to challenge a childminder contract?

(62 Posts)
missusmrs Thu 27-Feb-14 16:05:42

We have been with our current CM for 5 months now and there have been various issues that have bothered me but I have never addressed - too much TV, pizza/fishfingers every night, panics over every runny tummy/spot etc - ringing calling me home from work etc.
We started potty training 3.5 weeks ago, we had our 2.9 at home as she was on hols for 2 weeks mid term so we we spent the time potty training and went back dry with no accidents. he has been with her now 1.5 weeks and he has had 2 accidents, both which have lead to a near meltdown on her behalf. Last week he had an accident at soft play and she was furious both with my DS and us wheb we collected. My DS1 (5.5) has since quoted her going on about a waste of money and how naught DS2 is etc. Since then our drop off an dpick conversations have only centred around toilet routine. yesterday he was at he park and had an accident she told my DH on pick up last night. At drop off this am, she has a right go at me wondering why he couldnt 'get it', most kids did at 2, she has never had a kid who had accidents (She 60 and has been a CM all her life). To such an extent I went to work in tears. It has since come to light (DH didnt tell me as he knew it would upset me) but she left DS2 standing in the park in his dirty and wet pants until she was ready to go home with other kids!!!! I just want to go home now pick them up and never go back - an option Im strong considering - where does it leave me in terms of our contract - I think I need to give her 2 months notice ..but I think her actions have invalided it in some way?

starlight1234 Thu 27-Feb-14 20:59:04

shocking behaviour...I am a CM and yes I would say pull them out...

Not only is it neglect but also at the time of toilet training they need lots and lots of praise not to even feel sad about.

My Ds had 2 soiling accidents the first week back at nursery when toilet training... just to reassure you that Ds's is perfectly normal...

Hope you find much better care for your children

Sharaluck Thu 27-Feb-14 21:09:55

This is so sad sad
I hope you find a lovely new cm very soon flowers

NadiaWadia Thu 27-Feb-14 21:22:44

She was 'shocked and upset'??? So she thought you would just accept your DS being treated like this?

TBH it sounds as if she doesn't even like children very much, so goodness knows why she has carried on being a childminder for so many years.

Whathaveiforgottentoday Thu 27-Feb-14 21:34:20

Good on you. Please do report to Ofsted. I removed mine 2 DD's from a childminder and I wish I'd reported her as recently I've heard 3 other parents with similar but much worse complaints about her. I didn't want to report as it felt malicious but I wish I had, hearing what others went through.

MsVestibule Thu 27-Feb-14 21:42:07

Do report her to OFSTED. She'll be advertising for more children soon and will possibly treat them as she has just treated your DC. I realise it's going to be her word against yours, but at least your complaint has been logged.

Rauma Thu 27-Feb-14 21:45:09

Pull the kids out of there and makes sure you leave truthful comments on any local childminders site.

Aeroflotgirl Thu 27-Feb-14 21:49:11

She sounds awful, she should not be a CM, I would remove him straight away, poor boy

Aeroflotgirl Thu 27-Feb-14 21:50:37

Yes report her to OFSTEAD she should nit be working as a CM

Goldmandra Thu 27-Feb-14 21:59:43

If you report her to Ofsted they will either contact her to ask for an account of her actions by phone or it will trigger an inspection.

She will be given an opportunity to explain her version of events and tell the inspector her policies on behaviour management and toilet training.

She will, of course, give a very good account of herself and deny that she would ever neglect/humiliate a child by leaving him in wet/soiled clothing or express anger when a child has an accident. However, it will then be on record and she will have to be careful to make sure nothing gets reported again. That may well mean that the children remaining in her care are treated better in the future.

Aeroflotgirl Thu 27-Feb-14 23:23:40

Mabey this is the wake up call she needs, sounds as though she has become too se in her ways and needs ofstead intervention

AlbertoFrog Thu 27-Feb-14 23:33:34

You're doing the right thing OP

Hugs.

nennypops Thu 27-Feb-14 23:56:49

Cover your back and write to her detailing why you took the children out, stating clearly that she was in breach of contract.

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