to not wake up to let DH in

(53 Posts)
megamuffin Wed 26-Feb-14 23:24:17

Have name changed as I'm sure he snoops on here and this will certainly out me.

DH has gone on a works day out today. Just before he left at 7 this morning, he woke me and 8 month old ds (we were co sleeping) to ask where the spare key was as he didn't know what time he would be back and he wanted to let himself in. I had no idea so he left without it.

I just texted him asking if he knew when he would be home and he rang back with this reply:

"Some people are leaving at half 11 so IF I get a lift with them I'll be home for half 12 ish. If not then I dont know"

Was I unreasonable to say if he didn't get a lift with the half 11 people then he wouldn't be getting into this house as I will be asleep?! His reply to that was "fine! I'll sleep at someones then come home at half 6 in the morning to get ready for work!". Again, was I unreasonable to say no, I'll be asleep then too!? Should I get up for him? The works day out finished hours ago, they're now just out on the piss.

nevergoogle Wed 26-Feb-14 23:25:52

why doesn't he have his own key?

NinjaBunny Wed 26-Feb-14 23:27:24

Surely he has his own set of keys?

confused

Pinkandwhite Wed 26-Feb-14 23:28:08

No I don't think ybu. If it was me I would just hide a front doorkey somewhere outside though. I've had to do that for DH before now...

megamuffin Wed 26-Feb-14 23:28:17

Yes he does have his own key but couldn't find it so left without it.

NinjaBunny Wed 26-Feb-14 23:31:13

Then, no.

Go to bed.

smile

megamuffin Wed 26-Feb-14 23:31:29

Pinkandwhite good idea. We do have a plant pot on the front door step so could bury the key. The deeper the better! I'd stay up just to see him dig it out!

LyndaCartersBigPants Wed 26-Feb-14 23:47:17

I get the rage when I'm woken in the mornings! Two in a row because he couldn't find his key...? angry

Turn your phone off, put ear plugs in and zzzz peacefully through it!

Jolleigh Wed 26-Feb-14 23:53:42

Where's the give and take? He couldn't find his key - it's not a criminal offence.

If it was the other way around and you were posting saying you'd lost your key and your DP refuses to get up for 2 minutes to let you in your own house people would be saying yanbu because it's such a tiny thing to ask.

BritishGal Wed 26-Feb-14 23:58:59

Leave the key out. If he can get in without waking you than YABU. If he makes any noise then YANBU. Mind you can't remember the last time I actually wanted to quite tempted to go out on the piss myself! Could be out of practice smile

mymiraclebubba Wed 26-Feb-14 23:59:46

Leave a key under the doormat or other suitable place and leave a blanket on the sofa

VelvetDuvet Thu 27-Feb-14 00:00:52

Sod that! It's not a tiny thing to ask and if it were the other way round and the OP had sent that stroppy text I'd be telling her she was BU.

His choice to stay out knowing he has no key. If I forgot my key I'd make sure I was home at a reasonable hour, especially if my partner was looking after an 8 month old.

FlippingWhatsername Thu 27-Feb-14 00:01:03

If you are going to sleep and leave him locked out, don't shout at him if he breaks a window to get in, just be thankful he didn't climb the house and get killed or something.

YABABU

Jolleigh Thu 27-Feb-14 00:19:23

Is that really how unforgiving and uncompromising people are nowadays? ?

Goblinchild Thu 27-Feb-14 00:22:10

He ought to kip on some's sofa and go to work from their house.
But really, he doesn't know where his own front door key is? confused
Does he not havea key ring?

BrianTheMole Thu 27-Feb-14 00:26:42

He needs to make sure he has his key with him, not feck off without it without sorting out a plan. I would be fecked off with waiting up for him or having to get up extra early. But i may leave a key in a plant pot to avoid that. Yanbu op.

Lottiedoubtie Thu 27-Feb-14 00:28:57

Leave a Key hidden outside and text him where it is unless you live in the burglary capital of the world.

Yabu unless this is the latest in a long line of inconsiderate twattery.

Anonymai Thu 27-Feb-14 02:14:22

If it's a one off, poor guy.

If it's every week, not poor guy.

VeryStressedMum Thu 27-Feb-14 02:22:06

I would at least get up at 6.30am to let him in to get ready for work, it's not that early.

Childrenofthestones Thu 27-Feb-14 02:27:54

OP, Just as a matter of interest. How would you feel about him locking you out of the house?

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 27-Feb-14 02:59:43

You can't get up for two minutes to let him in the house?
Presuming this doesn't happen every other night I think you're being unreasonable.

GingerBlondecat Thu 27-Feb-14 03:11:31

lol Is he the one that keep loosing his keys and taking yours ?

SelectAUserName Thu 27-Feb-14 03:29:12

From the information given here, and presuming no bigger backstory - you both sound as unreasonable as each other.

Just hide a key for him. I don't get the problem.

MistressDeeCee Thu 27-Feb-14 04:40:42

This seems so churlish.

Unless its a regular occurence then just get up and open the door for your DH.

As for "you won't be getting into this house"hmm well, only you know why you want to encourage him to sleep elsewhere. You're his DW not his mother chastising him for staying out late. Just open the door, its not worth the hassle/argument. How would you like it if he did that to you, btw?

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