to be perfectly happy in my own company?

(267 Posts)
Stinklebell Mon 24-Feb-14 15:31:43

because apparently it's "weird"

I'm not madly extrovert, not a hermit either, but I am perfectly happy pottering around by myself.

I work part time from home, and I've just had a very nice couple of hours with Sky+ and my ironing pile

DH is the opposite, loves company, always organising get togethers and nights out - even stuff like a Saturday night takeaway turns into a mad social gathering and sometimes I just find it a bit too much.

My DH went away with our kids a couple of weeks ago, and a friend was all "oh, you can't stay home on your own, I'll be over Friday with some wine, we'll go shopping Saturday then we'll go out Saturday night". It was lovely of her, but she didn't quite get that actually, I am just fine tootling around alone. I like mooching around the shops on my own, I like chilling out with a film or something on my own. I don't want to stand outside the school gates for an hour every morning chatting, or go somewhere for coffee or meet up for lunch every day

I don't mind friends over, I don't mind meeting friends for a coffee, I just don't want to do it all the time. I like my own space, I like my own company, I'm not bored or lonely, I just don't want to be surrounded by people all the time.

It's not unreasonable, right?

Jjou Mon 24-Feb-14 15:42:09

It's definitely not. I love the peace and quiet of 'me time': my DH and DC are so full-on and loud. I like pootling around, daydreaming, reading, maybe a bit of crochet and tv that I want to watch...bliss! The time just to get lost in my head is invaluable.

ahlahktuhflomp Mon 24-Feb-14 15:42:13

Of course YANBU, I'm the same

flumposie Mon 24-Feb-14 15:45:02

Me too!

Yanbu being alone is my first choice.

Stinklebell Mon 24-Feb-14 15:49:17

Thanks!

It seems to be such a big problem for everyone else, maybe I am the odd one grin

A friend called earlier and asked if I wanted to meet for a coffee before we did the school pick up - it's Monday, the kids have just gone back after half term and I was really looking forward to a quiet afternoon with Midsomer Murders blush so I said thanks, but no.

She thinks I'm depressed.

woodmouse2 Mon 24-Feb-14 15:49:41

And me! We're not all extroverts, though it may sometimes seem like those who shout the loudest are bound to 'win'. In their own eyes, anyway!

SnowyMouse Mon 24-Feb-14 15:50:52

YANBU, I feel the same.

Jinty64 Mon 24-Feb-14 15:51:24

YANBU. I am completely happy with my own company.

sonlypuppyfat Mon 24-Feb-14 15:51:26

I love my own company. Nothing wrong with you at all.

UptoapointLordCopper Mon 24-Feb-14 15:52:55

YANBU! I crave my own company. grin

Mouthfulofquiz Mon 24-Feb-14 15:53:28

I can totally see where you're coming from so YANBU.
I don't need to see people all the time and I'm happy at home doing things when I'm not at work. I have friends who NEED to see people all the time so we've had to work out a balance!

Lotkinsgonecurly Mon 24-Feb-14 15:55:12

I'm a bit of an extrovert but love my own company!!! Bliss

me too. there is nothing better than a day that I can do the school run and just do whatever it is I feel like doing then. I am happiest when in the kitchen with music on trying out recipes or watching criminal minds grin. these two do not involve company. I think some people just don't need it as much

sillymillyb Mon 24-Feb-14 15:57:16

I love to be alone too, it's great grin

Tiredtomybones Mon 24-Feb-14 15:59:04

YANBU. Op, I could have written your post. I'm exactly the same.

SlitheryAnne Mon 24-Feb-14 15:59:35

I love being alone. It's heaven!

Stinklebell Mon 24-Feb-14 15:59:52

Well, if I'm weird, we're all weird together - hurrah grin

My neighbour is always hassling to meet up and walk our dogs together "for the company". I actually really like going off over the fields on my own, I sometimes take my camera, I can get lost in my daydreams and not have to make small talk.

Friday night alone with a film and a glass of wine is bliss - I can watch Rock of Ages again and lust over Tom Cruise without people rolling their eyes and making sarcastic comments blush

I do like company, but I like my own more

SwedishEdith Mon 24-Feb-14 16:05:58

"oh, you can't stay home on your own, I'll be over Friday with some wine, we'll go shopping Saturday then we'll go out Saturday night". Aaaargh! It's the Shirley Valentine thing isn't it?

I love being on my own and struggle a bit during the school holidays - always looking for somewhere in the house to hide away

LimitedEditionLady Mon 24-Feb-14 16:15:43

My dp says im weird because Im like this.I kind of think people who seem almost afraid of spending time alone with their own thoughts are a bit weird....

Dollslikeyouandme Mon 24-Feb-14 16:18:32

Yanbu, I like my own company. It would probably take me a few days before I got bored or lonely.

I find time alone allows me to recharge.

I think you do have to be careful not to be too selfish with your time though and make time for friends and family.

RamblingRosieLee Mon 24-Feb-14 16:18:50

I think being able to enjoy your own company is vital for healthy mental health.

shame as a society we dont err towards this

NeonMuffin Mon 24-Feb-14 16:20:13

I like my own company as well. It's not that I dislike people or company, but I class myself as an introvert and I need alone time to recharge my batteries. Too much socialising actually makes me feel drained and tired.

Why do extroverts assume that everyone has to be like them?

TheWanderingUterus Mon 24-Feb-14 16:30:48

Love being on my own, it's a real treat.

It's not boring or lonely and I am not shy or antisocial. I have plenty of interaction with others, just mostly on my terms and not theirs.

CrepeFoofette Mon 24-Feb-14 16:45:27

I'm exactly the same. Natural introvert and prefer being alone - I do worry that people think I'm weird though! confused

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