is this too much food

(90 Posts)
Bigmrsdragon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:08:48

SIL came around today and conversation turned to the change reported this week that 7 a day is the recommended amount of fruit and veg a day.
She said that her DCs get at least 10 portions a day so it doesn't bother her. I said that all my DCs could do it except DS3 (5) who is very fussy, she asked what I feed him and when I told her she ranted for ages saying I over feed him and if I stopped giving him so much he would eat more fruit.
I don't know if I am or not because I don't know what everyone else feeds their 5 year olds. I think my others used to eat the same amount but it was awhile ago so I may be confused.

Okay so in a typical school day he has

Breakfast- a piece of toast (with nothing on) and a glass of milk
School snack - half an apple
Lunch- a piece of bread folded in half with ham, a babybel, a box of raisins and a glass of water
Dinner- in the winter it is something warm like spaghetti Bolognese or chilli and rice and pudding can be a mouse or yogurt or a homemade cake or crumble. It fits on a child plate/bowl with room to spare.

We have takeaway once every two weeks. They can also have fruit for a snack after school but DS3 doesn't like fruit very much so he doesn't tend to have any.

So is that too much, or not SIL was very upset with me because she thinks I will damage him.

Burmahere Sat 05-Apr-14 20:10:35

Sounds absolutely fine although I might draw the line at feeding him a mouse grin!

Coldlightofday Sat 05-Apr-14 20:10:39

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rabbitlady Sat 05-Apr-14 20:12:10

sounds fine. if the mouse is well-cooked, shouldn't be too much of a problem, should it? they're only small...

MrsKCastle Sat 05-Apr-14 20:12:28

Um, seriously? That seems like very little for a 5 year old, if anything I'd be worried about underfeeding him! Does he have a snack after school?

puntasticusername Sat 05-Apr-14 20:13:29

Sounds perfectly reasonable - plus, don't get too hung up on fruit, it's very sugary. Try and get a good balance between fruit and veg - easily done with your good homecooked dinners, that you can hide lots of veggies in!

ShakkaKhan Sat 05-Apr-14 20:13:50

My DS is 2 years old but I would say that looks fine for a 5yo, definitely not too much. If anything I'd say it wasn't very much, it's a similar amount to what my DS would eat.

But all children have different appetites, like adults, so as long as he is getting a good diet with lots of nutrients etc it's fine. Do you put lots of veg etc in the bolognese, for eg? If thats a typical day it's quite low in veggies perhaps.

itsmeitscathy Sat 05-Apr-14 20:14:49

How do you catch the mice? I'm interested, seems like a good money saver during the recession.

MrsHoolie Sat 05-Apr-14 20:15:30

Sounds completely normal to me!

itsmeitscathy Sat 05-Apr-14 20:15:34

Ps- that sounds like a reasonable menu

Bigmrsdragon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:15:56

Oh hell but DS loves his mouse blush ..... curses self for not re-reading my own post

Tessdurbevilliespoon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:16:34

Apart from feeding him rodents grin I'd say that's fine re quantity and everything has nutritional value. However, I personally don't give my daughter raisins or any other dried fruits because they are high in sugar and stick to the teeth, however there are many worse things to give him. I also think that you could mention to SIL that fruit is very high in sugar, so over feeding it is not as beneficial as she seems to think preach I would also tell her to mind her own.

Herecomesthesciencebint Sat 05-Apr-14 20:19:12

Well my six year old sets double that!
Typical school day:-
Large bowl porridge or two shredded wheat, milk, strawberries or dried apricots sometimes toast and butter a bit later.
Apple for snack
Hit dinner or PL which would be two slices bread as sarnie with tuna and cucumber, blueberries, peppers, yoghurt, cheese and a biscuit
After school slice if bread and butter
Tea similar to you plus rice pud or yoghurt or fruit etc .

Often then asks for cereal if tea was early or bed is late

He is slim and active sock early right for him

They should eat to appetite provided offered decent food and seems right for their metabolism.

Ignore her you are doing a great job.

Tessdurbevilliespoon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:20:19

I would try to add some more dairy if your child can tolerate it? (instead of the raisins) Maybe a babybel, yoghurt or similar? As it seems a bit low on calcium and could maybe do with the fat too?

Bigmrsdragon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:20:41

Yes there is a lot of veg in the dinner usually tomatoes,mushrooms,carrot,pepper and anything else in the fridge and sweetcorn or peas mixed in with the spaghetti or rice.

WhoNickedMyName Sat 05-Apr-14 20:21:11

I think it's actually not very much, and what he does eat until teatime isn't that great really.

Herecomesthesciencebint Sat 05-Apr-14 20:21:20

So many spelling mistakes sorry !!

Burmahere Sat 05-Apr-14 20:22:54

Don't forget that it's complex sugar in fruit though - people are obsessed with not feeding fruit at the moment. I genuinely think his diet sounds absolutely fine and am a bit hmm at posters saying he is not getting enough food. If he is healthy and has a good appetite then I would say you are doing everything right.

Bigmrsdragon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:25:16

The school insist on some fruit in the DCs lunch box which is why he has raisins because he doesn't want two apples in a day and he won't eat any other fruit.

Tessdurbevilliespoon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:25:39

Big, would you care to offer some advice as well as criticism?

Tessdurbevilliespoon Sat 05-Apr-14 20:26:50

Sorry, wicked not Big [dodgy aging eyes]

CombineBananaFister Sat 05-Apr-14 20:28:02

I just don't think I'd worry too much if I were you, each child is different and as long as they are getting a fairly healthy balanced diet and it's enough for them, then it's ok.
Ds would eat way more than that and i skinny as a rake but he wke at 6am and DOES.NOT.STOP. until 7pm aargh!! but each child is different so I wouldn't compare - therein lies the road to madness grin
By even thinking about it you're ding right by your Ds.

Scootandfruit Sat 05-Apr-14 20:30:07

Absolutely what MrsKCastle says.

No way is that too much food. Your sil is wrong.

CombineBananaFister Sat 05-Apr-14 20:30:51

Jesus - sorry fucking appalling post grammer wise. just finished work and in wind down time wink

Scootandfruit Sat 05-Apr-14 20:32:45

Dinners sound good and healthy but doesn't he get quote hungry after school?

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