to think this was a little OTT?

(111 Posts)
aworkingmummy Fri 04-Apr-14 11:02:49

Picking DS up from nursery last night and another Mum was there collecting her DD. She had her 5 yr old DS with her.
Her DS said "Mummy let's go up the stairs" (there are lifts and stairs).

Now I would have replied along the lines of Yes lets go.

She however said "Now is that a command or a request hmm?"
Her DS "A request Mummy"
Her " And how do we phrase a request properly hmmm?"
Her DS "Mummy may we go up the stairs please?"
Her "Now that's much better, I will listen to you know you are speaking properly"

Me and DH were just stood there looking at each other thinking WTAF??
Then I was thinking - was that OTT or am I just really common to think it was??!

Gruntfuttock Fri 04-Apr-14 15:00:16

sezamcgregor So you would have corrected your DS had he said "Mummy let's go up the stairs" would you? That's talking properly as far as I'm concerned so doesn't need any correcting.

Normalisavariantofcrazy Fri 04-Apr-14 15:02:00

Yabu

I always say 'erm what words missing' when the kids ask for something and expect the gap to be filled with a please

Joysmum Fri 04-Apr-14 16:06:59

OP as a parent yourself I'd hope you'd understand about contact being important. Perhaps you'd do well to remember that the next time you judge based on a snippet although of course there are many people who love to feel superior and don't judge others as they'd hope to be themselves

Sparklingbrook Fri 04-Apr-14 16:26:31

confused

BeverleyMoss Fri 04-Apr-14 16:31:50

what's contact got to do with it?

I am more confused than ever now. I'm out.

charlietangoteakettlebarbeque Fri 04-Apr-14 16:42:14

The way this thread has evolved has completely flummoxed me.

Sparklingbrook Fri 04-Apr-14 16:46:02

I am glad I'm not the only one. I am baffled now. I realise Tilly went off on a tangent due to her own experiences , but now the contact thing?

I'd guess verbal contact between parent and child is what Joysmum means.

Not exactly talking for the sake of it, but just reinforcing preferred ways of asking/suggesting something.

And Tilly has a right to suggest that the choice of some words in this thread to describe the effects of the exchange are rather extreme, given that there's no evidence that the DS was remotely arsed about having to rephrase it.

kotinka Fri 04-Apr-14 17:17:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Comeatmefam Fri 04-Apr-14 18:13:36

So many people have missed the point. Most of us on this thread believe in manners and teaching children manners. What this woman did was get her son to say something in a very odd, stilted way when it was not a situation to need permission. As others have said he needs permission to climb the stairs? Or phrase it in such a way!

ItsAFuckingVase Fri 04-Apr-14 18:14:22

I think Tilly's posts were a perfect example of someone who saps the joy out of other people. Utterly bizzare!

Nothing wrong with teaching your child to talk properly, but there was nothing at all wrong with what the boy said in the first place. And at 5 I'd have thought it a positive thing to be making polite suggestions anyway???

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now