to take the DCs to legoland for a weekend away whilst DH goes on yet another stag weekend?

(83 Posts)
chillidoritos Fri 28-Feb-14 13:59:50

DH is going on a stag weekend abroad in April. He goes on lots of stag weekends and lads' weekends away whilst I'm left looking after the DC. In the summer he plays cricket every Saturday and sometimes on a Sunday too, and again I look after the DC.

I'm sick of it all quite frankly and have decided that this year I am going to do nice things with the kids whilst he's off doing his own thing. In the past we've always done all the nice stuff on weekends when he's not doing anything.

So I've decided that when he's on the stag weekend I'm going to take the DC to Lego land and stay in a hotel with them for the weekend, and really have some fun.

DH is not happy as he wants to come and says I'm being selfish by taking them there without him.

AIBU?

kelda Fri 28-Feb-14 14:00:43

Sounds like a great idea. Go for it.

IAmNotAPrincessIAmAKahleesi Fri 28-Feb-14 14:01:24

YANBU

And I'm sorry but he is behaving like a complete twat if he thinks you're the one being selfish

Babyturnip Fri 28-Feb-14 14:02:07

Sounds lovely hope you all have a great time smile

itiswhatitiswhatitis Fri 28-Feb-14 14:02:12

Nope that sounds perfectly fair to me. Why should you sit around and wait to do nice things whilst he's on his jolly's?

Tell him until he's less shellfish with his free time this is the way it is.

NewNameWanted Fri 28-Feb-14 14:02:25

If you have previously told DH that you are getting fed-up of his gallivanting and he has done nothing to curb it, then go for it!

If he has no idea that you are sick of it then I can understand that he may be confused.

sooperdooper Fri 28-Feb-14 14:02:27

Yanbu, can't understand why you've not always done this!!

itiswhatitiswhatitis Fri 28-Feb-14 14:02:29

Selfish not shellfish stupid ipad

ZenGardener Fri 28-Feb-14 14:02:47

Great idea!! My Dh is working Saturdays in March so we are going adventuring too. What does he expect you to do? Sit at home?

chillidoritos Fri 28-Feb-14 14:03:44

Yes I think he expects me to sit at home whilst he's away. Also he's peeved because he has to arrange for his dogs to go into a kennel whilst I go away as obviously I won't be at home to look after them.

He's acting like a spoilt brat. Ignore. You are NOT being unreasonable.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow Fri 28-Feb-14 14:03:46

YANBU if he wanted to take the kids to LEGOLAND then why didn't he?

If he wants to do nice stuff as a family then make him organise half of it and if he won't then carry on doing stuff when he's away.

TheScience Fri 28-Feb-14 14:04:25

YANBU at all!

So he basically expects you to hang around waiting for him while he has weekends away on his own, and then do nice family things together when he's free?

Sounds like you definitely need a weekend away somewhere while he stays at home with the kids too.

SamG76 Fri 28-Feb-14 14:04:26

He actually wants to go to Legoland! That is Unreasonable! I go there myself with the kids, but wild horses wouldn't drag me there off my own back.

chillidoritos Fri 28-Feb-14 14:05:12

What annoys me is that when he does have a weekend at home he never wants to do anything anyway, just watch Sky sports.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow Fri 28-Feb-14 14:05:51

oh and its probably about time you had a nice week-end away at a spa yourself. Your dh can organise something nice for him and the kids that week end too!

Finola1step Fri 28-Feb-14 14:07:16

Good for you. Do not put your life on hold while your DH trots off with his mates. If he moans about missing out, then it's up to him, isn't it?

Finola1step Fri 28-Feb-14 14:08:33

X post. So when he is at home, he's too tired to fully engage in family life?

Priority check needed me thinks.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 28-Feb-14 14:09:17

Yanbu.

Do you ever get any time away op?

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 28-Feb-14 14:10:45

Does he spend any time with the dc? He seems to be living a different life to the rest of you.

JoinYourPlayfellows Fri 28-Feb-14 14:12:46

YANBU

I remember as a small child (4 maybe) I wondered whether other people really existed when I couldn't see them.

Like maybe when I wasn't around they just went into suspended animation until I came back.

Pretty selfish way to think, but I was a child and grew out of it.

What's his excuse?

Inertia Fri 28-Feb-14 14:13:56

If he wants to come then he can sack off the stag weekend!

Does he think you, the children and the dogs go into some kind of suspended animation while he's not there, only springing into life once he's finished playing cricket?

Do the children even know who he is, given he hardly ever seems to spend any time with them?

RiverTam Fri 28-Feb-14 14:13:56

well, on this alone he sounds like a waste of space!

notthegirlnextdoor Fri 28-Feb-14 14:14:07

YABVVVVVU. You should be at home like a good little wife bored and having no fun.

shock

Ergh. Go and have lots of fun. Sod him.

Inertia Fri 28-Feb-14 14:14:17

Ooh spooky cross post Join!

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