AIBU to offer DS condoms?

(14 Posts)
stella69x Sat 12-Apr-14 22:40:07

He is 14 and away for a week with a youth organisation. I gave him a pack of condoms and he gave them back to me saying he didn't want them, the girls and boys are kept separate at night.

As far as I know he hasn't had a gf yet, my actions were more based on knowing what some me 14 year olds can be up to.

I hope this means he is no where near developing sexual relations as yet and is making me question my actions if this is the case. He was not overly embarrassed by this, as we have a good open relationship in general and talk about any subject together openly.

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fourcorneredcircle Sat 12-Apr-14 22:44:36

Not at all, I've said before 'ok then, I'll leave them here in case you want them another time'. Then bought a new pack before the expiry day runs out and repeated the process.

stella69x Sat 12-Apr-14 22:47:50

Good tip, thank you. Just

stella69x Sat 12-Apr-14 22:51:30

Argh posted to soon, meant to say just unsure how to deal with the praticalities (sp?) of DS growing up so canvassing opinions here as irl all my friends with children still have little ones

Chippednailvarnish Sat 12-Apr-14 22:52:36

Keep doing what you're doing!

juniper44 Sat 12-Apr-14 23:30:20

Teenagers will have sex if they want to have sex. They will take risks if needs be. I think having condoms around is a very good idea.

I took stupid risks as a teenager because I was too embarrassed to buy condoms.

No glove no love!

BerniesBurneze Sun 13-Apr-14 01:04:34

I'd leave them in his bathroom for him to access at will.

I'd also find the nearest family planning clinic, drive past it one day and tell him that's where he needs to go if he or his girlfriend ever need none judgemental confidential advice (and free condoms)

Polonius Sun 13-Apr-14 01:08:23

I'd pop them in his room, so he can stick one in his wallet if and when he feels like he might need one.

I just made sure my pfb knew where the condoms were so that if he needed them, he could go get them. I also told him to let me know if we needed a new pack before they ran out and if he made me a grandma before I was 45 I would castrate him with a rusty spoon grin

MincingOnBy Sun 13-Apr-14 01:32:11

I do think yabu a bit to just hand him them, as if you're expecting him to have sex at 14 it's almost like saying that's what's normal for him to be doing and giving the message that he should go out and do it. He hasn't even had a girlfriend! I think your ds sounds more sensible than you do in this situation to be honest.

Bogeyface Sun 13-Apr-14 02:10:38

Yes and no.

I did this with my son but he was 17, said he didnt need them and to be fair, he didnt!

But at 14? No. If he is the sort to knock someone up at that age then condoms from you wouldnt make a difference because he wouldnt use them anyway.

Polonius Sun 13-Apr-14 03:03:43

I'm not sure it's true that 14 year olds don't use condoms, at all.

Brabra Sun 13-Apr-14 03:49:04

bogeyface shock 'if he is the sort to knock someone up at that age' what a twatty thing to say.
OP, you did the right thing

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