To have been really upset by my son and his own clothes day choice?

(54 Posts)
Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 14:43:28

DS is 15.

Today is own clothes day at school. In his infinite wisdom he decided that "for a laugh" he would wear his jeans with his sodding dressing gown!

I'm really failing to see the funny side. As all teens do, he is experimenting with finding his identity. MY DS has decided Mr Funny Man suits him best wink

I was livid though. I thought he looked really silly and that the school would too!

Was I unreasonable? I'd like to think I was as I'm still a bit cross 7 hrs later...

bellablot Thu 06-Mar-14 14:57:07

Sounds like your embarrassed for him...maybe it reminds of of an episode at school where you were openly embarrassed by one if these events? YABU anyway, 7 hours of anger is utterly ridiculous.

You really shouldn't project your own fears and beliefs into your kids. If he's confident enough to do this then you should be proud of him.

whois Thu 06-Mar-14 14:57:08

I you'd rather he was vain, hogging the bathroom and spending a fortune on designer labels and hair care?

HavantGuard Thu 06-Mar-14 14:57:39

He sounds great. I'm a bit hmm that you are bothered by it.

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 15:02:26

normally I'm quite impressed with his alternative ways. Maybe it is PMT? <ponders> anyway, no I've never been embarrassed at school (in a similar situation)

The dressing gown is purple toweling!

It is true, I should be proud he is himself. That is something I always wanted for my children.

Katiepoes Thu 06-Mar-14 15:03:37

I don't see the problem - he is The Dude. He abides.

Besides he's 15, it's his job to make you think his look is silly.

Burren Thu 06-Mar-14 15:04:01

I'd be thrilled if my son was confident enough not to follow the sartorial party line and wear his granny's knackered dressing gown to school. Be proud, OP.

It sounds slightly as if you still think of him as an aspect of you, and as if his clothes choice - and his decision not to wear the nice, new clothes you bought him - thus reflects badly on you. In an 'Oh, look, there's the mother of the boy who wore that dressing gown to school' way...?

Dawndonnaagain Thu 06-Mar-14 15:06:50

I don't see anything wrong with going in as Arthur Dent. It's cool!

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 15:08:39

burren I don't know any of the other parents in his year!

But, you are correct. I do still see him as an aspect of me. That I know, is a bit silly as he is 15 and very much his own person. Actually he has had his own mind since 10! grin

DoJo Thu 06-Mar-14 15:09:31

My son thinks his dressing gown is a coat - he loves it and wears it all the time. I think it's sweet and funny on a toddler, and would find it even sweeter and funnier on a teen. He must be very confident in himself to do that, you are lucky!

Evie2014 Thu 06-Mar-14 15:28:13

I think that sounds cool. I remember being 15 and I'd probably have had a crush on the guy who wore a dressing gown to school!

MY 13 year old DS went to his last non uniform day in a pink monkey onsie and proceeded to twerk in front of the entire school as part of a bad dancing competition. He says he doesn't care what anyone thinks because he's secure in his masculinity and girls onsies are fluffier than boys ones.....

kentishgirl Thu 06-Mar-14 15:42:17

Good for him! He's got a sense of humour and confidence.

(I don't want to sound horrible but I can't imagine any 15 year old wearing a 'nice cardigan from Next' without getting the piss taken out of them).

mercibucket Thu 06-Mar-14 15:48:57

as shadow said . . .
all he needs is a towel

comicsansisevil Thu 06-Mar-14 15:54:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SuburbanRhonda Thu 06-Mar-14 15:55:50

kentishgirl, was just about to post exactly the same about the "nice cardigans from Next", but I wasn't sure whether I was more alarmed about the items or the fact that the OP still chooses her 15-year-old's clothes shock

tigerbread123 Thu 06-Mar-14 15:57:47

YABU

My teenage DD and her friends all go out in their onesies regularly, and the lad who lives opposite us is always out and about in his dressing gown!

I think it's funny

PolterGoose Thu 06-Mar-14 16:01:19

He sounds fantastic and you should be really proud of him grin

formerbabe Thu 06-Mar-14 16:08:35

Another vote here for it's hilarious!!

Theas18 Thu 06-Mar-14 16:12:47

Brilliant!

dobedobedo Thu 06-Mar-14 16:17:56

YABU. Good on him!

My own ds (who is 9) went to school dressed as a grumpy girl called Delia, complete with dressing gown and sunglasses. It just made me proud that I was raising a kid with confidence. Something I never had.

So you were doing well until you had a meltdown over his outfit! wink

ouryve Thu 06-Mar-14 16:20:03

Be thankful that this is the most you have to be distressed about, regarding your DS. YABU to be so enraged by something so silly.

Feminine Thu 06-Mar-14 16:21:13

I don't choose his clothes. He did. I just paid for them. Actually, if they are not in a hoody, they do wear cardigans round here! <smiling>

mrssnodge Thu 06-Mar-14 16:22:22

My DS at 15 ,dressed in his sisters old prom dress,complete with rock star wig, and my make up for a non uniform day- it was just totally funny and I was so proud of him! He fitted the dress better than his sister ever did BTW! lol

DramaAlpaca Thu 06-Mar-14 16:27:41

I totally get it OP. I have a DS who is much the same.

For his school graduation ceremony a couple of years ago my DS1 insisted in going in a T shirt with a lumberjack shirt over it and his scruffiest jeans.

Every single other teenage boy there was in a suit, and all the girls were dressed up to the nines.

I was mortified blush. He didn't care. He's always been a bit of a rebel with his own way of doing things & he didn't care what anyone thought of him.

He's right in the middle of the graduation photos too blush

maddening Thu 06-Mar-14 16:27:54

If it is due to world book day then I'd second the hitchhikers suggestion

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