When I was younger (a student and living in flat shares in my 20s) it was the done thing that when friends came to stay / when I went to stay with friends you would just share their bed. Also when I went away on holidays/weekends away friends would often share double beds to save money etc.
AIBU that I no longer want to share beds with friends? I recently went on a hen do where I was expected to share a bed for the weekend (had not been told this in advance - I would have been willing to pay more money for my own room if I had been warned in advance that I would be sharing a bed).
Also one of my friends still lives in flat shares (which I completely understand, not everyone can afford their own place esp. in London) and when I go to stay I have to share her bed which I just no longer feel so comfortable about. I totally appreciate she doesn't have a spare guest room, but I would rather sleep on the sofa or an inflatable bed in the living room than bed share. I just don't know how to say this without offending her. I would also be prepared to pay for a cheap B&B/Travelodge but again don't want to offend her.
Am I being a prude, or has anyone else grown out of feeling comfortable sharing a bed with friends? I am in my early 30s FWIW.
AIBU?
To not want to share a bed with friends (or basically anyone other than DP)
Soyoureallythinkso · 15/03/2014 21:07
Exactly!
Or I worry that I will kick them in my sleep, or even worse fart in the night 
God I'm with you. I haven't shared a bed with someone apart from husbands for 25 years.
Ugh. No idea how to get out of it. Maybe say diplomatically you're staying in a hotel as you've got worms/ uncontrollable sleeping sex disease/chinese love balls 
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I used to have to share a bed with work colleagues (promo work so very relaxed) and I hated it!
One of my mates used to try and spoon me and I had to fight the reflex to elbow her in the face
YANBU, I am 25 and recently went to a house party at my cousin's house, ended up in a double bed with her, her boyfriend and a random bloke 
It was just really uncomfortable and awkward, I ended up rearranging their spare room so I could use the sofa in there!
I think I must have grown out of it because I assumed I'd be fine with it but no!
I shared a bed after a works night out recently. We did actually have a bed each but one of the girls turned.out to be an annoying aggressive drunk so myself and the third girl didn't want to be stuck in a room with her and decided to use a double bed in the lads room whose owner was plastered and had no intention of using it. I didn't sleep a wink as I was so paranoid about snuggling up to her in my sleep
I thought I'd be fine but after 12 years of sharing with dp and sleeping tangled up with him, or kicking him out of my way if I want more space I just couldn't relax with someone else in the bed.
A lot of them were male models so I struggled on through
The company I worked for would tell me just to book one room and then we would all pile in to save money.
It was an amazing year of my life apart from spoony weirdo girl
Bertie When I was younger (in my 20s) a friend said I could stay at her house after a party as I lived the other side of London. However what she didn't tell me was that I was expected to share a bed with one of her boyfriend's mates. I had a boyfriend at the time so it was completely inappropriate 
. I ended up staying up and waiting until the first tubes started running again then legged it!
Oh, and said owner of the bed who had loudly proclaimed he couldn't sleep and was going to hang out with the other girl decided crazy bitch was too much for him too and climbed in on top of us at 4am and snored for the remaining two hours until we had to get up 
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I love it, I have plenty of spare beds in my house as I occasionally have lots of people to visit.
Most of my friends actively choose to sleep in with me instead of the spare beds. Some of them because they like the cuddles some because they like the chat.
When people first stay over I offer them mine (if I feel like it) and all the other options, at least one double bed is made up and ready to go so its not like they are worried and inconveniencing me... But only my bed had the electric blanket and the vibrate setting
Op yanbu, you should not feel like you can't say anything. Maybe you could say you've discussed it your partner and both agreed not to bed share with other people any more
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