To ask if you know of a man who wanted to be alone?

(16 Posts)
Allofaflumble Thu 06-Mar-14 22:36:42

So many times I hear and read of women whose partner suddenly falls out of love with them, wants to have space or be alone but they always seem to have a substitute lined up. I know it sounds like a generalization but I have never known a man leave a relationship to live alone. So do you know of any?

Lozislovely Thu 06-Mar-14 22:41:39

Yep, my XH (and me too). We ended for multiple reasons but neither of us left for anyone else.

inkyhair Thu 06-Mar-14 23:31:26

Yes, my DB did. His ex was quite high maintenance and he decided he couldn't put up with it any more. He emigrated and found a lovely new partner within a year.

MorrisZapp Thu 06-Mar-14 23:33:24

I know a guy, v intelligent, attractive etc who ends every relationship he's ever in. He just doesn't want to be in a relationship. I don't think he wants flings either, he really does want to be alone.

HadABadDay2014 Thu 06-Mar-14 23:34:40

Mil and fil have been divorced around 17 years, to this day FIL stays single. Haven't even been on a date.

HaroldLloyd Thu 06-Mar-14 23:34:44

Yes, loads!

BumpyGrindy Thu 06-Mar-14 23:45:05

I think the OP means married men with children...

WilsonFrickett Thu 06-Mar-14 23:50:13

Yes, I have a DF who is a classic commitment-phobe. He's been in deep relationships, and a couple of times with women with children, but he really can't stick it and always ends up walking away.

The bit I really can't unravel is he insists he does want to be settled in a relationship, but his actions don't bear that out. Don't know what's behind that, and otherwise he's a lovely guy sad for him and all the hearts he's broken.

Allofaflumble Fri 07-Mar-14 13:38:55

BumpyGrindy was right. I suppose I was thinking more of men who are in established long term relationships where they are being loved and looked after by wife/gf, when all of a sudden they don't love her anymore and want to move out and be alone.

Within weeks they have moved in with someone else and seem quite certain they no longer love wife or partner. Sometimes they to and fro a bit but I do not know of one single man in this situation who opted to live alone?

I don't mean to massively generalise but this is my observation.

Thanks for the replies. smile

Sovaysovay Fri 07-Mar-14 14:53:18

My husband left his first girlfriend of many years to be alone. He dated twice more in three years but didn't move in with any.

Admittedly he's the only one I know of though. All the others are as you say - they only left once they had another sock-washer lined up.

RufusTheReindeer Fri 07-Mar-14 16:43:35

I know a few that didn't have another lined up, all of them are now remarried but their wives are still living alone (happily, dating etc just don't want a new man)

Onesleeptillwembley Fri 07-Mar-14 16:59:11

Yes of course. Not every man has a new partner lined up. What a silly assumption. In fact I'd say it's the opposite.

HowardTJMoon Fri 07-Mar-14 17:17:26

I ended it with the mother of my children. Being single seemed much more attractive than staying with her. I was right, too.

RufusTheReindeer Fri 07-Mar-14 17:50:20

one certainly wouldn't say it was the opposite

Allofaflumble Fri 07-Mar-14 19:08:58

Poor you onesleeptillwembley. Can't read a thread properly! Nowhere is an assumption made, not by me or anyone else who answered. There's always one on MN who has to be a smartarse and congrats this time it is you!

Ragwort Fri 07-Mar-14 19:16:28

No, I've never met a man in a relationship who left saying 'he wanted to be alone' and didn't have anyone lined up. It's the oldest excuse in the book. I do know men who have chosen to live alone and never committed to anyone. Like my brother.

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