Food Wars

(58 Posts)
VeggieMum8 Tue 18-Mar-14 09:04:08

I have a fantastic childminder (+ assistants) who do an amazing job of looking after my DS. I’m always impressed by all the activities and learning they do and know that he is in safe hands, but there is one thing that has become a bit of an issue… food.

I’m vegetarian (he’s 90% veggie as my husband isn’t) and to me making sure he eats a healthy diet is just as important as anything else. So I have been making him breakfast, lunch and dinner which he takes along with him.

I know that they would prefer if he ate the same as the other children, but at the risk of sounding like a food snob (honestly I’m not!) I don’t think that they give them particularly healthy options. When I pick him up I see the other kids eating a lot of red meat, star shaped potato things, chocolate, you get the picture….

I'm not saying that they never prepare healthy meals but I also see a lot of processed 'kiddie' food. The other thing I have noticed is that if the kids don’t want to eat vegetables or salad with their meal then they aren’t made to. I’m lucky that at the moment he absolutely loves vegetables, has a great appetite and eats whatever I give him, but I would be concerned if he follows their eating habits that he would then become fussy too.

I’ve had lots of awkward conversations with them about food before but one of the assistants keeps dropping in comments about him not eating his food properly as he is looking at what the other children are eating and wanting the same. The last thing that I want is for him to grow up feeling different but even more so I don’t want him growing up eating what they do!

I don’t feel like I am draconian, I don’t mind when he is older (he's only 10 months) if he has sweets/cakes/crisps at birthday parties or the odd Maccy D’s as a treat I just don’t want these foods being a regular part of his diet.

I feel like I have made my position on it clear and I’m finding it frustrating that they are still bringing up the topic. I would never offend them by telling them I don’t think the food they give the other children is healthy but being tactful obviously isn’t working either.

In all other ways they are fabulous and I am really lucky to have got a space with them so I don’t want to upset anyone.

Am I being unreasonable expecting them to give him something different? As I am providing the food myself I don’t think so, but would welcome your thoughts….

And how do I approach the situation without offending anyone???

Help!!!

VeggieMum8 Tue 18-Mar-14 15:31:28

I think they time dinner for 3.30pm as the older kids have just come back from school and are hungry then - there's a mixture of ages and I guess they want to have one sit down time. I may revert back to giving him dinner at home and just providing a snack for that time. I don't really want to change childminder if I can avoid it as the learning activities they do with him are great and on the whole I'm really happy, it's just the food that's an issue. I'll speak to them again tonight - wish me luck!

Gileswithachainsaw Tue 18-Mar-14 15:34:24

Good luck smile

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream Tue 18-Mar-14 17:49:46

No problem at all VeggieMum8
Good luck smile

Whereisegg Tue 18-Mar-14 18:07:27

Good luck!
You are saving them money surely?

littledrummergirl Tue 18-Mar-14 18:26:58

I have a friend who always sent her toddlers to nursery with their own snacks.
When they were invited to parties, sweets offered around they were the greediest, grabiest ones there. They werent allowed these foods at home, now they are at secondary and get to make their own choices about food they seem to eat a lot more crap junk food than their friends.

Perhaps you could let him have a couple of potato stars and a piece of fruit at 3.30 and then give him his dinner at home at around 5.00/5.30?

I don't think YABU at all but I'm the "food snob" hmm in my family.

Teaching a child good, healthy eating habits from a young age is no bad thing. And it sounds like he has the occasional treat so that's fine!

VeggieMum8 Tue 18-Mar-14 18:42:32

Thanks guys. Food talk didn't happen as arrived at CM's to a find poorly baby and a potential chicken pox outbreak. Little man in bed already and I am about to do the same... have a feeling we're in for a long night!

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream Tue 18-Mar-14 20:13:01

Ooh dear.... Good luck again!

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