To hate potty training with a passion?

(61 Posts)
Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 15:21:31

It doesn't help that I started DD on the potty a week ago today then this week I've got ill and DP is working away. But I'm slowly going insane.

I HATED potty training DS so I've put this off as long as possible, even though DD is extremely bright in all areas. She's 3 in 4 weeks, so I'm not exactly starting too early.

On her first day, she was fantastic. I expected accidents galore but she barely had any and weed and pooed in the potty/toilet.

Since then it's been downhill! She hasn't actually wet herself for 2 days, but every day since Saturday she's shit herself. She hasn't done one poo in the potty, and now almost refuses to use the toilet.

I ask her every 5 minutes if she needs a wee or a poo, and take her to the potty every 15-30 minutes. But she'll just shit herself regardless. Then she'll come and tell me with a smile on her face, or says she wanted to poo in her knickers, so it's as if she's doing it on purpose!

I can't stand it any more. We're normally so close but I'm feeling really angry towards her about this sad her grandma has taken her for the afternoon as I've got two other DC and still feel poorly.

It's rubbish!

SunshineOutdoors Fri 11-Apr-14 15:23:24

Chocolate button bribing? <obviously as good at this as you are>

SunshineOutdoors Fri 11-Apr-14 15:24:55

One thing worse than changing a shitty nappy - changing shitty pants. Sorry, I'm not being very helpful, I just feel your pain smile

TeenageMutantNinjaTurtle Fri 11-Apr-14 15:28:23

My dd got the hang of it quickly too but then nursery kept putting her in nappies "just in case". She regressed and got all confused and started having regular accidents.

We did Smartie bribery for a couple of weeks (and a very firm word with nursery) and it got it all sorted out. Then she chose to switch from potty to toilet ("big girl") and we dropped the Smarties at the same time.

It IS really frustrating when you know they know but they still have accidents.

Coldlightofday Fri 11-Apr-14 15:30:39

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Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 15:39:21

I need to get some buttons! That's if I ever start to feel better.

I hate throwing away all her shitty pants sad

Teenage - that's terrible re nursery. It was our nursery that said she ought to be starting really which prompted this. I think she likes the attention as I've been telling her off when she does it, and the toddler and 5 year old come running to see what's going on. I've started being silent now when she does it, but it's hard... I want to scream!

TheGruffalo2 Fri 11-Apr-14 15:41:27

Why don't you try this then; home school for a while then send your NT 5 year old child to school without trying to potty train and tell the teachers to do it because it is their job and you didn't fancy doing it.

Yep! hmm

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 15:44:27

That sounds like a perfect solution! for me only

JuniperTisane Fri 11-Apr-14 15:44:30

Buttons? Schmuttons! What worked with DS1 was a bloody great chocolate Santa (it was early january). I got so sick of the pooey pants every day, sometimes more than once, total refusal to poo on the toilet or potty or even on the floor! Poo goes to Pooland on youtube helped a bit, and not losing my temper in front of him as well, but mostly it was the chocolate Santa.

TheGruffalo2 Fri 11-Apr-14 15:47:33

Hang on in there Polly; this too will pass. I find wine helps!

And please don't follow my suggestion (pleading teacher here!) grin

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 15:48:01

Hahahahaha!!! God, I'd happily poo on demand for a giant chocolate Santa. I really ought to ask her grandma to bring something edible with her...

I didn't think of you tube for Poo land.

Oh! Just to add to my perfect week, 16 month DD took her nappy off in her cot this morning and then shit. When I found her, there was poo EVERYWHERE. Chunks on the sheets, smeared all over her fave teddy, in her ears, in between her fingers and toes, all over her face and all over her dummy. Brilliant.

aprilanne Fri 11-Apr-14 15:50:51

well if you don,t mind me saying you have only been doing it about two weeks .and she is only little .

JuniperTisane Fri 11-Apr-14 15:50:55

shock Oh god don't say that, my 15mo boy is adept at removing his nappy too although he hasn't worked out how to get out of his bag so its all contained during the night.

JuniperTisane Fri 11-Apr-14 15:51:30

plenty of easter bunnies about too...

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 15:59:14

April - only 1 week shock it took 4 months with DS. I'd fully understand if she wasn't there yet - but she did poo on the potty on the first day! And use the toilet! So why the refusal now? sad

Juniper - DS and DD1 always used to smear shit all over their cots/bedroom walls. That was depressing!

saintsalive Fri 11-Apr-14 16:09:36

Couldnt stand it myself. Surprised more people dont complain about it tbh. DH took over the job from me, he was better at it.

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 16:18:51

I wish DP could. He works away a lot and I'm a SAHM to naturally it falls to me. Ugh. I woul pay someone to do this... Every morning I feel a sense of dread as it starts again! Sick of hearing my own voice every 2 minutes asking if she needs to go and try...

I'm with bribery as well.
I was having problems with my DD.
Spoke to a friend who suggested a sweet box.
DD got to choose which sweets and then she got 1 sweet for a wee and 2 sweets for a poo.
Took a weekend!!!
I know it's probably not the best way to do it - but if it works!!??

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 16:24:03

I'm sure I did this with DS and it worked ... I'm worried that she'll expect sweets every time after a while though. Although DS didn't, but he didn't really talk at 3, whereas she will tell me what she wants!

Goldrill Fri 11-Apr-14 16:27:18

My DD2 is adept at whipping her nappy off at any given opportunity. Which is why she is still in pop-up vests - she can't undo those. And when she does figure it out I will find something that zips up the back. Or possibly put her in a swimming cossy.

eastdulwichbedwetter Fri 11-Apr-14 16:58:25

Extremely bright in all areas? Really? Is she in the top 1 pct? And how are you qualified to judge?

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 17:06:36

Oh Jesus east, don't get all heavy on me now! Well I'm her mother, I suppose. Probably basing most of this on the fact she started speaking at 16 months.

Maybe her sister is even brighter? She was clever enough to be born on her due date!

Jeez, my house smells of shit right now and I'm already nauseous, no need for the questions hmm

Pollycracker Fri 11-Apr-14 17:07:30

Oh, and it was her key worker at nursery that told me that after doing her developmental check, I wasn't prepared to deny it wink

Hoppinggreen Fri 11-Apr-14 17:20:48

Potty or toilet training early has nothing to do with intelligence or being able to talk.
If it's a real chore then they probably aren't ready - no matter what someone who thinks they've read the manual says!

Scrounger Fri 11-Apr-14 17:32:13

Buttons worked for me too, they still get them as DTD regressed a bit. On the cost benefit analysis of choc buttons vs my sanity, buttons won every time.

DTD when asked why she pooed (sp?) in her pants, smiled and said, "Because I like it". That was really depressing. Her two brothers got it much more quickly, she just wasn't that bothered.

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