to think the morbidly obese woman at work should stop telling people they are losing too much weight?

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Waterfalls1 Sat 05-Apr-14 09:26:20

There is a woman at work who is seriously morbidly obese. She is trying to lose weight. She has managed 1/2 stone since January. There are quite a few people at work who want to lose weight and have started to go running together. 3 of them have lost a significant amount of weight and now fall into the normal BMI.

We have a staff kitchen and sitting area and she has been talking to the people who have lost weight one by one and advising them not to lose any more weight and that they didn't need to lose any weight anyway.

Another guy has done the fasting diet and lost a amazing 4 stone. She has told him it is seriously unhealthy and he will get brain damage.

AIBU to think she should just shut up and focus on herself?

Why don't YOU just shut up and focus on yourself?

Waterfalls1 Sat 05-Apr-14 09:28:49

Northernlurker don't tell me you are one of the obese ones too giving out dieting advice grin

ArmyDad Sat 05-Apr-14 09:31:35

Ah fat people thread. Time to read lots of the same old tired excuses. I'm fat because...

As for weight loss I'd seek advice from a professional

Petitgrain Sat 05-Apr-14 09:32:01

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FutTheShuckUp Sat 05-Apr-14 09:32:04

Wow waterfalls- rude and presumptuous? Go you

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 05-Apr-14 09:32:10

Sorry but you are coming across err on the bitchy side.

Petitgrain Sat 05-Apr-14 09:33:04

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Hoppinggreen Sat 05-Apr-14 09:33:28

No you are not BU to think she should shut up and focus on herself, you both should

The only advice I'm giving out is in my first post on this thread.

runnerBeanee Sat 05-Apr-14 09:59:33

Yanbu if she's giving out bad advice, her weight is irrelevant if she's telling people they'll get brain damage!

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 05-Apr-14 10:04:57

If she is actually a person, she sounds caring if somewhat misguided.

SecretNutellaFix Sat 05-Apr-14 10:05:11

So she herslef is trying to lose weight and it's coming off slowly.

Good for her.

Whilst the brain damage comment is a bit off, she is right that if the others are losing weight very quickly, if they stop "dieting" they are more likely to gain the weight back on which is unhealthy.

I know a few people who have done things like lighter life and fasting and weight watchers. Every single one has gained back nearly all or more than they lost.

Why are you sticking your nose in anyway?

Latara Sat 05-Apr-14 10:07:02

When you are bigger, slimmer people seem almost too slim! It's all about perception.

Anyway she's giving out bad advice.

Thattimeofyearagain Sat 05-Apr-14 10:09:20

What's it to you, op ?

AlpacaYourThings Sat 05-Apr-14 10:09:26

Some really bitchy threads this morning.

Why does it matter to you, OP?

Oh, because she is over weight she isn't allowed an opinion on dieting?! Of course hmm

TheHamster Sat 05-Apr-14 10:13:04

YADNBU. She should focus on herself- not necessarily meaning losing weight, but the only thing which should be interfered with by her is her own weight. It could be insecurity or jealousy (or, I suppose, but doubt, she could genuinely believe it?) but whatever the reason, it is rude to comment on other people's weight without being asked specifically by them.

WooWooOwl Sat 05-Apr-14 10:16:42

YANBU.

She shouldn't be commenting on other people's weight whether they are gaining or losing it, or whether she's obese or tiny. It's rude.

But when she's making bullshit comments about brain damage, I think it would be perfectly acceptable to tell her about the damage she has done to her own body.

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime Sat 05-Apr-14 10:17:01

YANBU. she is discouraging others from improving their own health due to her own issues. shoe probably feels undermined by being heavier than them and being less successful at loosing weight.

however it must be tough for her.

littlemisssarcastic Sat 05-Apr-14 10:17:59

What does ODFOD mean? confused

cleofatra Sat 05-Apr-14 10:19:07

Just let them fight their own battles OP

CoffeeTea103 Sat 05-Apr-14 10:19:09

Yanbu, she should be the last person giving out weight loss advice.

Comeatmefam Sat 05-Apr-14 10:19:49

People, people...it's the school holidays, let's not worry ourselves about this (OP I give you 5/10).

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 05-Apr-14 10:20:28

Agreed.

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