to challenge a childminder contract?(62 Posts)
We have been with our current CM for 5 months now and there have been various issues that have bothered me but I have never addressed - too much TV, pizza/fishfingers every night, panics over every runny tummy/spot etc - ringing calling me home from work etc.
We started potty training 3.5 weeks ago, we had our 2.9 at home as she was on hols for 2 weeks mid term so we we spent the time potty training and went back dry with no accidents. he has been with her now 1.5 weeks and he has had 2 accidents, both which have lead to a near meltdown on her behalf. Last week he had an accident at soft play and she was furious both with my DS and us wheb we collected. My DS1 (5.5) has since quoted her going on about a waste of money and how naught DS2 is etc. Since then our drop off an dpick conversations have only centred around toilet routine. yesterday he was at he park and had an accident she told my DH on pick up last night. At drop off this am, she has a right go at me wondering why he couldnt 'get it', most kids did at 2, she has never had a kid who had accidents (She 60 and has been a CM all her life). To such an extent I went to work in tears. It has since come to light (DH didnt tell me as he knew it would upset me) but she left DS2 standing in the park in his dirty and wet pants until she was ready to go home with other kids!!!! I just want to go home now pick them up and never go back - an option Im strong considering - where does it leave me in terms of our contract - I think I need to give her 2 months notice ..but I think her actions have invalided it in some way?
She should have a lot more to worry about than you OP!
This woman would never dare pursue you, as she knows that her gross failings as a CM would come to light.
Get your children out of her care pronto.
Get them out now and report her to OFSTED. Her behaviour and attitude is dreadful.
I'm glad you're getting your kids out of there, OP. Nobody should shout at a child for wetting themselves, especially if they're new to potty training - that's just awful.
Remove your child. Complain to OFSTED and don't give her another penny or another minute of your time. I'm disgusted and furious on your behalf.
Just adding to the chorus of "remove your child" - agree, put it in writing to her why you are removing your child. To her face tell her she's lucky you're not reporting her to OFSTED and if she wants to pursue you for the 2 months notice, she can try.
I'm glad you're dumping this CM, op. I'm full of sympathy for how you feel and think your DH is bang on. Let her try.
I would never take them back. That's appalling - she's supposed to be nurturing and looking after your kids not humiliating them. Fuck the contract, she's in breech for her disgusting behavior.
I can't believe DH didn't tell her to shove it when he was told - it would've taken all my DH's self control not to rip her head off when if he heard that.
There are people out there that look after kids because they love them, not for the money - go find one of those.
Walk away and find another childminder , there are lots of fantastic ones out there .
Get rid immediately. What you know about what this woman has done to your children could be the tip of the iceberg (sorry, not trying to scare you, just being realistic). If you have any doubts about your childcare provider you should trust your instincts and remove your children.
Document every conversation or piece of evidence you have about what's gone on. Sign it and date it (do it on a PC if possible as further evidence of when it was written). If she does end up taking you to court for breach of contract/loss of earnings the most important thing you can have is contemporaneous evidence. It's good that you and your DH are going together to remove them as you will be able to verify each other's versions of events.
Do you know any of the parents whose children are also in her care?
Have you paid her upfront for childcare services?
Does your contract mention anything about her requirement to treat your children with respect (in line with EYFS guidance)?
Really sorry you're in this position, I know how awful it is.
Don't take them back, but make sure you put in writing why you will not be doing so. Inform Ofsted about your concerns as they will be interested in her conduct.
Take him out and make a complaint. That is outrageous.uou should have a copy of her complaints policy which should tell you what to do AND how to contact Ofsted if needed. I am a childminder and I am really upset to read this. She sounds horrible. I would phone her tonight and tell her he won't be going back and why.
Report her now !!!!!!
She should never be allowed to care for children again and it should be recorded as such.
Oh and while you are at it I'd be thinking long and hard at why your DH thought not to inform you about the park incident and why he thought it was ok to continue to send your child there.............................
Never ignore your instincts, take them out and send an email stating the reasons why and that you will not be giving notice.
I agree with all the other posters about removing your children immediately and about reporting her to OFSTED.
I am an ex childminder and get very, very upset about other CMs treating children this way because it give the other lovely, kind, decent CMs such a bad name.
Don't pay her another penny. I also agree that you must put in writing exactly why she can shove her notice period up her arse. If she pursues you for the money via the small claims court, then your letter can be entered as evidence against her claiim. However, only if she was EXTREMELY bloody stupid would she consider small claims court.
Hope your kids are ok.
Oh my goodness! I would be removing them too! DD1 has been at her preschool now since the beginning of January, we all send in changes of clothes for accidents, in fact today I was in early and greeted by a little girl saying 'I've wee'd my pants'! It's so normal for accidents to happen, and creating anxiety around it only makes it worse.
You're doing the right thing xxx
Put what you have described in writing to her and say that you consider her to have breached the contract by not providing adequate care for your child, therefore you are withdrawing both children with immediate effect.
She sounds horrible. She probably should have stopped childminding years ago before she became so jaded.
I hope you're ok op
You've done the right thing to remove. A few years ago when my son was about the same age as yours we had a very similar incident, except in our case the cm smacked our son and put a nappy on him - she said he was wetting himself on purpose. He had a visible bruise on his bottom where she had smacked him and it was my son who told me she had done that.
I reported her to ofsted and they investigated, at their leisure! And subsequently came back to me to say they could find nothing wrong with her or her setting nor any evidence that the incident happened so did not pursue it further, nor did they put a 'report' or whatever it is on her registration. I was made to feel like the one at fault..
I didn't pay her notice obviously!
And as a pp mentioned, it was slightly a tip of the iceberg as after that other things came out re her being horrid with ds, friend witnessed her shouting at him and him in tears etc.
so moral of the story is you have done the right thing but don't get your hopes up that ofsted will do anything. I also made sure I told the other parents about what happened but 2 of them chose not to believe me!
I hope you find someone better next time.
Surely within your contract there is a duty of care to your child ro provide a safe and healthy atmosphere. She has failed to do so by leaving him in dirty clothes and quite possibly the reason behind his accidents is anxiety caused by her. I should add the advice I got from the health visitor was to start introducing the potty at around 2years ish
It may be a good idea to talk to your HV - they may be able to help with a complaint to OFSTED.
I'd imagine somewhere in the contract it mentions safe care, or along the lines of looked after well etc which she has broken so you wouldn't be the first one to break it.
So glad you have taken them out - you poor things!!
My childminder is fab - my 3.5 year old DS is having a period of accidents. Last time it happened with her she not only changed him but also washed and tumble dries his trousers as she knows I don't have a drier!!
There are truly fab ones out there - it's just finding them!!
Thanks everyone for the input it has been a great morale boost to log on and read. It has been hugely upsetting for us all but we went round and collected them and told her they're not coming back. She was shocked and upset. We didn't engage on any issues/reason just said we would send it all in writing. As much as I hate confrontation and upset when I think of my little one standing in a wet dirty pants in the park I'm furious. Last week after his first accident at soft play she was very angry, as we walked home I asked him if she had been angry, he said yes, DS1 said 'furious' I asked DS 2 if he had cried and he said 'No..just sad'...deal breaker.
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