there is way too much pressure to EBF?

(362 Posts)
ArtFine Sat 05-Apr-14 14:53:39

Just that really.

I've had a difficult journey with BF, and when I look back I know it would have been better and much more healthier for my baby (forget me) if I hadn't breastfed. She has CMPA and other allergies (and had awful silent reflux etc), and this would have been picked up very early on had she been bottle fed, and saved her a lot of pain and tears. hmm

Why is there so much pressure to EBF? Why is it always assumed that breast milk is THE best?

What's the harm for example in giving one bottle of formula per day so that babies get used to the bottle?

TheRealAmandaClarke Thu 10-Apr-14 06:39:47

Yy writer and noble

Retropear Thu 10-Apr-14 07:26:30

A law pmsl.grin

We have far more need for laws re feeding kids a healthy diet,providing exercise and getting kids away from screens and onto books.Personally I don't see why if bfing needs to get pushed pre birth other parenting choices that benefit children far more shouldn't particularly when the outcomes can be directly linked(unlike a lot of research on bfing) and would have a far bigger impact on health as regards the nation as a whole.

Oh and re forcing mums to breast feed.It is a hideous experience for many.Providing a diet rich in fruit and veg for a baby/ child is far easier to do and doesn't involve forcing women to use their bodies to do something they don't want to do.

Women use formula in this country because we have a great safe alternative.We're very lucky to have the choice.

I actually think the pushing causes more damage than benefits. Sooo many parents think bm is some magic elixir of life and they have no need to follow other for more important health choices as regards their dc as they're covered by some kind of breast milk insurance. The message also infers bf is more important than any other parenting choice-it isn't. Sooo many studies point to the benefits of bfing being over inflated.Imvho and e after colostrum has been consumed(which the maj of babies get)switching to formula is one of the least important decisions I've made to date so far.

I worry far,far more re other things I don't always get right.We have priorities so wrong is this country.

noblegiraffe Thu 10-Apr-14 08:48:42

I'd been on MN a long time, seen an awful lot of dubious parenting opinions expressed, but not once have I seen 'I don't need to feed my DC a healthy diet/make them exercise because they were bfed'.

So I don't know where you get this idea that 'soooo many' parents think that way.

Laquila Thu 10-Apr-14 09:12:36

Retropear what are the studies that point to the benefits of breastfeeding being over-inflated? Thanks

Laquila Thu 10-Apr-14 09:14:46

Also, where is the evidence that says the majority of babies get colostrum, please?

TheScience Thu 10-Apr-14 09:20:29

The NHS keeps track - about 78% of babies are breastfed at birth/first feed iirc. You will probably find it if you google "Infant Feeding Survey"

Laquila Thu 10-Apr-14 09:29:40

Thanks Science

Fascinating - that's my productivity gone for the day!

TheScience Thu 10-Apr-14 09:38:22

It is interesting - iirc about 1/3 of babies are still breastfed at 6 months, although only 1% are ebf. Not sure if they collect stats on bf after 6 months though.

Laquila Thu 10-Apr-14 09:46:50

I'm amazed at the 1% ebf at 6 months - I wasn't expecting that to be sky-high but thought it'd perhaps be closer to 10%.

I'm not convinced about the breastfed at birth statistic, though - it apparently includes all babies who were put to the breast at all at first, even if it was just once. It took about 4 tries before my newborn got anything out at all, so personally that seems a bit misleading to me.

TheScience Thu 10-Apr-14 09:51:18

I know lots of breastfeeders, including a few who breastfed til 1-3 years, but none were ebf at 6 months - all had had formula or food by then.

TheRealAmandaClarke Thu 10-Apr-14 10:43:48

I'm not sure anyone was agreeing with the law enforcing bf retropear
And I still can't agree that that bf is really pushed tbh.
I definitely can't concurr with your view that ppl who ebf believe it negates the need to practice other healthy behaviours because he bf is some kind of "magic elixir"

I think it's such an emotive topic because of how we're conditioned to feel about our breasts.
There are pictures of "tits" everywhere. We don't own our own bodies really. Young teenagers are having boob jobs, sometimes on the nhs! It's ridiculous that we have this view of what our bodies are for.

Also, it takes a degree of commitment, to ebf to 6 mo and bf beyond that (and that can feel unfair)I've had to make some significant lifestyle considerations. I bloody love a drink I do. But that's obviously curbed when you're ebf, if not stopped altogether. Anecdotally, it would seem my DCs are more likely to have slept through earlier of theyd been ff or especially ff by someone else. my dcs are more "reliant" in many ways on me (dd still feeds)
I've postponed a dental procedure that I really want done, because I'm trying to let my dd have my milk as long as poss as per the who advice.
I have been lucky to actually like bf. but it hasn't been easy.
So I can see why it's an emotive topic.
I can see why ppl feel defensive
But I still don't think that equates to "pressure" I can't see that, objectively speaking, there is any.

KL07 Thu 10-Apr-14 13:12:20

I do find it sad that around a quarter of babies don't even get the colostrum. Even if you've no intention of BF, I think all babies should get this unless there are truly extenuating circumstances. It's not much to ask given the benefits IMO. EBF for 6 months + is a different matter though.

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