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to feel a bit upset at nurse's comment

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almostheadgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:01:25

It would be great to get your perspective on this as I admit I may have been over-sensitive.
Joined a new GP practice this week. The nurse did all the usual checks, BP, height, urine etc - then she asks me to pop on the scales. No problem...Now, I have been working hard at losing the baby weight, am finally very happy with my size and consider myself to be reasonably 'back to normal' (ish!). I'm almost 5ft 9 and weigh 10 stone. She looks at the scales and goes "Hmmmm, not bad."
I felt quite upset. I said to her, I am almost 5ft 9... and she just smiled. It just struck me as a bit insensitive. I don't think I'm in any way over weight?! Is it just me being sleep deprived and pathetic to feel a bit insulted by this?

bobot Thu 06-Mar-14 22:02:44

Don't let it bother you. She was being silly if she meant anything by it, at that weight and height you're at the very bottom of the healthy range.

FamiliesShareGerms Thu 06-Mar-14 22:04:13

She was thoughtless but I would not let it get to you.

Janethegirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:04:50

I'm 5ft 3 and would love to be 10 stone or less, let it go. If you would be happier weighing less, go for it but only if you want to, not because you feel other people thing you should....does that make sense??

Fantissue Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:19

Did you want a big "Well Done!"? What is she supposed to say?

Janethegirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:24

Think

scarffiend Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:27

I think you're being a bit over sensitive, that's a perfectly healthy weight, and brilliant considering there's baby wright involved! Middle finger up to the nurse for being dismissive x

curiousuze Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:31

I don't see that she insulted you or called you overweight. Do you have issues around weight in general?

almostheadgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:36

Thanks Bebot - I do feel a bit daft giving it any more thought. Grrrr - I'd understand if I was over-weight and she was trying to be nice, but it just fed insecurity of a new-ish mum.

quietlysuggests Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:43

I think you are sleep deprived and sensitive.
It is very very hard working with the public when every single comment or facial expression can be interpreted in some way.
Just forget about it.
10 stone is not bad.

JumpingJackSprat Thu 06-Mar-14 22:06:11

Way way too oversensitive.

kotinka Thu 06-Mar-14 22:07:29

"not bad" is as complimentary as some people get. For what it's worth, I'd love to be tall and slim like you, go you!!!

WorraLiberty Thu 06-Mar-14 22:08:16

I think you're being very oversensitive

If she had taken your blood pressure and said the same thing, would you still be upset?

almostheadgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:08:22

No, Fantissue, I certainly wasn't looking for a ''well done'' (er, bit harsh) or anything of the sort. Just a simple 'that's fine' or something similar - much like she would say if your BP was normal, or urine results were normal. Thought it an odd thing to say and it sounded a tad ambiguous to me.

purplemurple1 Thu 06-Mar-14 22:10:31

Cricky at your weight and height and presumably age (assume you're not a teen) if anything I'd think she thought you should be a little heavier.

almostheadgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:11:04

Quietlysuggests - you're probably right.

Wantsunshine Thu 06-Mar-14 22:11:49

She was probably jealous!

Smoorikins Thu 06-Mar-14 22:12:16

What's wrong with 'not bad'?

edwinbear Thu 06-Mar-14 22:13:44

I'm 5ft 6 and weigh 9st 9lbs. I had my BUPA medical on Tuesday and was told I am in the healthy, normal range for my height. So you would be at the lower end of the healthy range at a guess.

almostheadgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:15:05

Smoorikins - to me, ''not bad'' just sounds quite ambiguous. As I said, I maybe am being over-sensitive (and by the replies, I see I am).

Anonymai Thu 06-Mar-14 22:19:38

When I joined my last surgery, the nurse weighed me and said, "oh. Don't you watch your weight?" I should have taken it as a sign of things to come.

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Thu 06-Mar-14 22:22:31

I know people who use 'not bad' as a deliberately understated compliment. As your bmi is in the ideal range I imagine it was a compliment!

AndIFeedEmGunpowder Thu 06-Mar-14 22:23:09

X post with everyone!

Alisvolatpropiis Thu 06-Mar-14 22:25:37

Yabu.

At 5ft 9in and 10 stone you're slim.

It was an understated compliment.

And this whole thing may or may not be a stealth boast.

almostheadgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 22:31:24

Thanks for your honesty everyone. I maybe need to toughen up, and get more sleep...
alisvolatproplis, I can see how it might read that way...but all I can say is I promise it really isn't. I genuinely felt a bit hurt but I can see how I was maybe being overly sensitive.

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