Update to AIBU or is my friend?

[Arohaitis]

so on 3/2/14 I posted a question on here about a friend who kept coming round to my house uninvited (always at the same time) and sat by while her kids behaved badly in my house.

She always came when her kids wren't getting their free childcare, she was even at my back door (when I didn't answer she would just walk round the back bang on the glass and walk right in) 15 minutes after I dropped the older ones off on the first day back to school.

She was never invited to come round

Anyway since then she has invited us to her house once we went but she was out, she has come round two or maybe three times and I just sent her away, said it wasn't a good time etc.

The general opinion seemed to be she was out of line and I needed to find a way to tell her, something I find difficult since 'confrontation' is bullied out of us by my employer.

So this update probably doesn't belong here but I wanted to put it somewhere, a week ago my Mother was visiting from overseas (I see her less than once a year and as thread hintedI have been having a miserable time) I wanted to do something nice with her, my friend had visited once when she was here and been sent away and was not getting the hint.

So I found the thought of friend visiting really unpleasant so we closed some curtains decided hiding was stupid so went out, walk in park lunch in little cafe nothing crazy just a nice time.

I got home to find we had been horribly broken into, shed smashed window smashed to get in, house trashed, stuff thrown everywhere, anything of any value stolen, a necklace and earrings my dead father had given me stolen, computer stolen (husband had failed to back up 2 years of photos) watch I got for graduating stolen, you name it if it was portable it is now gone (plus a couple of things less portable) door smashed to get out.

All in broad daylight with neighbour in all day.

Just wanted to share!

[CoffeeTea103]

Sorry op this is horrible

[MostlyMama]

I hope you phoned the police? It seems too coincidental to not be her?

[DinoSnores]

Oh dear!

Hope the police are being helpful as that sounds awful.

[LaurieFairyCake]

That's awful

You don't think it's related to your 'friend' though?

[Arohaitis]

Thanks guys

Let's be absolutely clear my friend is a suburban Mum with 2 little children, I doubt she can go to the toilet without them telling someone! It didn't even cross my mind until I was typing here and was about to put just to be clear I don't for one moment suspect my friend but didn't because I thought no one would ha ha.

Phoned the Police TBF a chocolate teapot would be more useful they sent someone after 24 hours who behaved like she was auditioning for a part in Laurel and Hardy declared that the locks, tools, door handles, objects and hard surfaces the burglars had touched would be no good for fingerprints, stayed about 30 minutes, declared it identical to a robbery she had been to recently but that they couldn't possibly be related since it was 'too far away' it is maybe a 10 minute drive maybe 5 at a quiet time.

[Arohaitis]

Actually the mental image of my friend breaking in is about the first thing that has made me smile since it happened!!

TBH I think it was a very experienced guy which is partly what makes the poor response so disappointing, it seems hard to believe that someone so 'good' at breaking in and taking when they want is not 'known' to the police

[pluCaChange]

Maybe your "friend" can finally redeem herself by having witnessed the break in while she was stalking you!