to get DS chicken pox on purpose

(91 Posts)
blowsygirl Fri 07-Mar-14 15:10:10

DS is 4.6 in a small nursery. All the other kids have had it earlier. I know it's going round at the moment, so would I be wise and reasonable to take him to a large soft play place and hope he catches it?

Forgettable Fri 07-Mar-14 15:14:18

ummm no

chicken pox can be devastating to a child's health

please don't

it's not just one of those silly childhood things that children ''ought'' to get

so, in a nutshell, no it's not reasonable or wise

sorry

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 07-Mar-14 15:19:07

While most cases of chickenpox are just uncomfortable for the child, some aren't and the virus can make them extremely il and require hospitalisation. Please don't.

isitme1 Fri 07-Mar-14 15:20:39

Can I ask when do most kids get it?
Ds is nearly 4 and hasnt had it yet whereas my niece had it at 2years and passed it on to her brother who was a few months old

MetellaEstMater Fri 07-Mar-14 15:21:58

Please search the multiple threads that have been on MN. I know it's annoying for new posters to be asked to do so but this is an extremely sensitive subject for many MNers.

Forgettable Fri 07-Mar-14 15:22:34

Most have had it by the end of the primary years

the youngest I know of was my own kiddo, about 7 months old, poor thing, caught from sibling

Nataleejah Fri 07-Mar-14 15:23:35

Years ago it was a practice to have "chickenpox parties" -- once children had it, they have lifelong immunity, not 100%, but mostly. And for children it is not nearly as dangerous as for adults.

LoopyDoopyDoo Fri 07-Mar-14 15:24:18

Chickenpox can be caught more than once, and a somewhat nasty side-effect can be death. Don't do it, and step away from the thread now, OP.

AndHarry Fri 07-Mar-14 15:24:31

Yes YABU, it can be extremely serious. He might be eligible to get the chickenpox vaccination on the NHS (see here) or you can pay for it privately if you want to.

AndHarry Fri 07-Mar-14 15:26:03

BTW I'm an adult and have never had chickenpox, however I am immune to it, apparently because I had slapped cheek when I was 10.

Monetbyhimself Fri 07-Mar-14 15:26:06

Please google chicken pox encephalitis and pneumonitis.

And yes YABVU to even consider deliberately exposing your child to an infectious disease.

sheriffofnottingham Fri 07-Mar-14 15:26:41

if it's 'going around' they will probably pick up some immunity. I have never had chicken pox but was tested when I stated working in a hospital to see if I needed to be immunised against it and I had immunity, thus I must have been in contact with it at some point.

If you're that worried, go privately and get them immunised?

Probably not wise or reasonable, but if he catches it then so be it. I wouldn't take him to a soft play to deliberately catch it though, although mostly mild, it still isn't nice!!

Not wise or reasonable at all! Chicken Pox can have serious implications for some and if it was your child who took it badly after you deliberately exposed them to it, you would probably never forgive yourself.

My DP is 27 and has never had it, certainly hasn't done him any harm do far not having it!

ProudAS Fri 07-Mar-14 15:36:07

DH had it as an adult and wishes he'd had it as a child.

CP can be dangerous and I've heard some awful stories of DCs being left brain damaged after deliberate exposure but things would probably have been as bad had they caught it naturally. The risks to an adult are far greater.

In short - there's no right or wrong answer.

UriGeller Fri 07-Mar-14 15:42:26

My eldest had it at 9 after his friend was sent to school with it to "infect the kids that hadn't had it yet" (his mums logic hmm).

So he caught a mild version from this lad and it wasn't until the winter that he got full blown CP which meant he was bed-ridden and in awful pain over the entire Christmas holidays and millennium new year.

Let your child catch it in their own time. Keep him healthy and his immune system strong so he'll hopefully be able to cope with it.

Meepers Fri 07-Mar-14 15:46:12

I always thought it was one of these things that if they catch it they catch it, if they don't they don't.

I'm not sure I'd go out of my way to have DD catch it but it wouldn't stop me going to soft play just in case either... I think I need to read some past threads too.

Go ahead. I did it with my two siblings. Both just had a few spots and no accompanying other symptoms.

You'll only read about the horror stories on here of doing so. Nobody is going to post and say I 'Poxed 'em and it all turned out fine. People only post the horror stories.

ProudAS Fri 07-Mar-14 15:50:33

Given the greater risks of CP in adults and the fact that children over 1 usually develop immunity deliberate exposure has almost certainly prevented more complications than it has caused.

The downside is the guilt and 'what ifs' should a deliberately exposed child suffer complications.

ProudAS Fri 07-Mar-14 15:51:07

Given the greater risks of CP in adults and the fact that children over 1 usually develop immunity deliberate exposure has almost certainly prevented more complications than it has caused.

The downside is the guilt and 'what ifs' should a deliberately exposed child suffer complications.

IslaValargeone Fri 07-Mar-14 15:51:35

leading That is one of the most irresponsible posts I've ever read on here.

I wouldnt deliberately set out to get my kids to catch CP. If they catch it then they catch it and if not then they dont. I dont see how they have to catch it.
SIL caught CP when DD was about 7 months old and MIL wanted me to bring DD round to "get it out the way". Not even im that stupid.
Their 4 and 5 and still havnt had CP yet but im sure they will at school.

hazeyjane Fri 07-Mar-14 15:55:00

AndHarry, unless a child has underlying health concerns or someone close to them has suppressed immunity, they would be inlikely to be eligible for the vaccine on the nhs. It is approx £120 privately.

To the op, I wouldn't go out of your way to try and put your child in the path of chicken pox, because if they did have a bad reaction, you would feel pretty awful. Let them catch it in their own time, or have the vaccine.

Sirzy Fri 07-Mar-14 15:55:14

I think to purposely expose your child to any illness is madness. I can understand not going out of your way to avoid it but not this idea of "pox parties" or anything else.

Chicken pox can be a horrible illness, it may be mild for most but why run that risk that you will deliberately make your child very ill?

DS caught chicken pox and narrowly avoided being hospitalised but I will never forget the thread on here where a child (not deliberately exposed) ended up very ill as a result of chicken pox and will have to live with the effects of that for the rest of their life.

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep Fri 07-Mar-14 15:57:44

Please don't purposely expose him to it. I regret doing this. My poor darling was so so ill. sad

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