To just want to poo in peace?

(35 Posts)

I never get to go to the loo in peace. DS is always barging in and talking/moaning or climbing on me. It's not just going to the loo either, I can't remember the last time I had a peaceful, uninterrupted soak in the bath without having to get out to deal with something or a certain little man crying until I let him "get in", or DH entering the bathroom, sitting on the loo and interrogating me about some arbitrary thing!

DH doesn't seem to see what I am complaining about or the importance of just having a few minutes a day of head-space to think! Please tell me it's not just me!

2rebecca Sun 06-Apr-14 16:05:16

I wouldn't live in a house without a bathroom lock. Ours can be operated from the outside with a screwdriver if a small sprog locked themselves in but the lock is quite stiff so if you're old enough to lock yourself in you generally can unlock it and we've never had a problem.
Anyone screaming and banging on the bathroom door just for attention would get short shrift and wouldn't do it again.
My husband knows I like my privacy and knocks and waits if he wants me. Yours obviously doesn't know you aren't happy with his intrusiveness.
YABU for whining about the issue if you don't intend to fix it and just want to play martyrs.

alemci Sun 06-Apr-14 14:44:06

re think your no lock policy for your own sanity. you are entitled to go to the loo in peace.

our bathroom has an open on the outside lock

alemci Sun 06-Apr-14 14:37:46

lock the door. I used to love 5 minutes peace to about the elephant, as did my dear dcsmile

I think it's very rude and inhospitable not to have a high lock. I never lock the bathroom door, and nor does DH, except when we have visitors.

Was at a family gathering at BILs recently and we all had to make an announcement when we were going to the loo as there was no lock on it - most peculiar and undignified! hmm

Guitargirl Sun 06-Apr-14 14:28:15

Cardibach - yes, absolutely, we go and stay with family members a few times a year and they don't have a lock on their bathroom door, it's a real pain.

We have one which can be opened from the outside with a coin. It works the other way too, we came home from the park the other day with a friend of DD's who we had met in the park for an unplanned play/tea. When we got home DP was in the bath with the door open and I locked it from the outside so DD's friend wasn't totally traumatised at seeing DD's Dad in the bath...!

PigletJohn Sun 06-Apr-14 14:24:54

can there really be people who have never seen a bathroom lock turn and release?

cardibach Sun 06-Apr-14 14:09:02

Have you no lock brigade no thought for visitors? I hat going in someone else's house when I can't lock the door - makes me feel very insecure! Also - if your kids interrupt you, there is a high probability they will barge in on a guest. I can assure you that however much they say it is OK, they hate it when that happens. A high lock is the answer if you can't trust your DCs to leave it alone when told to (that worked for me: 'DD, don't lock the door,' 'OK mum,' no issue)or else one of those locks that can be opened from the outside with a screwdriver.

SinisterBuggyMonth Sun 06-Apr-14 00:46:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DoJo Sat 05-Apr-14 22:35:34

I don't believe in locks after one of the dc managed to lick themselves in.

Ignoring the hilarious/disturbing typo (grin) - why not just put them up high? My son will have to be as tall as me to reach ours and if he can't work out how to exit a loo by then we will have bigger issues...

AmIthatWintry Sat 05-Apr-14 22:15:30

I know this is OT, but I can no longer poo in peace thanks to a thread on here two days ago.

It was about <shudder> rats, and I guarantee if you read it, you won't want to be lingering in the bathroom

am still traumatised

FutTheShuckUp Sat 05-Apr-14 22:13:14

Proper howling at 'poo time is you time'

Janethegirl Sat 05-Apr-14 21:58:01

I don't believe in locks after one of the dc managed to lick themselves in. All locks were then removed, and I don't think they have ever been replaced. Not necessary in my view as door closed equals occupied.

CoffeeTea103 Sat 05-Apr-14 21:54:56

It's not rocket science, Buy a lock and move on. confused

Fleta Sat 05-Apr-14 21:52:16

Just don't tolerate it.

I think a lock for a bathroom door is a must. It can be placed high enough for children to be unable to access, but still allows privacy.

But then DD following me to the loo was simply not something I would ever allowed

ItsNotATest Sat 05-Apr-14 21:51:40

I refuse to believe that anyone is scarred for life by not witnessing their parents poo.

Just buy a lock and stop moaning about something so easily fixable confused

DoJo Sat 05-Apr-14 21:51:13

No lock at all? Don't you ever have guests?

Janethegirl Sat 05-Apr-14 21:47:55

I always found if I closed the door, the dcs would follow me but if I left it open I was left in peace.

whois Sat 05-Apr-14 21:45:08

No lock on the bathroom door? You're just making a rod for your own back.

Buy a lock. Tell his an no one is to disturb you. DC learns after a few times that crying outside the door doesn't result in it opening. Honestly. Be a martyr, get taken advantage of.

I don't remember ever being in the bathroom while my parents had a poo. Hasn't harmed our close relationship.

sarahquilt Sat 05-Apr-14 21:25:38

No lock on the bathroom door is nuts. I'd definitely have one and be adamant that no one
is coming in til you're done.

Odaat Sat 05-Apr-14 20:38:44

Lol Madey !

cardibach Sat 05-Apr-14 19:59:17

I read this loads on MN and am confused
I never had interrupted poos and I was a single parent from when DD was about 18 months. There is actually no need for children (and definitely not adults) to interrupt toilet or bath time. I just don't get it.

Madeyemoodysmum Sat 05-Apr-14 19:16:46

Are you in a park?

Sorry read other thread

greenfolder Sat 05-Apr-14 18:46:49

get a door wedge- 99p from tesco- problem sorted.

It's not really a privacy issue. We are a very open family. For me it is just really about having a few minutes to myself. A whole bath would be a luxury!

Glad to hear I'm not the only one!

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Sat 05-Apr-14 18:41:48

This is the one and only cause of resentment in my marriage. DH takes a lovely long relaxing crap every morning. I have a 5 second poo with a toddler trying to pull my clothes off or or all the loo roll into the bath. I don't even know why we fell into this default position- I'm not a sahm so he does plenty of the childcare stuff.

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