to bath my children this infrequently?

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terrificallytremendous Fri 28-Feb-14 14:06:15

Dp has two children who are aged 6 and 7. Their mum has said we cannot have them in school holidays because when we have them (for one night at a time at present) we don't bath them. She says dsd is at a 'tender age' and at home her 4 children have baths separately every single morning.

My children are 6 years and 20 months and they share a bath three times per week in winter, more in summer. Apart from the expense of water, I think every day is excessive as they just don't get that dirty in winter and see it as a waste of time to get up early to bath everyday. Aibu?

honeybunny14 Mon 03-Mar-14 23:12:15

My 2 get bathed every night apart from a saterday night theres no right or wrong amount unless the children were dirty.

apocketfulofposy Mon 03-Mar-14 23:06:17

mine have one once a week,all 4 in together,if they get dirty then they get one otherwise just once a week,they have lovely shiny hair and soft skin,the baby baths in with me once a week.

this is because A.they dont need them every day

and B.im too lazy to do it more,its too much hassle tbqh.

missymayhemsmum Mon 03-Mar-14 22:52:52

Erm, just a thought, is 'daughter is at a delicate age' code for 'daughter's bottom wiping is a bit erratic and she's apt to get a sore fanjo if not bathed/ washed daily'? Which may not be a conversation DH's ex is comfortable having with you?

Snatchoo Mon 03-Mar-14 17:03:10

Oh, and they share unless we want to be quick then it's one at a time which is quicker even with three of them

Snatchoo Mon 03-Mar-14 17:02:30

YANBU.

Two five year olds and a 2 year old here. Bath Sundays and Wednesdays unless they really need it before then!

Xalla Mon 03-Mar-14 17:00:32

YANBU

I do bath mine pretty much every day but that's because they love it and it's part of their bedtime routine.

They share a bath - all of them - DSD8 DS5, DD3 and baby. They would be very upset if we insisted they didn't. We have a big bath and they have a whale of a time in it.

If and when DSD decides she doesn't want to share, that will be fine.

Your DH's ex is BU. He needs to deal with it.

BumPotato Mon 03-Mar-14 16:13:19

I've only ever bathed my kids once a week. They get showers after swimming and if they did get dirty otherwise they'd get a shower as and when.

Gawd -I'm used to the idea of squad swimmers getting up at the time. I horse ride at 10am- that's early enough for me grin

NigellasDealer Mon 03-Mar-14 15:04:22

well i am impressed by that level of commitment!

NeedsAsockamnesty Mon 03-Mar-14 15:02:46

Dc likes to think so,I don't get it myself I'm petrified of the creatures. Thank Christ I don't have to ferry them about now.

NigellasDealer Mon 03-Mar-14 15:00:04

at 6.15??
blimey that is dedication!
will we be seeing him/her at Badminton in a few years?

NeedsAsockamnesty Mon 03-Mar-14 14:52:15

One of my kids has horse riding lessons at 6:15am

What lessons do they have at 6am??

justanuthermanicmumsday Mon 03-Mar-14 14:21:30

I get my kids up at 6am they have lessons in the morning for 1.5hours then get ready & breakfast.

I'd have to get up at 4.30am to have 2 of them ready for 6am lesson, then pop the other two in, get breakfast for all by 7.30. it's too much.

I have four kids too 7,6,3, and 22 months I find it difficult to believe she bathes them in the morning everyday. Had she said evening I'm sure she could. My kids get bathed every other day.

When they were wee babies I'd bathe them everyday ,i found it helped with sleeping, and eczema since emollients absorbed more easily when skin was damp.but it was in out didn't take long.

Now if each kid get 20 mins each for a wash, moisturising, &dressing that's almost 2 hours for quick bath. If they want to play a bit even longer.if this woman is bathing them in the morning she's superwoman, and I thought I was superwoman already.

SecretWitch Mon 03-Mar-14 14:15:53

My six year old has a bath every other day in the winter and sometimes daily in the summer. She gets wiped down with warm flannel before bed on non bath days. As long as clothes are fresh and body reasonably clean, I have no problem with bathing children 2 to 3x weekly.

Davsmum Mon 03-Mar-14 14:07:26

We had a bath once a week when we were little, unless we had got really grubby playing out. It was just a face and hands wash every morning and evening.
Mind you - a daily bath routine is good for winding down and getting ready for bed.

wingsandstrings Mon 03-Mar-14 14:04:01

My DS (age 6) has a bath every other day - it used to be every 3 days but I notice he is more whiffy than he used to be! My DD (age 3) also has a bath every other day, only because she has very curly hair which can only be brushed when wet and if it's left more than 48 hrs without being brushed it gets horribly tangly. It's bad for skin to be over-washed.

Routine - now they have one about 3 times a week, although I think ds2 needs to up his a bit soon.

They shared a bath until ds2 was about age 11

All 3 used to go in together until it got a bit cramped

Daily baths with emollient are usually recommended by dermatologists for severe eczema because it reduces the risk of infection. Ds1 has always had a daily bath (first for severe eczema & wet wrapping - now for routine). The younger 2 used to have daily baths as part of bedtime rout

Babieseverywhere Sun 02-Mar-14 07:52:36

I wonder if your DH agreed to the baths and asked ex wife to email her guidelines on any other issues, so he is clear on things. It might focus her mind on what she really needs to control and things she can let drop.

If course if she writes four pages of ranty rules, that is something to address with the court and maybe repost on here, lol.

katese11 Sun 02-Mar-14 07:34:29

I bath mine every day (1.5 and 4.5) but only because it uses up half an hour or so between dinner and bed! There's no way I'd try and do it in the morning shock

splasheeny Sun 02-Mar-14 01:23:31

Daily baths are best for eczema, there is evidence to support this.

I remember a weekly wash growing up, I guess that makes my parents pretty skanky!

ouryve Sat 01-Mar-14 23:42:26

And they bathe separately, or else they fight, but in the same water. If it hasn't turned into soup, DH tops it up, to freshen himself up, then rinses off with the shower hose.

ouryve Sat 01-Mar-14 23:41:02

Mine bathe most days, but we're quite happy to miss days if they're not filthy. They've finally reached a point when I don't need to wash their dinner out of their hair every day. Most days, their baths are just a sit in some warm water with shower gel on the smelly bits only.

We do ours 2-3 times a week, DD8 showers and younger two bath.

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