we are separated. tomorrow morning was dh's day for minding dd. i had planned to go to a funeral of a family friend. he texts me today to say he has been called in for work training tomorrow but its fine as he will drop her at his mums and she mind her. however, his dad has just come down sick last night with a bug.
i said i was not happy with her going when someone in the house is sick, he said it wont matter because he will be in his bedroom. me and dd have just recovered from being sick, i have no reserves (sleep deprived) and do not want to take the risk of her getting sick again. i have tried to tell him that he needs to tell work he can't do it, but he refuses to put dd first (he has done this exact thing around 3 times in the last 2 months, going into work or training last minute)
he says its his decision as a father and its a very small risk for her to go. i said its a risk not worth taking, and its not the done thing for children to visit a house when someone is sick. she has caught bugs before from this house, as his mum refuses to let us know when someone is sick, so he thinks this is normal - so am i the one with abnormal views or is he? i have said i will not go to the funeral and mind her and would prefer to be sure that she stays well, but he is annoyed because he knows he will 'owe me one' as such and says i am massively overreacting.
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muser31 · 27/02/2014 18:17
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