To wish someone would invent a machine that can measure who is more tired?

(30 Posts)
lchats Wed 02-Apr-14 10:47:27

It would would solve 99.9% of arguments between my dh who works full time and me, on maternity leave at home with two small dds...smile

brokenhearted55a Wed 02-Apr-14 10:50:49

Quit arguing and both be a bit more sympathetic and understanding. You are both just as tired but in different ways.

Having done mat leave and working FT, the working is easier and you get to have a wee in peace.

Greenstone Wed 02-Apr-14 10:54:08

You're more tired.
The woman is always more tired.
If a third-gendered martian descended from on high with a clipboard, it would come to that conclusion.
Fact.

AllDirections Wed 02-Apr-14 10:56:48

YANBU but in the absence of such a machine I'm on your side OP grin

notso Wed 02-Apr-14 11:07:42

I would also like to suggest a machine to measure what is more painful, giving birth or being kicked in the balls.
DH says it must be the balls because I was smiling after giving birth, he has never smiled after a kick in the balls hmm

He does however agree that being at home is more knackering.

JanePurdy Wed 02-Apr-14 11:17:02

I've given up on this. He is always more tired.

Mind you though, I find it more tiring working than I did as a SAHM.

MunchMunch Wed 02-Apr-14 11:21:26

YANBU You are more tired though!

It's the same with my df, he's always the worst. I've got a headache he's got a migraine, I've got a cold he's got flu, etc etc etc grin

TruffleOil Wed 02-Apr-14 11:28:15

Ha! What a clever idea. You should invent one.

candycoatedwaterdrops Wed 02-Apr-14 12:10:45

Surely it's tiring in different ways?

Guiltismymaster Wed 02-Apr-14 12:19:41

haha, love this title.

'Ugh, I'm really tired'
'I'm exhausted too, so tired.'
...stare at each other....

Crinkle77 Wed 02-Apr-14 12:20:04

My partner has a manual job and seems to think that he has more right to be tired than me. I work in a university library which is not physically demanding but is mentally challenging so sometimes when I finish I feel like my head is spinning.

lchats Wed 02-Apr-14 12:21:48

I've no doubt we are both really really tired (in different ways) grin but how often is this really the crux of any argument...

Basically I need a referee to move into my spare room and decide who should do the pick ups, night feeds, ironing etc... Oh and of course tell husbands that being kicked in the balls is a light spanking in comparison to giving brith wink

Stinklebell Wed 02-Apr-14 12:22:39

YANBU

Although it should also have an option to detect who is more ill

That's another bone of contention in our house

ProlificPenguin Wed 02-Apr-14 12:24:51

You made me laugh, thank you for that as I am having a SHIT week. Yes more shitter than all of you!! Another machine needed?

lchats Wed 02-Apr-14 12:46:16

Ooh it could have lots of options....

- who is most ill
- who is having the most shit week
- who's birth was most painful (for when you have friends round grin)

JimmyCorkhill Wed 02-Apr-14 13:03:06

There is something! Well, it measures how much sleep you have had. I suppose 'tiredness' is relative.
It's called a Fitbit Flex.
It's a pedometer/alarm clock/lots of other thingummys...but it measures your sleep. So every morning DH and I check how long we slept and then we have proof! It also tells you if you woke during the night and how restless your sleep was.
Don't ask me how it works but I bloody wish I had it when DD2 was newborn grin

dammitsue Wed 02-Apr-14 13:43:27

Oh but no, nooooo, you are all wrong. You see, lack of asleep affects men waaaaaaaaaaay more than women, who are biologically designed to not sleep. Fact. not

KatesterNI Fri 04-Apr-14 23:12:46

I am currently on maternity leave with a four month old baby (who won't take a bottle) and a six and three year old who are part time in child care and the rest of the time with me. My husband travels at least one if not two weeks a month but apparently never sleeps well in hotels and "has" to go for a few drinks at nights with work colleagues so all in all he finds it all very tiring!! In fact so tiring that he needs to golf on a Saturday afternoon to clear his head!!!!

I am DEFINITELY more tired!!!! angry

KatesterNI Fri 04-Apr-14 23:13:35

Oh yes and apparently I am on holiday not maternity leave!!!!

deakymom Fri 04-Apr-14 23:20:36

my husband falls asleep before the kids go to bed (on the sofa snoring like a chainsaw) i clean etc then go to bed at midnight i get up at two three and four for good at five kick him out at 8am to take son to school and he makes out he is tired and does everything everyone at schools is ahhh did mommy have a lie in i usually comment as if then i replied no i didnt ive been up 18 hours its only 3pm! i was totally embarrassed by myself!

nirishma Sat 05-Apr-14 11:15:24

I won finally after seven months by deliberately choosing the overnight stay and welcome dinner option at a conference the other week. It was bliss grin.

Despite travelling and a full day of lectures and getting home late I felt refreshed and reenergised and it lasted for a good few days.

HE STILL complained how exhausting it was even though I've trained dd to sleep 5.30 pm til 8.30am until the next tooth comes.

damibasiamille Sun 06-Apr-14 21:54:50

. . . "trained dd to sleep 5.30pm to 8.30am" shock shock ?!?!

Do you give lessons, nirishma ?

CrohnicallyChanging Sun 06-Apr-14 22:07:32

Jimmy that wouldn't take extenuating circumstances into account- such as the fact that I have a couple of autoimmune disorders and am always more tired than a healthy person after equal amounts of sleep. So I fear it could be used against me 'even though you got up for DD in the night, I actually had less sleep so I need the lie in more than you'

Lovecat Sun 06-Apr-14 22:09:33

Yes, the extra function of 'who is more ill' would also be needed.

This needs to be a thing. Let's put together a presentation and take it to Dragon's Den... grin

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