Wedding anniversary party and present

(76 Posts)
HarlotOTara Tue 25-Mar-14 21:16:34

Dh and I have been invited to a 10th wedding anniversary party. I was thinking of giving a card and a tin of beans - as a joke as 10th is tin I think. Dh brought home the invite which has a poem asking for money instead of presents so they can go away for the weekend.

Aibu to think this is a cheek and rather crass?

Oooh it's my 1st wedding anniversary this weekend... Plots for small windfall in 9yrs time! grin

Aeroflotgirl Tue 25-Mar-14 22:37:02

What a load if fecking bollox, that poem is envy. Cheeky fecker a asking for gifts, you've already had a wedding!

LittleBearPad Tue 25-Mar-14 22:40:34

Cheeky sods.

mameulah Tue 25-Mar-14 22:55:09

I wouldn't go because their stupid poem would annoy me too much.

I would get out of it by sending a card and giving them a cheap bottle of something fizzy.

RuddyDuck Wed 26-Mar-14 05:38:25

I have never heard of a 10th anniversary party. And to ask for money??? shock

Dh and I don't usually remember celebrate our wedding anniversary, but we did go away for our 10th, just for the weekend. We wouldn't have dreamed of asking others to pay for it. It's our 20th anniversary this year, but as it falls slap bang in the middle of dc doing GCSEs and A levels, we won't be going away.

Cant believe the cheek of sone people. I wouldn't go to the party or give them any money. As others have said, if they can't afford a weekend away without asking for money, then don't have a party and use that money instead. Crap poem as well.

aGirlDownUnder1 Wed 26-Mar-14 05:59:21

I honestly can't believe people think it's acceptable ask for money as a present especially with a cringeworthy poem and it is only a tenth wedding anniversary. I probably would've just gotten the couple a card.

We never had an anniversary party except on our first year which was just a BBQ in the back yard with my family

I wouldn't even bring a card now. YANBU!

vexedfoxy Wed 26-Mar-14 06:09:44

That poem made my skin crawl...............No way would I go to that party.....

Boris13 Wed 26-Mar-14 06:26:57

carryondancing

That is great!!!!!

Boris13 Wed 26-Mar-14 06:30:58

Have an anniversary party - If u must

Don't have a party if you can't afford a weekend away...

Wedding present poems asking for money are bad enough!!!
I would always just buy something!!

I wouldn't think of buying a present, (unless very close to me, and we had a private joke and there was a little quirky something...
I would not give money...

cheeky cheeky bustards!!!!

Gooseysgirl Wed 26-Mar-14 06:35:31

I am stunned.... cheeky feckers!! They wouldn't even get a card from me. gringringringringrin Kens and Carrys

LoveBeingCantThinkOfAName Wed 26-Mar-14 06:38:08

Yuck grabby and horrible. Makes me think they've invite loads of people just to get some money.

BalloonSlayer Wed 26-Mar-14 06:44:07

"To save you from all the searching and guessing
We would love a weekend away for some fun"

and

"Now that we have saved you all the fuss
We can't wait for you to celebrate with us!"

- I love the way they imply they are doing YOU a favour

So glad to hear you got to ten
No one thought you'd last till then
Still, it's a bit odd you're holding
A party - unless the wedding's golden
And though we're pleased you are still happy
You seem to have become a trifle grabby
So we'll just wish you lots of luck
And as for money - off you fuck!

ceres Wed 26-Mar-14 07:12:33

the poem is awful.

asking for presents is rude.

BUT if you are going to a party it is just as bad to turn up with your hands hanging. I don't understand people saying go but don't buy them anything - that's just as bad imo.

so I agree with your husband - politely decline and leave them to it.

Bunbaker Wed 26-Mar-14 08:57:24

"BUT if you are going to a party it is just as bad to turn up with your hands hanging. I don't understand people saying go but don't buy them anything - that's just as bad imo."

I don't agree, not for an anniversary party. We never go to parties anyway so I have no idea what party etiquette these days is, but when we used to go we just took a bottle.

Why not print this thread off and send it to the party givers. They probably don't realise what a social faux pas they have made.

Years ago a friend had a 30th birthday party and asked for money in the invitations. Some people took offence and just didn't bother going.

Unexpected Wed 26-Mar-14 09:00:29

I want you to go, print out all these poems in different cards and pop them in the "Moneybox" for them to enjoy after the party! Or is that just tooooo mean ........

justmyview Wed 26-Mar-14 10:42:47

I think fair enough to have an anniversary party, but I would think small present (as you would normally take to a birthday party) is fine. Money is cheeky.

We're hoping to have a party for our 10th this year if we can afford it. I think ten is really something to celebrate (cos I've been divorced grin)

I want people to not bring gifts - how do I do that?

Perfectlypurple Wed 26-Mar-14 11:04:25

balloonslayer I love that one. op send that one.

How grabby is that. We don't even expect cards for ours. It's something that is important to us.

Perfectlypurple Wed 26-Mar-14 11:06:05

Laurie, you could ask a charity you support for a collection box and state on the invite no gifts but there will be a collection box for your favourite charity. We did this for an elderly relatives birthday.

pianodoodle Wed 26-Mar-14 11:29:02

I'd go and eat all the food, get DH drunk and tell him the money box was a urinal just before we left...

oldwomaninashoe Wed 26-Mar-14 11:47:19

I used to work for a well known china company in a big store and we used to have a wedding list service, which was very popular.

One day a woman came in and said that she wanted to set up a list ( on her list was a whole dinner service for eight about �2,500 worth) it transpired that this wasn't for a wedding but for people coming to her 40th (ruby) wedding party to know what to buy her and her DH.

I was taken a bit aback, never having had this sort of "list" requested before. She was given the "slips" (about the list) to go in with her invitations.

All in total 4 cereal/fruit bowls were purchased from her list!!!

So you can see what her guests thought of that!

WilsonFrickett Wed 26-Mar-14 11:51:22

My flabber is actually ghasted, firstly by the toe-curlingly teeth-itchingly awfulness of that 'poem', secondly by the cheek of it!

FFS. Do people do this? shock

pictish Wed 26-Mar-14 11:52:43

Balloonslayer that's hilarious. grin

Comeatmefam Wed 26-Mar-14 11:54:16

You want cash for a weekend away
You really think friends should pay?
You better beware
(Not that I care)
That most guests will say 'NO WAY'

pianodoodle Wed 26-Mar-14 11:57:41

Roses are red, violets are blue... You're a dreadful ould couple of cheeky money grabbing assholes so we'd rather sit at home sticking pins in our eyes than come to your poxy do... thank you.

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