunt was being paid if they were there or not so I should have worked out why she was so hmm about it <thick>

I am on DC5 now and love, love, love him to teeny little bits. He is simply the best 4 year old in the world.

But would I keep him at home two days a week if he had a paid for nursery place to go to?

Would I bollocks!

Older children go on play schemes in the holidays even when they have SAHPs don't they?

How is this any different?

Pobblewhohasnotoes Mon 14-Apr-14 11:07:38

YANBU!

I work shifts and happened to work the weekend so I have days off when DS is in nursery this week (2 days). He's still going to nursery!

It's none of the nursery's business. I'm planning on cleaning today (exciting). As parents aren't we allowed any time to ourselves if the opportunity turns up?

BackforGood Mon 14-Apr-14 11:07:57

What MrsS1980 said, exactly.

She's a nosey arse! I don't work but DS2 goes to nursery every afternoon during term time and anyone who wants to judge can go ahead while I watch Home and Away and drink cup after cup of tea

Nocomet Mon 14-Apr-14 11:20:33

Despite being a SAHM DD2 did one day at nursery from 18 months.

Initially 1/2 a days peace, 1/2 a day with DD1 after preschool

Later whole days peace as DD1 was at school.

Utterly saved my sanity. I'm not designed to do DCs 24/7 they do my head.

I'm absolutely certain the OP needs down time from her pupils and her own DD just as much and given Ofsted etc. probably more!

Nocomet Mon 14-Apr-14 11:23:24

And yes mrs DV both my DDs went to play scheme for a week in the summer holidays despite me being at home.

Actually at DD2's nursery when they wet younger as she loved going back.

HandbagsandSnotrags Mon 14-Apr-14 11:25:49

I once took a week's annual leave and sent my dds to nursery.

On Monday the owner's sister (who also did admin in the nursery) saw me meeting dh for lunch in town.

On Tuesday I saw one of the girl's who worked there on a day off - we were both at hairdressers.

On Wednesday my eldest dd and all her friends came past in a crocodile while I was eating lunch (with wine) with a friend, sitting outside the restaurant in the sunshine.

I was also late to pick up on Thursday (delayed train on way back from daytrip to spa!).

If I wasn't judged for that really don't think you should feel any guilt for your action s!

(PS - it was an exceptional set of circumstances which meant I had a week's holiday to waste and cash to fritter. That is not my usual lifestyle - sadly).

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