To go to a girls only kinky meet up? (I'm married)

(80 Posts)
StarShank Tue 18-Mar-14 23:13:12

So there is a women only BDSM munch near me soon. I am going to ask/tell DH I am going to go tomorrow. Well, unless you lot tell me IABU! It is vanilla, so normal clothes, in a pub! It is just a place for kinky women to meet up to find friendship, they meet up once a month.

DH knows I am into submission and fetish stuff. When I say into I mean reading about it/bit of porn and I enjoy it the once every year or so we do have kinky sex. He is not really into it though..i doubt, he is quite vague on the subject.

Anyway, he is always talking about life passing him by and wanting to go and do more things but then just watches shit on TV and goes to work. We don't have that much sex, maybe once or twice a month (one of those often being a quickie). I want to go out and meet more people and live life a bit more before we try for kids in a few years time. I will never cheat on him, ever, I just crave this lifestyle and sitting watching TV most nights is driving me crazy.

AIBU to say "I really want to go" and if he has a problem with it just go anyway?

AnyFucker Wed 19-Mar-14 16:45:39

Can't you not just get some erotic fiction ? I expect most of what gets talked about at these "talk about kink but not actually do it" kind of bashes is just that...fiction.

HadABadDay2014 Wed 19-Mar-14 18:04:50

autismnow.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Relationships-and-Sexuality-Tool.pdf

166 pages but if you got the time may be worth the read.

rainbowfeet Wed 19-Mar-14 18:20:40

If this is fairly near the beginning of your relationship I can see you coming back in 10 years time saying you are now living in a sexless marriage! If he is as uninterested in Sex vanilla or otherwise as this now imagine how he'll be in the future? Sounds like a mismatch of labido's & personalities too.

StarShank Wed 19-Mar-14 20:00:58

IT WENT REALLY WELL. Like really well wink. We had good chats and sorted a lot of stuff out, he will try and make it a higher priority. Then he made it a higher priority! I'm so happy. Bugger stupid munches, I'm staying at home by His feet :D

AnyFucker Wed 19-Mar-14 21:17:08

Good for you both x

Now I hope you can work out something that suits both of your sex lives, instead of cheap thrills down the Wetherspoons grin

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