to take the DCs to legoland for a weekend away whilst DH goes on yet another stag weekend?

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chillidoritos Fri 28-Feb-14 13:59:50

DH is going on a stag weekend abroad in April. He goes on lots of stag weekends and lads' weekends away whilst I'm left looking after the DC. In the summer he plays cricket every Saturday and sometimes on a Sunday too, and again I look after the DC.

I'm sick of it all quite frankly and have decided that this year I am going to do nice things with the kids whilst he's off doing his own thing. In the past we've always done all the nice stuff on weekends when he's not doing anything.

So I've decided that when he's on the stag weekend I'm going to take the DC to Lego land and stay in a hotel with them for the weekend, and really have some fun.

DH is not happy as he wants to come and says I'm being selfish by taking them there without him.

AIBU?

Inertia Sat 01-Mar-14 20:07:02

That's a very good idea Whatever5 - or perhaps even a willing friend of OP.

ShakesBootyFlabWobbles Sat 01-Mar-14 21:36:39

YAdNBU to go somewhere nice when he's away.... BUT

I am a Legoland regular as I live nearby and would say that you need to consider your children's ages and heights if you go on your own. As there are 4 years between my two, it could be tricky going on my own with them when they were smaller as there is only a limited amounted of rides very small children can go on and the slightly bigger ones need an adult to accompany them, which means they miss out as you can't leave your younger one on their own. If you live local, it is OK to just do the shows, parks and limited rides but if it is a trip away, you'd be hacked off paying all that money to only be able to get on a few things. Good suggestion to take another adult. April is not normally too bad with crowds (still can be busy) but I'd avoid August like the plague, it can be hell on earth. HTH.

vladthedisorganised Sat 01-Mar-14 21:37:58

Dear God, YANBU!
My H loves skiing, I can take or leave it. When he went when DD was tiny I'm ashamed to admit I did sit at home, bored out of my tiny mind, and did nothing at all until he returned.
The following year I woke up.. it's now an annual ritual for DD and I to have a city break somewhere while H hits the slopes. If he's that fussed about going, he always has the option to cancel his skiing: just as yours is welcome to cancel his stag weekend attendance if he particularly wants to come to Legoland.

SomethingkindaOod Sat 01-Mar-14 21:45:35

Just go.
Before Christmas DH announced that he had been invited on 2 50th birthday weekends away with his buddies and could we have a chat about money and timing please? This was in addition to his working away commitments and work/social commitments as well which have increased this year.
So I said fine, but as he knew I was keen to take the DC's down to London for the weekend and would be pricing up a hotel/apartment and train tickets down there for us. Just us, on one of the weekends he was away. In Spain. In January tit.
I didn't bluff him, he knows damn well I can manage 3 children anywhere I choose to take them on my own and we all love London so he knew I was serious.
Lo and behold, he decided not to go to Spain and we are currently looking for a nice place to stay for our weekend in the Capital grin. I may still take them myself later in the year, money allowing, but he knows I will go whatever he thinks. If he chooses to take himself out of the equation then he deals with the consequences.
YANBU x

Brilliant plan. I'm going to steal it. The next time dh goes away, ds and I will be off somewhere fun!

CalmTheFarm Sat 01-Mar-14 22:04:23

YANBU. Go and enjoy yourselves!

50shadesofpink Sat 01-Mar-14 22:25:48

Yanbu at all!
My DH is going on a stag in April too! If it's the bank holiday, I might join you with my DC at Legoland!!

LimeLelloLizard Sat 01-Mar-14 22:32:23

YANBU about your selfish DH. Sod him.

YABU about LEGOLAND - it really isn't up to much. If you do go, stay somewhere else and just go there for one day... there are some lovely days out in that part of the world.

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