To cut a long story short I was raped a few months ago and decided not to report it, largely because a) the guy knew where I lived b) I didn't feel it would lead to a prosecution because it happened months ago now and c) because his daughter and my sons go to the same school :/
I recently moved to the same village he lives in and our kids still go to the same school so even though he now doesn't know exactly where I live it's still close enough that I still didn't want to say anything.
About 2 weeks ago I saw him on the bus and he tried to talk to me, he strongly hinted that he had figured out where I had moved too (it's a very small village) and kept saying things like 'what are the odds you'd move in just down the road from me' etc and hinting that he might try and come over. He also mentioned that he was moving away to a different area but I have seen him walking past my flat since then so I know he hasn't yet.
Have recently made a male friend who I was talking to the other night and told him about the whole thing, he lives in the same area the rapist guy used to live in so asked for his name - I told him and he says that he knows him and he actually tried to do the same thing he did to me to df's sister! The only reason he didn't manage it was because her boyfriend was there and got rid of him!
So I'm starting to reconsider if I should report him because:
He's hinted that not only has he figured out where I live but has hinted that he might 'pay me a visit'
If he has done this before then there is someone else who could back up my story despite lack of physical evidence
I'm feeling even more guilty about not saying anything before because he has a girlfriend who he got engaged to at Christmas and 2 young children and she obviously has no idea who she's agreed to marry :(
He is looking more and more like a dangerous predatory person rather than someone who took a random opportunity on one occasion IYSWIM, AIBU to think that I have to report him? He's tried it at least twice so it seems likely he won't stop :/
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To think I have to say something about my rape now?
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extremepie · 13/04/2014 21:54
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