To take a birthday cake in to play group.

(44 Posts)
Buckteethjeff Tue 25-Mar-14 09:45:48

Just that really, it's dd 1st birthday coming soon and we are going out on the day to somewhere she will enjoy. Just a few family and friends.

I was wondering if I took a cake in to the play group the next day, it could be shared at snack time between everybody. We normally have toast, milk, fruit.

I was wondering if the play leader was would think I would be taking the piss as in 'I'm trying to get a cheap party'

And

What if some of the children are not allowed to eat it?

Before I came on MN I would have just turned up with the cake but kinda wary now.

It's a stay and play session.

bbkl Tue 25-Mar-14 09:51:19

Why don't you ask the playleader what they think about it the next time you go to the group? Rather than worrying about you trying to scam a cheap party, if it was me I'd be thinking about possible mess from sticky icing, children with allergies etc.
At that age the children won't be bothered anyway.

Forgettable Tue 25-Mar-14 09:53:01

Lovely idea, happens often at toddler groups.

You could take some of those teeny raisin boxes for alternatives?

SunnyRandall Tue 25-Mar-14 09:53:06

I would. This happened regularly at playgroup when I used to take dd. For extra brownie points, take enough for the parents too!

ThefutureMrsTatum Tue 25-Mar-14 09:56:34

I sent mini cupcakes in when it was DD's 3rd birthday at nursery. The staff were really grateful as it saved them preparing snack and it was a treat for the kids. Also, MIL had baked 3 dozen of them and I didn't have another option bar eat them all!

wigglesrock Tue 25-Mar-14 10:01:06

I took a cake into my dds parent & toddler group a few weeks ago. One of the children there can't have cake so I had a wee party bag filler (I think it was a wee toy figure) in for her. But most people bring a cake/ buns into the group for birthdays. usually eaten by the parents smile

MiniSoksMakeHardWork Tue 25-Mar-14 10:07:01

I'd take cake. If you've been going a while you'll likely have noticed who does and doesn't eat that sort of thing. Haribo are a useful alternative for anyone who may have allergies. My niece has them as an alternative due to soya/dairy/egg/gluten (anything cake) allergies and intolerances.

Buckteethjeff Tue 25-Mar-14 10:22:09

Thanks guys.

Gonna get my bake on - grin

Will take alternative treats , good idea.

Will mention it to play leader before hand to give her heads up.

Burren Tue 25-Mar-14 10:31:11

It quite often happens at the two toddler groups my son attends - sometimes the child is also having an actual party elsewhere and this is just a way of spreading the cheer, sometimes not. I would have done it for my son's first birthday, but he was ill, and we both spent it lying on the sofa. I will probably take cake or cakes to the group when he turns two in a couple of weeks - for the sake of stickiness, I will probably try to make something that isn't covered in lurid icing or something, but which is still delicious.

KatherinaMinola Tue 25-Mar-14 10:36:17

Could you take in some nice fruit instead? Blueberries, grapes, strawberries? Or mango/pineapple? I'd appreciate that far more - especially as there are lots of toddler birthdays (so potentially lots of people bringing in cake over the year).

Buckteethjeff Tue 25-Mar-14 13:31:03

katherine they already have that fruit - well most of it anyway.

ILoveWooly Tue 25-Mar-14 13:52:39

This happens in the playgroups DD goes to but the one rule is it can't be homemade. It is just to be sure for any intolerances/allergies.

ICanSeeTheSun Tue 25-Mar-14 14:00:17

Cakes in the school my DC are in are very strict only shop bought ones.

Yanbu to take cake, everyone loves cake

Buckteethjeff Tue 25-Mar-14 14:00:25

Good point ^^^^^

PoppySeed2014 Tue 25-Mar-14 14:04:54

I'm going to buck the trend and say it really bothers me if people give my dc cake - there are birthdays almost every week and I don't want dc to have lots of cake (especially shop bought preservative laden cake)

Our nursery has a no cake for under 3's policy - parents are encouraged to bring in special fruits like berries etc (normally they have apple, banana and orange).

Yes, bah humbug, but it's just my (lone!) opinion!

dolallymum Tue 25-Mar-14 14:05:48

The Nursery my DD attends encourages birthday cakes being taken in, but ask a member of staff if any children have allergies before hand.

mom2twoteens Tue 25-Mar-14 14:10:28

When did parenthood get so complicated?

Tried for a confused face but can't work out what to do. (Tecno useless LOL)

Buckteethjeff Tue 25-Mar-14 14:17:18

I may get a small cake for kids and make lemon drizzle for mums. It's a lovely nursery and they are all volunteers.

As long as it isn't a Sure Start group I am sure it will be fine. wink

BagOfBags Tue 25-Mar-14 14:21:16

I think it's a great idea but please ask/ tell everyone in advance if possible. DS has food allergies and there's nothing worse than watching his face drop when he's told he can 't have any. Given some warning I'd make sure I had some cake that he can have with me smile

PoppySeed2014 Tue 25-Mar-14 14:24:19

Cake for the adults seems a great idea!

I just feel that when dc are small we have a huge responsibility to give them the best nutrition possible.

So, for example, when we have lunch with another family who offer my dc children's yoghurt (sugar, sugar and more sugar) and squash - it's ok as a one off. But it means they're full up on rubbish and I just feel quite frustrated by it. Dc are more than happy with a bowl of natural organic yoghurt and water.

I'm going off on a ranty tangent. Sorry.

By the time dc are at school properly, it's not so bad. It's just when they're so small it bothers me.

My dc was given a packet of haribo aged 1 from a party (for 1 year olds). Thankfully dc had no idea what they were. They went in the bin (no tears from dc). Was I mean not to introduce him to sugary/gelatine tooth rot? Or kind. Hmm...

PoppySeed2014 Tue 25-Mar-14 14:27:11

Wow. I am ranty grin

We do bake at home a couple of times a month. Dc know what cakes and biscuits are. They just don't have them every day (or week) and are small enough to consider its of foods "treats" (berries, tomatoes, bread sticks, etc)

CountessOfRule Tue 25-Mar-14 14:27:32

At our toddler group we often have birthday cake for adult birthdays or leftover from other events, but it stays in the kitchen and is generally only for the adults - people hide behind the fridge and ram it in quick, spitting crumbs if a child tries to wander in grin

The gingerbreadmen "barrels" you can get in supermarkets or bakers are more popular for children as they aren't very messy or overly sweet, and they tend to have fewer ingredients than cake.

Buckteethjeff Tue 25-Mar-14 14:52:00

poppy are you serious grin , bread sticks and tomatoes treats? <--- did I read that right?

I'm going to try not to be so anal strict with food with dd, everything in moderation. Otherwise you can be in danger of them bingeing on sugar ect when they get older.

PoppySeed2014 Tue 25-Mar-14 14:55:50

Op, yes I am serious. I have older dc who don't binge on treats and still see breadsticks as a treat (no idea why)

I'm strict while they're little and have no idea about sweets, chocolate etc. I'm not depriving them. I'm giving them the best start nutritionally! Once they're at school they discover other sweets etc and that's ok. But all in moderation.

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