Ok I know this is a first world problem and we are lucky to be able to afford to go away, but still.
In a few weeks we are going to share a property in the UK with some of DH's family. There are double the number of them than us and their DCs are much older - teens and grown ups.
We shared last year and DS had a wonderful time as he got to share a room with his teenage cousin who he absolutely worships and DH was happy as he got to do walking and go to the pub with his two grown up nephews.
Me, not so much. Their family dynamic is that SIL does all the work. I like her a lot and ended up picking up a lot, lot more than my fair share because I couldn't bear to see her do it all. She doesn't seem to mind, she is happy to have her family around her.
Also because there are a lot more people than when we go away as our small family, there is a lot more dishes, food preparation and tidy away and just more general stuff littered about the place, which people seem unable to tidy away by themselves.
I did suggest that we had a rota to her and she seemed amenable and suggested a cooking rota. But to be honest I don't mind the cooking as much as I mind having to buy the stuff, decide what to have, set the table, cook it, then clear the table whilst everyone else sits on their rump doing naff all, oh and then empty the dishwasher three zillion times.
DH was fine, once I clued him into what was happening he did a lot more and nagged his nephews to do a bit, also we went out for a few more meals with us only, so that cut down on the interminable clearing up and cooking.
There are good sides, it's nice having a bit of company and we get babysitting to go out a couple of nights which is fab - maybe that should makeup for the downsides, I don't know.
I'm starting to have second thoughts about going, and I'm not sure how to make it feel ok for me.
I'm a regular and I have name changed, I have been moaning about this in real life, so please don't out me if you know me.
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gigglebiz · 22/03/2014 11:08
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